Question about micro penis - I'm serious - should you warn someone?

[Anonymous]

Do you think a guy with a micro penis owes it to girls to tell/warn them he has one? My ex bf didn't warn me, and 3 months in I stuck my hand down his pants and couldn't find it! I finally found it but didn't even know what it was! So I pulled on it a few times and he came in his pants! I didn't know wtf was going on!!! I was so confused! After that we never talked about it, he acted like there was nothing wrong and I was so confused I acted like it to. We broke up because I was so upset over it. Couldn't tell the poor guy that was why either :( Before you go judging me google it! his penis literally never grew from the size when he was born, it just a nub. FYI normal size balls LOL He shoul have warned me right?

[Anonymous]

I voted no. Let her descover on her own. I think it's the same, tell her or let her descover it. Better to see it, so you can believe it. Maybe if he told you, he would have to explain you this in detal, you have thought that it was just small and couldn't imagine that it didn't grow since he was born. You can be shocked by words and image too, it's not a big difference.
It's the same as someone having a scar in their body from an accident or something, you can't imagine the suffering that it may have caused to them. You have to keep calm in those situations.

If I were in your place, I would have broken up only if there were also other issues, things I didn't like about him. I don't thing in this case there are many things to say, you just had to leave him or not. Maybe he is used to it. And maybe he tried telling about it to girlfriends in the past and wanted to try it this way this time.

Maybe I'm naive and a virgin and Ican't understand what it means. Firstly I thought you were mean, then you wrote: There's some girl out there who doesn't like sex or who can't have sex who will love him!
I think you're just unable to hande it.

[Asker]

I was totally unable to handle it. He is a great guy otherwise, just not everything I'm looking for.

[Anonymous]

Loling at the guys acting all holier-than-thou on here, as if guys shouldn't have to inform you about something serious like this. If a girl had a micro vagina (if that even is a thing) and the guys would be unable to get it in, I'm pretty sure they'd feel frustrated about it too, especially if they spent 3 months with that girl and she never said anything about it. If they were in that position, they would obviously prefer it if she told them. So, basically, these guys are lying.
Anyway, yes, in my opinion this is something you should talk about. Like someone said, maybe not on the first date. But telling them would definitely be so much better than letting them find out on their own.

[jesseray]

I wouldn't expect a woman to say such a thing. In any event, the situation would not be equal. Women receive a lot more sympathy and compassion from their fellow humans than men do. She would be pitied, not mercilessly ridiculed.

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn't matter. Guys would still be bitter over the fact that she didn't let them know that it's physically impossible for them to have sex with her.

[jesseray]

Bitter, yes, but many or most of them would still recognize the predicament she would be in and extend her some compassion instead of demanding that she out herself, unlike what women are doing to men with micro penises.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah right. Please. They would call her a "bitch" and a "tease" for not telling the truth. They would think that they've been lead on.

[Opinion Owner]

Or, that she was just using them for free dates because she knew from the start that they wouldn't get laid.

[kingkj1979]

Nope she has a mouth to make up for it

[Opinion Owner]

So does the guy. But people would still prefer actually getting laid, as well as hearing about these types of things first.

[jesseray]

Perhaps people with micro penises, or with boyfriends with micro penises, or people with micro vaginas, or with girlfriends with micro vaginas, should consider having sexually-open relationships... (shrugs)

[SomeOtherGuy]

Does that actually work if either person is prone to attachment and does not want an open relationship?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably not.

[Encolpius]

"Perhaps people with micro penises, or with boyfriends with micro penises, or people with micro vaginas, or with girlfriends with micro vaginas, should consider having sexually-open relationships... (shrugs)" So what you're saying is that the poor guy or girl has to let her partner go have sex with other people? Pretty sure that's not going to lead to a healthy relationship unless they were already open to the idea of swinging.

[Katy16]

I'm gonna say no because a relationship is so much more than sex, there were other ways he could've pleased you and falling for who someone is as a person is what matter, not their penis size (or anything else that doesn't actually affect your health).

[Asker]

There are other ways to please me your right. But not that one way that I like so much ;)

[jesseray]

If a man with a micro penis has to warn women, then that guy would never get affection from women and be tormented by everyone around him who knows his secret (which is bound to be everyone, seeing as many or most women do not know how to keep their mouths shut about men's penises.) That's a recipe for suicide. I don't think it's right to demand that someone behave in a way that guarantees their loneliness and misery and makes their suicide highly probable just so other people can avoid some momentary discomforts. So no, I do not think he needs to warn anyone. He should do whatever is needed to bring some satisfaction into his life.

[Asker]

Guys! Don't commit suicide over this!! You are not your penis!

