Question for girls about losing virginity?

[Anonymous]

To be blunt, I have never stuck anything inside my lady bits, including tampons or fingers. I'm afraid that if anything escalates between me and my boyfriend this year, it's going to be excruciatingly painful and probably embarrassing. I just don't have much of a sex drive and don't have really any interest in losing my virginity in the first place, but I feel like it's something I'm going to have to do if I ever want to keep a serious long-term relationship. Any advice?

[apismelifera]

If you're really just not into sex, you might consider the possibility that you could be asexual. It doesn't preclude the desire for a close, intimate romantic relationship--it just means you're not interested in sex. It may make it harder to find a partner for a long term relationship, which sucks. It would certainly mean a lot of communication and compromise between you and your partner, if your partner were not also asexual.

That said, if you're willing to give sex a shot despite your lack of interest in it, you should check out a site called Scarleteen. They offer lots of good, sound advice without misinformation--including advice on having sex for the first time, a checklist to help you decide if you're ready to have sex, and exploration of various orientations including asexuality. They aren't judgmental, and the only agenda they're pushing is good sex education. Basically, it's a great resource for anybody, but especially for those less experienced with sex and their own bodies.

[inedible_strawberry]

Don't. Not until you're really comfortable. You know? You only lose it once. And there's no guarantee you'll be okay remembering him for the rest of your life. Don't be me. Make sure you're 100% ready.

That's my opinion. [=

[Datnotit1]

Why would you remember your first for the rest of your life? Just curious I'm a virgin so I don't really know what it feels like. If it's painful as people say it is... why would you remember your first... and consider it special?

[Anonymous]

Don't do it until you are ready to. Don't have sex to keep a man.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to: don't, if he tries to force you than he ddoesn't deserve you, its your body, I would suggest some masturbation though, you can loosen your hymen and make it less painful when you finally do have sex, and it will also help reduce cramps during your period

[Peter0]

Google "asexual." Be up front with potential partners. Be patient. And feel free to play with yourself! No reason you can't start putting fingers in there.

[Peter0]

Well, do you ever masturbate?

[ArieWild17]

Don't do it if your not sure about it your just gonna regret it.