Is it bad if my boyfriend watches p*rn and looks/ checks out girls?

[Anonymous]

I'm 15 and so is my boyfriend. And he watches p*rn a lot and looks at girls. Is it bad that he does that? And is it bad that when he does do that I get depressed and hate myself because I feel like he would rather be with those girls, or wishes I looked like that, or that he likes the person, or that I'm just not good enough? I mean I'm not that skinny. I don't have the biggest boobs or butt. I have fluffy/ wavy hair. And when he does that it makes me feel like poop. Is that bad? :'( please help me. I don't like feeling like this...

[xHoneyxBeex]

A LOT of guys (and girls) watch p*rn. This is not "bad," it's just what some people do in order to help them masturbate. It's very normal. The important thing to know is, this does NOT mean he finds you any less attractive or doesn't want to be with you. Obviously if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't. And similarly, if he looks or "checks out" another girl, it doesn't mean he prefers her over you. That's just a natural thing that people do. Being in a relationship doesn't suddenly make someone stop finding other people attractive.

None of that should make you feel bad or like you're "not good enough." Clearly he likes you just the way you are and that's why he is with you. Stop attaching your self-worth to his actions. None of this reflects his views or feelings for you. It's just natural things that many human beings do, even those in relationships. Don't be so hard on yourself. Try to stop being insecure. Get some confidence hun! I'm sure you're a beautiful girl, don't let some stupid p*rn and random glances at other women break you. Just keep being yourself, obviously that's what drew him to you in the first place:)

[SleepyChan]

Men are stupid at that age. If you don't like what he is doing, tell him it hurts you. If he doesn't care then he isn't worth it and drop him. Plus, those women are fake and have so much make-up on, you wouldn't recognize them if they were on the streets.

[bumblebritches5]

Flagged for sexist remarks.

[SleepyChan]

Do I care? I'm only speaking the truth and I will continue to do so. You can flag me all day.

[Paulbunon]

I am sorry to hear that your boyfriend is giving your self-esteem problems this being said all guys look at girls it's completely natural I do it , my dad doesn't too my dad has been married for 20 some years he still looks at other women it doesn't mean he doesn't love my stepmom it doesn't mean anything like that it's just a natural reaction for gay. I have trained myself not to do it as much when I was with a woman but it's still hard not to do it

[TheOneAndOnlyBart]

That's normal for a 15 years old guy to do. At your age you two probably don't have sex yet, and as long as you don't have sex with him his hand will be the only thing available to him. Some guys have trouble getting off to imagination so they use p*rn for stimulation. If you prefer he'd not wank to p*rn stars, maybe you could suggest he can masturbate to you.

[why_not_anonymous]

Depends on the guy. Some guys like looking, but eat at home.

[martyfellow]

This is totally NORMAL at your ages. Lighten up on this behavior. There 'd be something wrong with him if he wasn't checking out attractive girls.

[martyfellow]

Butnporn is a different issue. Tell him that's not healthy and girls will avoid him!

[Anonymous]

He's literally a little boy... That's what they do and there is nothing you can do. It has nothing to do with you or not being attracted to you. It's just pure hormones.