[jesseray]

Men may not be their penises, but having sexuality forever denied to you except by going to prostitutes, catching deadly diseases, and getting busted by police for soliciting their services... that can do a toll on a guy. Your update says there are women who don't want to, will not, or cannot have sex who will love him. That's nice and all, but realistically speaking, he's still a man who wants sexual satisfaction and respect from his peers.

[Asker]

True that

[SomeOtherGuy]

Did you know there's many men and women who can have a fulfilling life without having sex? Some men are required to be celibate to head a church. Some are required to be celibate to retain a monk lifestyle. Celibacy can allow a man to pursue things other than sex that are equally fulfilling. If he no longer makes sex a priority in his life, and accepts a different lifestyle, he may find peace and enlightenment. Before you pretend that's a shitty lifestyle, consider the monks, cardinals and nuns who live celibate. They aren't miserable people. Infact they're sometimes the opposite. But it's likely too late in his life for that. It's a path his parents should have put him on when he was younger and they found out. But this man should understand and accept that sex cannot be his major identity. It would be like a paraplegic wanting to play college basketball.

[Encolpius]

There's a difference between someone CHOOSING to be celibate and go into the priesthood and someone who is FORCED to be celibate because he cannot have a fulfilling sex life. The former can be happy. The latter will likely always be bitter and angry.

[Encolpius]

It's not necessarily even about the sex. It's about the fact that most women will bail on a guy with a sub-1-inch penis, leaving him without a chance at companionship and intimacy (both sexual and non-sexual).

[jesseray]

So, when I argue that girls would do well to have sex only within committed relationships, you oppose it because sexuality is important, and when I argue that guys with micro penises should be allowed to have some sexual satisfaction in their life, you oppose it because sexuality is unimportant. It seems to me that you are willing to say anything to remove as many males as possible from the sexual marketplace and to get as many females as possible into the sexual marketplace, all because that increases the amount of pussy you can get. That's some manipulative bullshit.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Didn't oppose his right to have sexual satisfaction in his life. Saying that due to the pain and suffering that can be brought on by having a micropenis and trying to be sexually active, considering sexual abstinence may give him a chance at peace and fulfillment. But only if he actively decides that lifestyle. I also oppose the idea that girls and men should be confined to ONLY having sex within a committed relationship. That lifestyle is not for every single person out there, and to try to force them into that lifestyle, much like trying to force people into the priesthood or monastery, is not going to change who they are or make them better or happier people. Stop trying to read between the lines.

[jesseray]

How can you say that you do not oppose his right to have sexual satisfaction in his life when you just finished arguing that his parents should effectively brainwash him into a life of celibacy? That seems disingenuous at best. In any event, don't you think that someone with a micropenis would have already considered not pulling it out for girls? Of course he has! lol

[SomeOtherGuy]

Brainwash? So you're telling me every person who has walked a life of celibacy has been brainwashed? Including the Dali Lama? The Pope? You need to get out and experience the vastness of the world, dude.

[SomeOtherGuy]

His parents didn't need to teach celibacy. They could have taught him value outside his sexual desires.

[dav123]

@"having sexuality forever denied to you except by going to prostitutes, catching deadly diseases, and getting busted by police for soliciting their services" Prostitution should be legal though. That would help these guys a bit. @"I don't think it's right to demand that someone behave in a way that guarantees their loneliness and misery" I hear what you're saying, but it wouldn't be right either to 'demand' of women and make them somehow 'obligated' to offer affection to these lonely guys, given that women generally want a man with a proper-sized penis, the women should hardly be forced to give up their happiness.

[SomeOtherGuy]

He should have talked about it with you, but he didn't know how. Too insecure or too nervous, who knows.

Leaving him for his micropenis is not the most honorable thing to do. You really should have seen if there was anything else you could have done. Any other way he could meet your needs sexually, and then talked with him about it.
The point is, you should have tried. Especially 3 months in.

But you don't owe him anything. He isn't entitled any more to the relationship or you simply because he has a micropenis or he is lonely.

[Asker]

See my comment below... I tried.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Well if he wasn't willing to try and show you he's still valuable in bed after an intimate encounter like that then he really doesn't know what he's doing. You gave him a chance. He declined. He had his chance. Like I said, he's not entitled to you or the relationship. You're free to be with whoever you want to be with. Most the guys on here don't understand how a woman can be free and independent to do what she likes and have preferences and needs. But I'm glad to see some do.

[Encolpius]

Put yourself in his shoes. Would you want to try having sex with a woman, knowing that you would be ridiculed?

