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My boyfriend HAS to suck on my breasts, or he can't fall asleep?

When he does it during sex, I thoroughly enjoy it. After we have sex, he asks me to put baby powder on him, and the we get ready for bed and he puts my breast in his mouth. I've thought all of this out, and I'm very confused about what could be causing it. I want to help him sleep, but the baby powder freaks me out, and it's very difficult for me to sleep while he sucks on my breast. We have talked about it, and he just keeps saying he sleeps better that way and that it is nothing weird. Is there any way around him sleeping with my boob in his mouth?
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Do you think this will progress into stranger habits? Any guy who also does this?
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UPDATE: he got himself a pacifier this evening. Surprised me by having it in his mouth when I got home from work. He won't talk about it, just keeps saying it relaxes him.
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  • ohh that is not good!

    i once a show on this and i forgot what this is called but that is a syndrome. its similar to the peter pan syndrome but worst because that person who has feels the need to be treated and pamper like a baby, etc.

    in that show i remember they present a 27 year old that had it and he actually when to the show wearing zipped up pajamas with a pacifier on, a rattle etc. and you should of seen his bedroom. he slept in a king size cradle, had a bunch of babies toys and everything. it was sad!

    anyways i dont know if you really love him or not but i think being in a relationship with a person with this syndrome is a nightmare

    • I saw that too. It was on national geographic

    • yea that is sad... i feel bad for whoever dates or its in a relationship with someone like that

    • I do really love him. We just moved in together, it hasn't gotten that far yet. But I fear that it will progress into that. There are a lot of signs.

  • It's fine as long as you don't forget he has little control over his head because his motor skills and neck muscles are fairly weak. He'll develop this skill, which is the foundation for all later movement such as sitting up and walking.

    • Clever lol

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  • Yes there is a way and that's to tell him to get therapy and i'm being completely serious. His behavior is very unusual and it's like he's drawing you into his issues. It seems more of a psychological need he has than a physical one because he's doing what he's doing to get to sleep not become aroused. I feel for you and this would seriously annoy me if it happened to me as a matter of fact I wouldn't stand for it. I find at anytime when men have your breasts in their mouth it should be about passion and sexual arousal not pacifying an adult. Tell him it's not a habit you are going to get comfy with. Best of luck x

    • Thank you. I love him, and I want him to be happy, perhaps a little couples therapy isn't a bad idea.

    • He wants you to mother him :-) I'm serious. Nothing long with that. We keep changing our roles, and sometimes exchange them. I'd like a woman who could also be a mother figure, even if we share another relationship while in bed.

  • I laughed uncontrollably from beginning to end of this.
    Girl, this is a big azz RED FLAG. Any grown adult who can't sleep without a titty in his mouth needs a psychological evaluation. What next? You're going to pull down his pants for a BJ and find an adult diaper? Get out while you can! He obviously has some issues he needs to address.

    • See, but here's the thing, we JUST moved in together a month ago. I feel like I have to stay and figure out some way to deal with it. Glad you could laugh about it though :)

    • ... no. You are not obligated to stay if he is showing signs of possible mental illness.

  • My boyfriend does suck on my nipples before he goes to sleep too, I don't think anything of it because our relationship is pretty sexual and he's an awesome man.
    now for the baby powder I dunno what it means, is it like a fetish or something or does he just like the smell? and what does he use it for?

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  • He has a mommy fetish. Sorry but you might have to leave him. The baby powder shit is messed up.

    -Fox

    • I KNOW IT IS. ugh. It freaks it out every time.

    • I would never let a guy do that. Sure you can suck it while we are fucking but after that, breasts go away. Weird question, do you have large breasts? Maybe it could be a big boob fetish?

    • No, that's the thing. I'm a 34b. There isn't even anything to play with!

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  • What did he do before he met you?

    • He had some girl who would stay over all the time. They were fwb.

    • I'm just having difficulty seeing how he could satisfy that 'need' throughout his life. Are you sure he's not trying to convince you (or himself) that his friends with benefits wasn't something more serious?

  • From a psychological standpoint, not good.

  • When I read the title I COULDN'T STOP LAUGHING!!! holy shit that guy is GOOD I'm going to start telling my girlfriend this :)))

    • See, and that's what I thought when this whole thing started. "He's just playing the game. We are going to have sex after this" and I was getting all amped up. Then he stopped sucking and started snoring!

