Can you cuddle without getting horny-- if not do you avoid cuddling in new relationships before sex is involved?

[Anonymous]

And if you can cuddle without getting horny , how long can you do so for? Minutes or hours?

[Anonymous]

If I'm cuddling with the girl for the first time I'm going to get hard. Can't help it. I try not too, but it happens anyways... If I've cuddled with her a couple of times already then I probably would've gotten used to it and not get hard. But when I'm cuddling with a girl for the first time I tend to close my eyes and think of fat hairy bucktooth redneck hick of a woman and that gets my dick soft real quick. I remember when I was 13-14 years old just holding a girls hand would get me hard because I just started dating and holding hands with a girl was the most intimate and physical I've ever gotten with a girl... Then by the time I was 15... holding hands did nothing for me... but cuddling almost always does something to me the first time I'm doing it with a girl.

[why_not_anonymous]

Yeah, if you're not getting any sex cuddling is like being a starving wolf and smelling a delicious steak, but then convincing yourself that you shouldn't eat it.

It's a lot easier if you just avoid being in smelling distance of the steak.

Of course cuddling is just code for 'I want to tease you mercilessly, but be able to deny it' or 'have sex later', except when it's not - and then you're either a rapist or blue-balling it. See snugglefuck and quickmeme. com/meme/3us9vo

Cuddling is fun, but better after sex or with a girlfriend (who's fucking you on the regular).

[Asker]

yeah but the poblemwith tihsis 'cuddling' is art f how you get physically comfortabnle being intimate with your partner whicha lot of people need BEFOREhaving sx. id never be able to have sex with a guy if he only started touching me directly before sex. I've never had sex and if there was not a long period of time of physical affection without intercourse id never GET to the point of being ready. it takes building up trust and comfortability and that does not happen from avoiding contact. its not like you're ready to have sex just bc you waited. you get ready by getting used to things little by little. itd be LIKE if you had difficulty opening up then emotionally then that person ignores you for 7 months, instead of gradually opening up in that time. or being able to swim by NOT going in the water. or learning to talk by being silent.. instead of working up to it.

[Asker]

how is a person supposed to be comfortable having sex with you in the first place if there's no time to get used to you physically?

[why_not_anonymous]

So for you cuddling is foreplay?

[Asker]

no. fore play is foreplay. and involves sexual activity. physical contact isn't play to me, its how i get acquainted. im not talking about the day we have sex. im talking about the e rlationship. physical contact is how i get comfortable with a person, and sex is not simply physical contact, its sex. and i am not immediately ready to have sex. i have to be comfortable first. comfortable = physical contact. so thers no way around it for me. if i was with a guy who couild not touch me until he was sure sex was going to happen right after i would not be i that relationship. its just impossible. physical contact is more important than talking to me. its how i get to know a person and i dont have sex before i know them.

[why_not_anonymous]

This is quite enlightening. :) But yeah, is physical contact only cuddling for you?

[Execu]

It's pretty "hard" not to unless it's been a while like the other guy said.
Could do it for hours haha.

[Asker]

. does it hurt after a while? 'blue balls'?

[Execu]

Not really, it's annoying when it goes away and then it's like BUT WAIT, there's MORE! and then the blood flow rushing back sucks.

[Asker]

;)))

[Execu]

haha =p

[Prilee1992]

Could be, when i'm feeling so tired i just wanna smell her hair and get me into better dream

[Asker]

does that mean unless you're totally exhausted you can't cuddle without wanting sex?

[godfatherfan]

If I cuddle with a woman I am going to be hard. That doesn't mean we HAVE to have sex. But all guys, if they care about the woman and haven't just had sex, are going to get horny and hard. We have our woman in our arms, we can smell her hair, feel her against us... how can a guy resist that? But as I said, that doesn't mean you have to have sex. just be clear about it before you start that it isn't happening.

[Levin]

I can't cuddle without getting an erection. Sometimes I can't even be in a certain radius of a woman without getting an erection. My body, just does its thing. Just because I get aroused, it doesn't mean I have to have sex though.

[robertraff]

No but I still cuddle but i don't try anything

[robertraff]

I mean sex I don't try it

[Asker]

how long can you stand it for? does it hurt after a while? 'blue balls'?

[robertraff]

I went six months cuddling with out sex. B4 getting blue balls

[Asker]

lol ;-))

[Strider90]

Impossible. Im always getting aroused.

[nickstaa]

It's hard not too. Definitely not if it's from behin-d and her ass is pushed up.

[Learningman]

I have not cuddle much, but i remember i really liked it with my gf at the time.. the one i had, sex was not always involved.

[Anonymous]

Unless we have been together a very long time, it makes me very horny to cuddle with her. I don't avoid it, as in most relationships, things seem to move pretty fast or not at all.

[Asker]

regrdless of how fast, . do you wait to cuddle until you guys are already fucking?

[Opinion Owner]

I cuddle before having sex. It is a part of getting comfortable with the other person, but it does turn me on.

[Asker]

how long does it take to tun you on and how long after that can you stand it before you need to go do something else, or cum?

[Opinion Owner]

It depends on different factors, as to how long it takes me to get turned on. I don't NEED to go do something else or cum, just from cuddling, but I get the desire to do so, as soon as I get turned on.

[Opinion Owner]

I have never suffered from blue balls, if that is what you are talking about. I think it doesn't effect every guy. Some guys swear it is real, and hurts bad, but some guys claim blue ball don't exist. I think it depends on the guy.

[Asker]

ok thank you ::)