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Would you ever sleep with your cousin?

I have a beautiful 2nd cousin. We've always liked each other and found each other attractive. She says I'm handsome and good looking and gives me signs that shows she's attracted to me. I've always fantasized about having a secret romance with her, ever since I was a young teen when we hung out often. Were both adults now. She's finished college and I graduate soon. Every now and then she contacts me and we text/call and just talk about how everything is. I asked if she wanted to come visit me in my dorm some time soon and she said she definitely did. Of course, a million thoughts are racing through my head now. I figured she might stay a few nights. She'll be comfortable because I have a futon I can sleep on, and she'll take my bed. Still, I'm thinking about making some advances toward her. We usually give each other soft touches like any normal flirting. I'm thinking maybe after we have some deep conversations and after a movie or something, I'm going to try to kiss her and make out. If it goes any further, I'll just go with it and let it happen. Has anyone ever had these kind of feelings toward a cousin? Feel free to answer this anonymously. P. S. Don't lecture me on how weird/fucked up this is. I've came to terms with my attraction toward her and I want to see if she feels the same, which I'm pretty certain she does.
I have/had feelings toward a cousin, but wouldn't act on it.
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I've done things/want to do things with a cousin.
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No. Never.
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Also, she looks nothing like me or my immediate family. That might be a factor in why I'm attracted to her without feeling the slightest bit of guilt.
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If you vote, your comments would be appreciated as well. I want to hear your stories and your reasons that you would/would not do this.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't know if this counts but my grandfathers brothers son has been my crush since I was like 12-13. We don't even know how to act around each other. I think everyone in our family knows that we are in love, because whenever we are near each other everyone's eyes are on us. It's so annoying because every guy I meet is measured with him and no one has come close to him. We haven't done anything but man have I fantasized about it. We have only hugged and kisses on cheeks, once he actually gave me a hug a really close one and kissed me 3-4 times on my neck..

    I almost died it was the best feeling ever. I get goosebumps just thinking about it.

    • have you asked your family why they enjoy watching you two? it could be something as simple as "what's going to happen next?" to "why don't they just get together already?" a one sided crush on a cousin is tough enough but if I knew she felt the same I can imagine how difficult that could be.

    • I haven't asked them about it, but they do joke about me and him getting married. They do it quit often actually. They would say stuff like: you guys are perfect for each other.. I just don't have the courage to say anything and he doesn't either.

    • that's a shame. perhaps next time you can "jokingly" say "if he asks me maybe I'll say yes."

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  • Its okay to have feelings, & I'm sure most of us have had a secret crush on a cousin before, but to act on it is a BIG LEAP. & it can only go 2 ways. she's totally fine with it, or not. You two are close and if she wasn't, wouldn't that make it a tad bit awk.. For the both of you? & even if the both of you looked past it there would still be that awk moment/memory there. Plus even if it did work out would your family approve of this? Sometimes people do things in the moment, what if "that" was in the moment? So much can go wrong in this kind of situation, in my opinion, don't act on it.

    • I would rather take that risk and find out if she's feeling the same way than to never do anything and always wonder what if.

    • I guess, good luck.

  • Sure, if we're both into each other, then why not.

    • Awesome (: I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way.

    • It's mostly because social taboo than because of actual "morals". Biologically there is no issue with it.

    • Screw social taboo. I guess that's partially what makes it appealing to me as well. It's supposed to be "forbidden".

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I have 2 first cousins that I would love to get with. one on my mom's side of the family and the other on my dad's. they are both very cute/sexy in their own ways and if it wasn't for the taboo of it all I might try to get with the one on my dad's side of the family as the other one currently has a BF.

    I done some reading on the subject and there's only 3 or 4 places where marrying your cousin is illegal.
    Even Canada and Britten allow it at least by law.
    here's a wiki link for you to look at. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage

    • Nice. But we could probably never get married just because I don't know how our family would take it. It would be awesome to be lovers for life though.

    • that's interesting. it would be hard to find out how most of the family would handle cousins getting married. being lovers would be cool though, just be sure to use condoms so she doesn't get pregnant.

  • I have a very attractive cousin my same age. I don't think its weird to think a cousin is attractive, but I would never act on it, mostly just because it would not be accepted with the families. But I also don't have feelings for her, just find her attractive. But you guys sound really close emotionally, and you're second cousins, so you further apart genetically. So I guess if you truly want to, go for it. It would be awkward to explain to your families if it came to that. Are you looking to start a relationship with her?

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  • No, I would never do that... I find sleeping with any cousin, to be disgusting... I feel a lot of people can probably trace a common ancestor if they look far back enough... but second cousin is too close... way too close for me... with that said...

