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Girls only: Showing my girlfriend my penis for the first time? Help?

Ok, so I've been going out with this girl for about a year and we are planning on playing the "I'll show you mine if you show me yours game" when I go to her house tonight. Parents will be home but upstairs and we'll be in the basement. We are both 20 and in college. The thing is, I've never shown anybody my penis before! I'm 5'10 and 6 inches (when erect). I'm very nervous about showing anybody for the first time, especially my girlfriend. At the same time though I'm excited to see her downstairs hehe but that's besides the point. The question is, for anybody (girls) who's ever been in this situation, what goes through your head and how would you react seeing your boyfriends penis for the first time? Mine is pretty thick and veiny, don't know if that's normal, and it tilts downward and to the left when erect. Will she think this is weird? Also, from the moment I show her, what do you think will happen next? Will she want to feel it? And what about my sack? So many questions as you can see, so please girls, answer in FULL PARAGRAPHS, and NOT in single sentence responses. I want to get into a discussion with a girl who's been here before.
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  • You should be worried because we notice detail.
    When erect you must be at a 90 degree angle.
    You must have some veins but not too many veins.
    Your balls must be symmetrical.

    (end the sarcastic font) roflmao. Well at least I crack myself up.
    In all seriousness, don't worry about it. The more confident you are the more confident and comfortable she'll feel. It's not that big of a deal... everyone has a penis or vagina. She's with you because she cares about you. This is going to change any of that, if anything she'll probably like it and be self conscious about herself the whole time.

    Who knows what she'll want to do... guess you'll find out.

    • I literally read the top paragraph and checked my penis and balls and was like oh shit XD haha good joke though you got me That sounds about true though, and good advice! I was thinking the same about her being self conscious as well. I'm just really nervous as well because nobody has ever seen it, and it's my girlfriend to bat! But hopefully she likes what I'm packing down there ;) and I'd love it if we just felt each other up the rest of the night haha So just wondering now, once both of our privates are out in the open, then what? Should I feel hers or what do we do? As a women, what would you like you boyfriend to do?

    • "the balls must be symmetrical" best part right there lol

    • Haha true that! :P but balls aren't completely round, they are like grapes, at least mine are :/ maybe she will dump me for that haha us guys notice detail about girls too!

  • To be honest, I love penis and seeing it for the first time is a huge turn on. in my opinion if I was playing this game, I would definitely want to play with it :)

    I think she will be more worried about you seeing her than seeing you :P

    She probably is thinking the same things you are "Is my vagina too this or too that?" , "Will he think my Vagina is gross?", like seriously, she will be worried too. So don't feel bad and try not to be too nervous.

    Try to be as comfortable as possible and make sure the parents don't walk in on you two :P

    • That makes me feel a lot better but at the same time I'll kind of feel bad if she's self conscious about herself. I admire the female anatomy and I don't think vaginas can look bad at all! But hopefully I can assure her she's beautiful :) And yes that would suck if the parents walked in 0_o oh that would be the worst day of my life

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  • To be honest I was more worried about him seeing me than me seeing him so what ever is running through ur head is running through hers too. The guy I was with was actually very confident with himself so since he made it out like no big deal, it all felt like no big deal :P

    • I don't know what girls have to be scared about with their privates, because us guys will like them either way! But for us we have to worry about size and how it looks when erect, at least for me. Are girls also interested in seeing the ballsack? I was just going to poke mine through the hole of my boxers and that was it but I'm not sure if girls are even interested. From a girls point of view, what do you think? Do you girls like it? What what do you guys like about it?

    • I hate girls give that impression, I want to influence all girls to love whatever he has because it him. So I personally love all penises and balls because its who those men and they are perfect the way they are. Im sure your girl will love whatever you have because is you and she will appreciate you sharing yourself, such a vulerable part of yourself, with her :)

    • TYPOS!! Damn it! I promise to get better at this people!!! Hahahah

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  • Well when I first saw my bf dick (as I like to call it) I thought it was cute with the way it look sitting there erect and hard and throbbing a bit and I giggled a bit an teased him a bit about it what I think will Is she shows you hers the possibly she might go further but probably not and the ball sack I tend to avoid cause it's just weird

  • Those body parts are not really attractive to look at.. but when you're sleeping with someone you're aroused so you go with it, but no one says oh wow that's a pretty ______. you know? So dont worry about it. It's been a year, she loves you, just go for it. I mean if she leaves you cause of that then she's an idiot.

    • Yeah I see what you mean. I'm different though because I LOVE the female anatomy (yes I'm a huge perv :/) but no I see what you mean. And I'll try that, just going with it. I guess I'll have to play it by ear!

    • Maybe men are wired to be more curious and into that stuff but for girls a man's body part isn't as attractive as say his chest or arms or whatever. its not pretty to look at it just feels good if ya know what i mean. also she should be aware its smaller than when erect its not like she has a ruler either. just chill..

  • Dating a year at your age and you haven't seen each other naked? That's so sweet! Obviously she's with you for you, not sex & what not. As long as your member works, she'll think it's fine. I honestly never look at balls, and when I see their dick i notice if it's circumcised or not. But that's really all I see, along with if he's trimmed, bare, or full with hair.
    Don't stress too much about it. Have fun!

    • Yep! We are taking it really slow! We are both each others first and don't want to mess anything up. She's never seen a penis in front of her and I've never seen a vagina in front of me! And that's what I was thinking too! I've never been with a woman like her and we both love each other very much, that's why I want this to go well :D from a woman's standpoint, how do you like hair on a penis?

