I don't know how long ago you posted this so I don't know if my answer is still relevant but here is my experience:
I am a male and have been in a similar situation where my girlfriend at the time wasn't comfortable with my sexual interests and I bet she was asking herself the same question.
In my case, I also like to use a dildo on myself and also to suck on one, not after it's been in my ass of course, that's dirty and gross. A clean one none the less.
Now that I'm in my 30's and have had enough time to figure myself out, I can tell you that I have never been with a guy. The idea of dating or being with a guy simply disgusts me, I really love feminine, elegant women.
So why do I use a dildo? The same reason why some lesbians use a strap on or a dildo, the same reason some girls like anal, the same reason some girls are ok with playing with other girl's boobs or on occasion being licked by them. "Because it feels good".
Most guys don't do it because they would be extremely eberassed if their friends knew about it. They couldn't live with the shame, they would be made fun of forever and a lot of guy friends would drop them. Basically guys are not open to certain pleasures because they are homophobic.
If you did an experiment where you raised a gender neutral group of boys and girls where they were never thought about being gay and then at a certain age you showed each of them in private a video about none penile looking dildos that can stimulate your anus, to both genders and provided them with the toys to try if they wish, I bet the same amount of guys and girls would try them. Because it feels good for both guys and girls, and when homophobia is erased from the picture, pleasure no longer has a straight and gay form. It's just pleasure.
In my opinion, you are straight as long as you are not romantically attracted to the same sex.
Pleasuring yourself in the same way some gays do or same way some girls do does not make you gay.
When you passionately make out and have sex with a person of the same gender, that's when you are gay or bi.
I enjoy dildos, even a girl with a strap on, but I do not enjoy her acting like a man, looking like a man or being a man.
I am and always have been straight.
I don't get hard when I see a guy naked in the change room but I sure do when a girl takes her clothes off.
So in my opinion, your boyfriend is not gay or bi as long as he doesn't get it on with guys. Also, most gays have a certain distinguished type of face. Look up Tim Cook.
He admits he is attracted to dick.
Then claims he's straight.
All the straight men in the world will tell you, they aren't attracted to dick.
If he had been using a dildo on his ass, you could argue it was for prostate stimulation. And hence, straight. But sucking it and getting off on the idea he had a cock in his mouth? GAY. Super fucking gay.
And here's the thing, if he was Bi, he could probably admit to that because he's still attracted to you. But he's so far in denial, he had to bullshit you and claim he's 200 per cent straight.
The only people who lie that much, are the ones who are GAY.
Ha ha. Tim Tebow syndrome.
Too many are trying to excuse the thing because of the prostate, and completely ignoring the way he's slobbering all over that cock with his mouth. Does this guy have a prostate gland at the back of his throat? I don't fucking think so.
Yeah I agree. It was the putting it in his mouth and sucking on it for AWHILE that had me questioning everything. I find it really hard to believe that it is a normal thing guys do if they are only into girls. It sucks because I wish I could believe him but I seriously can't delude myself that bad to.
My boyfriend recently confessed to me that he has a dildo he uses on himself AND that he wanted to explore cross dressing to feel sexy and desired. My instinct was to run far and fast, but he's someone I love, so I agreed to indulge this request, expecting it to be the worst night ever and that if have to struggle not to be visibly grossed out, but surprisingly it was an exhilarating experience. My boyfriend is a manly man and not feminine at all. He's not bi/gay as there is no desire to be with a man intimately. He's just... Kinky. Try an keep an open mind - if he told you, he trusts and loves you. It's hard for men to admit that since it's taboo and immediately associated with homosexuality. That area is sensitive for them and gives a lot of pleasure. Also, we as women expect a lot from a dude to make us feel beautiful and sexy and irresistible. I never really reciprocated that to him. S'ing his D for 10 minutes before letting him get it in and bring me to climax isn't fair. Have to take the time to make him feel like I'm insatiable for every inch of him, and slowly bringing him to climax is what gets me off. For me, hearing this was so hard, but I am so thankful I kept an open mind and went down the rabbit hole with him. We're closer and the sex is even better than before. Playing around with role reversals and him "being the girl" so to speak, is a fun time for me too. Liberating as I feel in control. This is not who we are in other areas of life, and to the outside world, we're a typical boring couple who are stupidly happy with each other, but behind those closed doors - it's a wild adventure. It may not be for everyone, but you can surprise yourself sometimes liking and wanting something you wouldn't expect. I guess Kevin Bacon said it best when he said the key to a successful relationship is keeping the fights clean and the sex dirty! Let lose, sex is good when it's dirty and messy and when anything goes. The only goal is for you to be free, enjoy each others bodies and focus on both of you reaching climax. Good luck :)
just like girls have that spot in their butt that makes anal feel good, guys have the same spot! he make like the way it feels just as something that feels good, but he would never let a guy do anal with him! i know a few guys that like their girlfriend to use dildos on their butt, and they are straight! the whole putting it in his mouth part though mightve just been out of curiosity! why dont you sit down and have a conversation with him and try to better understand him. just like girls have freaky fantasies we want to TRY, guys do too!