    My dad is the product of a first cousin marriage, and two sets of my first cousins are married (all on my dad's side)... and I have an aunt that is married to her third cousin (which I also think is way too close). It's very common in middle-eastern culture... they like to keep it in the family and I find it absolutely disgusting.

    Sorry if this is harsh... but it's my honest opinion and how I feel

  • Ew. Fuck no.

  • Guy just fuck her and have fun. Only precaution is that if it advances to where you might get married and have children, just consult a doctor first as to risk of birth defects.

    By the way i have a 2nd cousin i'd fuck in a heartbeat.

    • birth defects go from a normal 2% to 4% for first cousins. so I would think 2nd cousins it's even lower.

    • Thank you... headed to my cousin's house as we speak.

    • just make sure she's willing to have sex with you. :P

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  • No lmao. I do have a SUPER HOT pair of second cousins. Brother and sister- both so fucking gorgeous, I don't understand it. But no, I would never bang them lmao. 1. Ewww. 2. They can do WAY better lmao 3. EWWWW. 4. Just ewww.

    • Haha that's fine. I like feeling this way toward her though. It's very different, and I already know I love her just because I've known her as far back as I can remember.

  • From a biological standpoint, you're fine. From a weird-out factor, I'm not so sure. It depends on how much damage you think it would do to your respective families if they found out you two are hooking up.

    • Yeah I wouldn't want the fam ever finding out. Secret romance.

    • Then it's best to not do it. It will get out eventually and blow up in your face. Is your whole family in turmoil worth some pussy?

    • Well it's certainly a risk. But to me it's totally worth it. Thanks for your input.

  • Its a taboo created by Western society only based on health risks. There is nothing forbidden between cousins by religion.

    Having said that, I am a very pro-marriage person so I do not mean to say you start making out with her. If your country / society / community does not allow marriage, find someone else.

  • I don't see any problem, it's a cousin not a sister.

  • I did.. I still dream about him. I'm lucky i haven't seen him in almost a year.

  • go for it I had sex with my first cousin years ago it was best sex I ever had she sinced moved out of rea and only she her a family get togethers which any more is furernels and hard to get alone time with her

  • NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

  • No. there's enough single men out there just waiting for me. Aaaaand most importantly that are not related.

    • That's right, I am one of those single men xD

    • @christianivan You stalker

  • If it's just for a bit of fun, then why not?

    But if you want to have a more meaningful relationship with each other, then the potential damage it can do to your family honestly wouldn't be worth it.

  • I know that in many cultures (Persian for example) that 2nd cousin or further relationships are actually looked positively upon as a way to "keep the ends of the family tree together."

    Personally though, I have had feelings for my first cousin that were reciprocated but because of the language barrier, nothing physical occurred.

  • I personally wouldn't date a cousin but I don't agree with people saying its disgusting. Like two total different couples had sex and created different babies so I don't see how that classes as incest or whatnot. Go for it. My aunt and uncle were cousin and now they're married. It comes with risk, though. Like if you planned on having kids together there's always a 50 50 chance of complications.

    • actually the risk of birth defects rises from roughly 2% in the general population to 4% for first cousins and therefore that "It would be a mistake to ban it."

      Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage

    • I don't know any background knowledge or statistics. I'm only passing on stuff I was told. My aunt and uncle who were cousin had a baby. He was born with a hole in his heart. I know that there are doctor checkups you can go to and get checked to see if there's a risk if 2 cousins decide on having a baby.

    • that's one of the most common birth defects. my parent's are not related at all and I was born with a hole in my heart too. :) "Congenital heart defects occur in about 1 in 110 births and have a variety of causes" there are risks and having a doctor look into it is a good idea.

  • Yes i do. I barely know her and she's pretty dam attractive. I've definitely had a few hard ones because of her.

  • No. That's disgusting.
    Sleeping with family is a no no.

  • No. You would still be fucking a family member

    • Okay.

    • So if you do this and go on with it, how are you going to present it to your family?

    • It's called a secret romance for a reason.

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  • Second cousins, AKA "kissing cousins". I haven't but would if circumstances presented the opportunity. Happens all the time in rural, close knit communities that have large families. There is no social stigma regarding second cousins. There is for first cousins.

  • I understand where your coming from it should be ok. Like for example mother/sister obviously off limits. However a cousin would be viewed differently so I say go for it.

  • Lets put this in perspective.

    If you two are second cousins, it means that you just one pair of great-grandparents (out of four pairs total) in common. i don't think it's a big deal.

    • I don't think it is either. Let's hope she feels the same.

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