[SomeOtherGuy]

First off, she never ridiculed him. Most women would not ridicule a man with a mciropenis after being with him for 3 months. Not unless he was being a total asshole to her for those 3 months.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Believe it or not, most people do not ridicule others and do exercise compassion and empathy. Anyways, most guys on here seem to think you have to stay with him because he has a micropenis. That his micropenis entitles him to a relationship with you now. And if you leave him then you're a "shallow cunt." They're likely the same guys who think if they're nice to you, you have to reward them with a relationship.

[Encolpius]

I'm not saying that anyone is entitled to anything. I don't have a micro-penis myself, thank God, but it's not hard to find anecdotes of women ridiculing men for being a lot bigger than 0.75" (but still too small for them to respect).

[SomeOtherGuy]

Usually that ridicule was provoked. I've known a few girls who insulted a man's penis size, but that's after they've cheated on him or treated her like shit. It's rarely unprovoked when a woman does that. And if it is unprovoked, than the woman is an asshole. It's actually dudes who ridicule guys with small penises more.

[Insaan]

Lol calm down.. i understand what you mean. I would never hit on women with violence but in anger i tend to curse people hard with words. I really don't have guts to hit any girl with violence.. I would really never able to forgive my self for that later.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Alright, you're not so bad. We all succumb to anger in life. Even the Dali Lama has admitted to that.

[Insaan]

Thanks for understanding.

[DollFace565]

I don't know what qualifies as micro penis like 2 inches? Maybe... just because it could be surprising but not it that way. I feel like if I were a guy with a micro penis I would wait to get to know the girl really well to where we could talk to each other about sexual things comfortably and maybe bring it up?

[Asker]

I thought we were there, he's the one who waited 3 months... Now I know why!

[DollFace565]

Maybe he doesn't know it's weird because I would think he would have told you

[Asker]

I think less than 2 inches makes it micro

[QueenNikki]

I feel nobody should have to explain anything to you, it is who they are and if you both were looking to care about each other then he shouldn't have to ask you whether you will accept him or not. He should think that every part of him would should be accepted, not point out his own faults ask if its okay thats he's that way. You are so damn shallow to expect a guy to "warn" you, get over yourself.

[Asker]

wow you sure told me

[QueenNikki]

Wow would have expected more from a grown ass woman.

[GenCoupeTT]

All the bro's on here that are mad are so because they probably are pretty small themselves. I think guys should just be content with what they have I'm exactly 6.5inches and proud to be so

[Encolpius]

It's very easy for you to say, since you'll probably never be rejected for your size.

[Realistic07]

hahaha an interesting and funny story is hard to come by. Honestly though after three months you should have known something was up. He really should have informed you after that long, but it is understandable that he didn't out of embarrassment. If you really liked him you would have excepted his issue, but that's was not the case. Are you a bad person for being upset well no you're not a bad person. With confusion and secrets its normal that you would be upset. the question is if you had known would you still have been with him? I'm guessing not by the reaction and that's fine you just have a sexual preference and his particular size probably wouldn't have met up to that preference so have no guilt or shame.

[SomeOtherGuy]

Good answer. Sometimes, two people just aren't compatible. His life can still be fulfilling despite his penis size, and there may be someone who doesn't mind.

[Realistic07]

Their are women that have unusually tight vagina's that find it painful to have sex so in his case if he were to find one he would be sitting pretty.

[Asker]

Yes! There has to be someone out ther who his perfect for

[Realistic07]

I'm sure there is. So how do you feel about everything now?

[Theguyoverthere]

Hard to really vote on this. But overtime when things get sexual I would then say so. Obviously not a topic to bring up on date 1. But overall I think it should be brought up because there are women stuck in marriages who have husbands who have penises that can't please their partners and while it sounds shallow... it really messes up the sex life and many would prefer not to resort to toys and stuff as a substitute.

[Asker]

I agree not on date one, but before three months? Before you're in bed together first time? I felt SO shallow. But I have needs that I'm not going to go without for anybody!

[Theguyoverthere]

Before the bedroom for sure. So before three months could be a maybe. Depends on the sexual pace of the couple really.

[kingkj1979]

I'm a scorpio, I like hiking and I have a really tiny dick. So when's the next date? There are things you just don't talk about. Maybe this is something that damages the dude psychologically.

[Asker]

Don't put it on your dating profile!! Well on second thought, PUT IT ON THERE!! That way you only get girls who are psyched for it!

[Encolpius]

It most definitely damages a guy psychologically to be that small. Imagine how it would feel to have 99% of all women find you repulsive.

[brocklee]

This is why sex should happen sooner than late. Can you imagine this situation if the couple waited to get married before having sex? Part of the "getting to know each other phase" includes discovering sexual compatibility.