Well, the male gspot is in the butt soo... He could he bi? Or just straight and need arousal in that spot.
But it's hard to say because you never said anything about if you and him have been having sex, or if he tried to bring it into bed. But it sounds like he could just be straight, with a fetish for being pegged or something. And everyone has different fetishes. Soo don't look into it too much?
He bought it for himself not me.. It even looks like a dick it veiny and everything. He keept a secret for awhile apperently and then one night after he was drinking he went and got it and was like is this weird? I was a little freaked out at first but he told me he just likes how it feels and he's not gay or anything. I believed him because I figured some straight guys might just be into the pleasure of it or something. Then last night he said he was going to bed, and I told him I'll be in after this show ends but I started to get tried so I almost went in and I stopped because I heard him making weird noises I looked in and he was using the dildo. Then he started to suck on it. I was like whoa what are you doing and he was like I was only doing it for like 10 secs (it was way longer than that, and he seemed really into it like he was even licking it... and even stopped jacking off.) It looked really gay. Like he was getting more pleasure just from putting it in his mouth.
Have you talked to him again or tried this yet? He sounds pretty into dick. Are you sure he's not fucking guys behind your back?
Im curious if u ever found out if he's talking to guys
I'm bi and let me explain this, just because you want to have sex with the same gender your not bi. It gives us a bad name. Anyways unless you can see yourself in a relationship and marrying a person of the same gender your not bi. As your boyfriend said he just likes the dick
That's confusing... So if he wants to have sex with a guy he is not bi? Only if he wants a relationship with him he is bi? I thought bi was to want to have sex with both genders? What do you call a guy who wants to have sex with a guy and not a relationship? Straight?
Your bi if you an imagine yourself both physically and emotionally in a relationship with them. Either that or your bicurious/heteroflexible. Tons on college girls wanna make out with their friends and have a drunken hookup but then only want to peruse relationships with men. I think a lot of people are into because it seems naughty and raunchy
"just because you want to have sex with the same gender" That literally means you're queer. Gay and "bisexual" are the exact same thing: queer. Sex with the same gender. Which is just gay. Homosexual. Trying to pretend you're still somewhat straight gives normal heterosexual people a bad name. And frankly, we don't want you. You're allowed to be gay all you want, but frankly, don't come back over here. There's nothing wrong with being LGBT per se, but it's literally the opposite side of "straight." TL;DR: There's no such thing as "bisexual." You're just gay.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It is not normal for a straight guy to want to stick a dildo up their ass. I can assure you of that. I like pretty crazy sex and never once have I ever even contemplating sticking a dildo in my ass or letting a girl do it. I've stuck a dildo in a girl's ass before, but it's not going near mine!!! I think your BF is probably bisexual at least. Plus sticking it in your mouth after it's been up your own ass is pretty gross.
It's kinda unusual for someone who's straight to like penises, but hey, if that's what he says, then it's not like you can prove him wrong. Using a dildo isn't exactly common but it doesn't mean that he's bi or gay either. Anal and prostate stimulation (from the dildo) feels great for most men, so he could just be experimenting with that. It might not be normal, but I don't think it's anything for you to worry about.