    • I prefer it trimmed. Bare on a guy seems weird, but too long of hairs shed and make oral/sex a pain

    • True that, I've never had oral sex but I can only imagine the frustration of women that have to deal with that. I cut it as short as I can with siscors but not too short, shaving it all off is such a pain, worse with guys becasue our member is constantly rubbing against it 0_o

  • It's going to be a little ackward or her. Like she'll be into it but it'll kinda be different than what she imagined. She will think it's making eye contact with her (and it is ). But honestly seeing a significant others privates is always a new and exciting and slightly nerve wracking experience so don't stress and just have fun

    • Very much looking forward to it now! And haha my penis never looses at staring contests :P Jk but I don't want her to feel uncomfortable at all, hopefully all goes well! Random question though, once we've shown each other our privates, then what? Do we touch them? What do you think she will do?

    • We'll honestly just see where it takes things. Like she may be kinda shy so that may be enough for her. Also your at her parents house you don't want to get too into it. Or she may just want to jump in and do the deed. I she does want to do it and she's a virgin, or even if she isn't I highly suggest watching a video by luci green called like popping cherries. Ever guy should watch it it ex

    • It explain a lot of stop health class doesn't go over, I showed my ex boyfriend and he was 21 and he said he didn't know half the stuff she was talking about

  • We were in the 8th grade and very horny. She was swimming in my pool

  • It depends on how much she likes you. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and we have been having sex without a condom, because I love him, whenever we are having sex, I would constantly tell him that I think it’s so sexy and I love that I get to see his penis bare, without a condom on. Just coz it’s really cute and sexy and I love seeing it without a condom.

  • First thing first u need to calm down and not get nervous because she pobably is too and if y'all both nervous I don't know what could happen but to help u out just relax and play with each other i bet she will want to touch it or lick ;) and she would want u to lick her "downstairs" also! Touch her tits kiss her inner thighs and watever happens after just let it happen

    • Reading these comments is sort of calming me down and it's nice to hear all of the girls responses! I'm actually looking forward to it now! And girls like to lick there? Now that would be a day I'd never forget :P and don't worry I wouldn't hesitate to lick back! This raises a question though, how do girls like their tits to be played with? Or licked?

  • I'd say just be brave and do it, she is probably just as nervous as you are - especially if you are the first on to see her. if you have been dating fora year then you obviously care for each other. You are a fine size, and to be honest I like the thick and veiny. Just remember, you can't change the way you were born, be confident with yourself and make her feel comfortable. If it was me, I would want to touch you and put you in my mouth (I don't know, I feel as if i get to feel the penis better when it is in my mouth, and it is wayyyyy more intimate) Good Luck!

    • And that my friend is why you will have a boyfriend in no time flat :P hehe Jk dirty joke! But after reading these comments it seems that all will be well! Glad to see what you girls are saying! And ok good I thought there was something wrong with my penis. It is unbelievable thick to where it points downwards even when erect, and veins literally bulge out 0_o but nice to know its attractive! And oh believe me i would not mind at all if my penis went in somebodies mouth haha that's not wrong at all! I would feel I get to know the vagina better if I put my tongue in there! So were on the same page! And I would in fact make her feel comfortable!

  • "I'll show you mine if you show me yours game" B r a h, you're 20 and you're still playing these games?
    Dick will never look good so don't even worry about it lol. What will happen next depends on you. Will you initiate something? Will she? Will BOTH of you consent? Yada yada. Have fun.

  • When my boyfriend first showed me this penis he was really shy (i wanted to see it) but i thought his penis was really cute because it's a part of him and i love him with all his organs :D i touched it and gave him a hand job but i didn't show him my vagina because i got shy and insecure too.. Maybe if she turns on by the view you might even have sex but it can be awkward as you're parents home too

    • Awww haha well we aren't looking to have sex, just play the ill show you mine you show me yours game. What about boobs? Would girls rather show their boobs than their downstairs?

  • You're not small at all, decent size. And being thick is a good thing. There's attractive penises, okay looking ones, and ugly ones... most fall in the first two categories so there's nothing to worry about. And even if you had an ugly 4 inch dick, if she loved you it won't matter. Plus she's probably a bit nervous about you seeing her. I think the whole ordeal would be less awkward if you two just took a shower together. That way you'll see each other but it won't be some awkward flashing session. It can be romantic, too. Seeing each others bodies will break some barriers. In a good way.

    • Oohhhh taking a shower with my girlfriend. Is like one of the biggest fantasies I've ever had! I would die of excitement if it were to actually happen! Ok, so before I get over excited haha what should I do? How should I ask?

    • You could ask her ahead of time if she wants to do that like you already planned this out, or you could just wait til its time, and when you're making out and stuff just be like "come get in the shower with me. " or a bath. Both would be good. :) trust me she'll like it

    • I like the second way better, "come get in the bath with me" oohh that'd be such an awesome day hehe if we actually did get that far, do you have any advice? How should we undress? Should I undress her and vice versa? Or what? And I've always wondered, what goes on in the bathtub?

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  • Relax!
    Just go with the flow. Yes, there will probably be intimate touching. Bodies are nothing to be ashamed of. She obviously very much likes you and wants to be intimate. She probably won't have any complaints.

    • Thanks for the advice :) I'm just one of those guys that has to know what's going to happen but I guess that's not what it's about lol I'm excited to see her too! :D so like what would she do to it? Poke it? And do you think she'd let me do it to her?

    • Sure, she'll likely touch you. It's okay to let her know that you're nervous too! It might uncharted territory for both of you. Just do what's comfortable

    • Sounds good :P and that'd be odd yet so awesome at the same time! Can't wait hehe and I'll be sure to take it slow with her! I'll let her know my feelings and maybe well even laugh at it :D thanks for the advice!

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