[OldDinosaur]

Of course he should. As a matter of fact he shouldn't even be having sex. He mine as well be a Eunuch. He is out there pretending he can screw and he can't possibly screw anything. What's the first thing girls with huge vaginas say to men? They say something like they need a man with 9 or 10 inches. I don't have 10 inches but I'm happy they told me. It wouldn't be fair for them to lay down with my baby 7.5 and then complain how small it is. I'm normal, not them! Your normal, not him!

[kheserthorpe]

If you care about your partners genitals - and I think it's perfectly reasonable to care - don't wait 3 months to stick your hand down their pants.

[bekalen]

I like surprises. And I can deal with that

[abigfart]

I just think it's so surprising how shallow women really are, you claim not to be, then you say "we have needs." It's one or the other.

Maybe he was super worried to tell you because he really liked you, thought you might take it differently, but clearly not. He's just going to be scared of dating for the rest of his life.

[Asker]

How is claiming to be not shallow (which I didn't do) one or the other with having needs? I'm confused by what your saying here

[DollFace565]

What if a girl had a vag hole that was too small to have sex with you wouldn't want to know? I don't think it's shallow.

[kingkj1979]

She has a mouth

[SomeOtherGuy]

What if she refused to use her mouth or show she is still capable as a sexual partner?

[abigfart]

I think I could get past an issue with a vagina, but women seem to think men are less whole with smaller dicks. It's not purely a sexual thing, because there are other ways to be pleasured. You just see him as weak, that's it.

[gotc147]

This is not something I have to worry about :)

[Billlewis]

Whenever I meet a woman, I always tell her two very important things --

-- that in all likelihood, I have the smallest dick she's ever seen

-- and that I don't expect her to ever let me fuck her, and that she's welcome to date and fuck other guys whenever she wants

[BrianG123]

Yes, he should've said something before that. Like you said, not date one. Probably not until he was sure you could handle it. And since you just stuck your hand down his pants, maybe he hadn't decided that yet.

Keep in mind that he probably knew it was a dealbreaker. If you read about this stuff, you know that almost no women would go for that if she had the choice. Because, realistically, that size of penis will never be able to satisfy a woman. He'd have to be phenomenal at oral for you to have a satisfied sex life.

What's interesting is that I don't think you're upset that he didn't tell you. I think you're upset that you "wasted" three months. Because if he'd told you, you wouldn't have stayed, right? And I think that's why he didn't say anything - he knew you'd break up with him if he said he had a micropenis. So he didn't say anything, staying with you as long as he could. He was probably hoping you'd like him enough where it didn't matter.

[Asker]

I think I'm upset that he didn't tell me AND I'm upset because I was a bit traumatized by the situation. We were getting down, and I seriously thought, what? Oh maybe it's just down his pants leg? No, wait, what's this, huh? Wait what? Stop pulling it you're being weird! Oh geez did he just cum? OMG what the fuck is happening here? Traumatized!!! part of me is laughing t Cuz that's some funny shot, but the other part of me is crying becuz it happened to me and my bf who I really liked.

[Annymous8]

It would only be a dealbreaker if I wanted kids.

[Asker]

I bet he can make kids, he's got big balls!

[BrianG123]

Yeah, I understand. I can see how that would be terrible. But try to put yourself in his position. He's probably embarrassed and traumatized by it himself. Imagine if you had a AAA cup and stuffed your bra to get to a C cup. You'd probably be worried about taking your shirt off. Not exactly the same but close.

[Asker]

I am sure he is traumatized by it. That's what suck so much about the whole thing. He doesn't deserve that.

[ixi10]

He should tell her. That way he doesn't waste his time with someone who doesn't deserve him.

[Asker]

Very nice

[mutedaisy]

Honestly, that sounds like an in the moment thing...
I guess you can warn someone, if you are self-conscious, but you can also warn someone because most girls have never seen a micro penis. We don't know what to expect when we pull down a guys pants. I've pulled guys pants back up, because they were too big. You have sort of like an oh my god moment.

[Asker]

LOL!

[chocolatedragon]

Did he at least eat pussy to make up for his small size?

[Asker]

Not mine.

[DodgersGM]

It's a tough situation, and an even tougher question.

My gut is telling me that the guy shouldn't have to go out of his way to "warn" anyone, but at the same time if the topic were to ever come up, he shouldn't be misleading either.

Give the girl a chance to get to know you, be honest if the topic ever came up, and then when the moment comes and she finds out, just roll with it.

[PrettyBama]

I wonder is there a way to work with that lol like can they wear strap on or would that hurt their nub lol or would that hurt his pride

[ldrccarter]

awwwww poor baby :,( I feel for him. can't he have surgery?