Unless he wants a guy to fuck him then no, he isn't gay or bi he just enjoys the feeling of it, same as women can enjoy it. I'd be pleased my guy was so comfortable with exploring his sexuality, trust me, it's a good thing and can only really benefit you both. Don't judge him, he's just being honest about what gets him off - try doing the same with him.
if he likes the dick on guys but he's not attracted to guys he's bi
DEFINITELY something is wrong here lol
This is a story of a father with 3 kids coming out of the closet as gay waiting to happen lol
Yeah that's what I'm afraid of. I've been with him for about 3 years, and lost my virginity to him. I really do love him, and I guess that's why I haven't already broke it off with him. I want to believe he's telling the truth but I just can't get that image out of my head. Never once thought he was like that. Then I seen that... I'm seriously grosses out by this. If he is gay I won't have any way of knowing unless years from now he comes out and by then were married or have kids and the relationship falls apart, and it won't be just me hurt. I just don't know if I even want to risk it, and believe him.
Just inb4 hysteria sets in. Could it be like... a bet he lost or something? I mean most people don't need to experiment to know their sexuality. There's no... Gay Tryout Day. You're straight , you're straight. You're gay , you're gay. Find it kinda hard to imagine a guy in this day and age of LGBT rights movement still having a guy "confused" about his sexuality.
Yeah I guess that makes sence with how everything is today but the only reason I can think he wouldn't come out about it is because of his family. His parents are like super strict Christian. He really really cares what his dad thinks. I think that would be enough to stop him from being open about it.
he loves penis... but not on guys... and you caught him sucking on it? after it was in his butt? hmmm if i add penis then subtract guy then add butt stimulation then divide by female girlfriend with no penis and i multiply it with "i'm straight" comments equals... a dude who doesn't want to be labeled after sucking on a dildo that has previously been in his butt... my personal opinion is most straight men would never put anything in there butt, most men fear prostate exams cuz they shove a machine up ur butt lol I've had co-workers who mentioned something about anal stimulation and i kinda wrote them off like that sounds pretty gay but overall people are weird n freaky some people like sucking on toes or nipples maybe your boyfriends just exploring himself sexually and it just so happens to look really gay lol
i hope that helps in some way... good luck
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He’s definitely not straight. He could either be bi or gay
i don't know whether it is normal but it certainly doesn't mean that he isn't straight
Option B/C: He's gay. "Super f*cking gay" as the one guy on here said. 44% of the voters are right. Literally NO straight man on the planet would do that. You and other queer people on here can try to deny it all you want, but anything remotely like this makes you queer. End of story.
You know I would think he was straight if he was just using the toy to get prostate pleasure because it's just inside the nail rectum but when he is sucking on it that to me tells me he's got by curious thoughts why would you suck on it I'm sorry but I'm a straight guy and I love women and I absolutely love it when a woman uses her finger or a small toy to hit my prostate not shoving it in and out but just putting it a little bit inside my ass and giving me head makes me orgasm like no other. But there's no fucking way I would ever suck on it nor do I have any intentions of wanting to do that So that tells me that he has some type of bike curiosity He's definitely not fucking straight
No, its not normal fro straight men to do that.
Well, since the male "g-spot" is in the butt, using a dildo for prostate stimulation isn't gay or anything like that. But the sucking on the dildo part is rather weird for a straight guy.
I think he's bi-curious. He's mot really interested in men, but still has sometime fantasies involvong penises or something like that, which is why he sucked on the dildo. It's either that, or he just doesn't what to admit he's bi.
Keep in mind that you wouldn't be his girlfriend and the sex partner of his choice if he were gay. That wouldn't make any sense at all.
A man using a dildo on himself in any way/shape/form doesn't necessarily mean that he's bi or gay.
The only thing that you can definitively draw from that is that he enjoys using the dildo on himself. Nothing more, nothing less.
I would say straight.
The act of sucking can be hot to me after all i kinda imagine the girl doing it to me if i would do that.
A naked guy body though? Ewwww hell no!
He probably likes the feeling of it in his butt and he probably has a fantasy to pleasure himself with a blowjob. As long as he doesn't fantasize about other guys doing it i don't expect him to be Bi.
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I don't see what is arousing about picking your butt, but if he gets girls to pick his butt for him that doesn't make him gay, just nasty...
He might be in denial about it, but he's at least bi. Straight guys don't do that.
Ignore every answer saying he's gay or bi. He's still straight.
Your boyfriend loves the D.
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