Why do girls think guys are gross for mastrubating?

[Anonymous]

Im a guy and i have gf, we are both young, under 20. well we haven't had sex and thats fine by me, i can wait as long as it takes, i really lover her. She says its ok for me to masturbate, butt she doesn't like if i use p*rn, i have been using less because i understand she thinks i want to see other naked women, which isn't really y i watch, that butt i wanna make her happy so i will try to stop. The reason im here is because, when she went way for a week to visit family, i was really lonely and i started to masturbating very often, when i told her what i did, which was so stupid I don't know i feel open to tell her anything, we are really close and i feel she is best friend, she said that i was really gross for doing something like that and she didn't want to talk with me that day. the next day we didn't talk much about it butt she said something like do u expect me to have sex 5x in a day, i said no and sex and mast. are very different, and also if i could actually do it it would be kind of awesome hahah. butt still i really hated when could me gross, she also says she doesn't like the idea of giving oral sex (we haven't done any sexual act, only make out) she was it feels disrespectful , i believe her butt i always wonder if she think im gross. I hope someone can help me, im afraid of asking this to my gf cuz she doesn't like to talk about sex often and im afraid she says yes- sorry for my bad English :P

[xxdarkrosexx]

How long have you guys been dating? Your girlfriend and I have different views on masturbating. I think it's natural for a guy to have the urge to masturbate (even animals do it). It's just another bodily function as I see it. I'd prefer my boyfriend to masturbate than go sleep with other girls behind my back. I'm a girl and I don't think guys who masturbate are gross. Don't let her make you feel bad for what you can't control.

[Asker]

thank you butt i think it was more cuz i did it 5 times, in a day, usually she doesn't seem to mind if i do it

[xxdarkrosexx]

Okay. I know you care about this girl a lot and you value you her opinion... but don't forget about yourself at the end of the day. Do what makes you happy. Best of luck on everything.

[xxdarkrosexx]

*and you value her opinion

[Asker]

thank u so much, i will explain to her how i feel and how much her opinion means to me

[DollFace565]

She sounds immature. You're both young. Masturbation is normal and healthy in a relationship whether it has sex involved or not. If she thinks you're gross and doesn't want to talk to you because you masturbate then she should just stop talking to all guys.

[Anonymous]

" under 20. well we haven't had sex and thats fine by me, i can wait as long as it takes, i really lover her."

God bless your soul, the world needs more men with your mindset. Personally, I don't think masturbation is gross but a normal process. Your girlfriend could feel insecure about the adult actresses, but I think she is being a little unreasonable. I mean... it's your penis at the end of the day so why should someone else be the boss of it? Try to reason with her.

[Asker]

my question was more about my gf thinks im gross, and me feeling shame. i dont usaly feel shameful for mast. butt coming from my gf hurts a bit, it means a lot to me how she sees me