    • Oh damn he might be serious... ask his mom how old he was when he stopped breast feeding he seriously could have a mom complex

    • He was never breast fed! This is why I'm confused!

  • That has to be one of the weirdest things I've ever heard. You should just simply tell him no, also I think dude has a baby fetish and you are feeding, no pun intended.
    Personally Id get out while you can. No good can come of this.

    • It's really odd. It just started recently (we JUST got our first place together) and it's escalating quickly.

    • well this is a situation of telling him no, or getting out while there is a chance to get out. Next thing you know he will be wearing adult onezies, have an adult car seat and call you mama

  • Sounds like you're being subjected to a weird "mommy fetish" thing of some sort. Tell him to grow up.

    • That is honestly what I'm most afraid of.

  • He's jerking your chain and will get away with more antics if you don't wean him immediately

    • Any recommendations on how to accomplish that?

    • You'll need to learn now otherwise you'll have more than one hanging on to there too long after baby comes. Here's some ideas: Funny - You now have to hang onto his dick if he's suckling you and make sure he can't sleep doing this... Consequences - Honey, I can't seem to fall asleep like this, so listen while I talk about your new duties around the house, my feelings, your imperfections, my needs, etc. ... Disciplinary - when I'm trying to sleep, I'll have to slap anything/body that is touching me, so sorry if this stings a little bit... Medical - I just saw a Dr. Phil show that said I must apply Vaseline or hormonal creams to my breasts before bedtime or I will become a shrew the next day (then BE a shrew next day if this doesn't work)

    • That whole thing was perfect. I don't know if any of it will work, but I will be trying it. And I did get a solid laugh out of it.

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  • Do what is mom did and tell him "your to big no more mommy milk no no no" and if he throws a fit take away his favorite toy.

    • ROFLMFAO!

  • That's incredibly strange and I'd tell him it made me weirded out and that you'd rather he stopped doing this immediately. It sounds like a baby who wants his bottle, strange indeed.

  • "he asks me to put baby powder on him, and we get ready for bed and he puts my breast in his mouth."

    maybe get him a pacifier

  • Tell him no. Surely he slept before meeting you so he clearly can.

  • Is it better now that he has the pacifier? It seems like his interest in infantilism didn't bother you, except for keeping you awake, right?

    • It is better. We've set up rules, as long as it stays in the bedroom he's okay. He has a bedtime routine. We both sleep better. I try my best to be understanding.

    • Are you okay with that? It seems kind of kinky -- infantilism.

    • I mean. It's a little weird, but I'm learning to live with it.

  • Sleep in separate beds and lock your door, tell him you don't like it, and if he can't do without, then you'll leave. Honestly, that kind of fetish freaks me out to no end.

  • You need to have some serious talk with him. And you gotta explain to him the feelings appearing on you because of this action. If you are not comfortable with the thing, he needs to stop.

  • hahaa title made me laugh:D I have no idea d00d, this is all on him.

  • Sounds like he got that baby fetish where he wants suck
    on your breast while sleeping, i like the fetish some what of
    breast feeding but not to go to sleep that way , i'm not into baby powder,
    diapering eek way no

    • He doesn't wear diapers, he just says the baby powder is soft and it feels nice. So you understand this breast feeding thing?

    • Yes i do know i like the fetish but wouldn't force a girl to do it if she wasn't comfortable with doing it but it's turn on to guys at least to me it is

    • It's not that I'm not comfortable with it. I just want to understand it so I know if it's going to progress into other things.

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  • Freud would say he has an oral fixation. Oral can refer to just the mouth, people.

    • How can I allow that fixation to be dealt with, and not have him pulling on me all night trying to get a boob? Any suggestions?

    • Freud would say he wants to sleep with his mom, not just an oral fixation! He definitely has some serious mommy issues, that much is clear.

    • I'd make him sleep on the couch.

  • he likes to be treated like a baby.. its his fetish.. has he done that with his previous gfs too?

    • I asked him about it, and he said he did it with all of them. He keeps trying to add new things.

  • Sounds like that fetish where he wants you to baby him... Literally

  • He has a strange connedction to being a baby n views you as his maternal figure. He will be asking u to change his diapers next. U need to get out before it gets worse, unless that turns u on

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