Girlfriend wants me to choke her and treat her like a slut in bed? What do I do? Help!?

[robles4242]

I am 25 my girlfriend is 34. We have been together 8 months or so. It was great till 3 months till she cheated on me. Then kept doing it the rest of the time with another douchebag. Fuck that, im over it. I still love her with all my heart and she's my everything. Well i finally manned up and told her how the fuck it is. Things have been pretty good ever since. Our sex like was good but almost non existant for the most part. Well now its been an everyday thing! I've been seeing a new side of her i never have before! She asked me to choke her during sex, i didn't feel comfortable doing it at first but for her id do anything. So the first time i did, i was leary so i was easy and testing the waters. She liked it a lot and it wasn't that bad, so the next time i choked the ahit out of her and banged her as hard as i could. She fucking loved it!! Today she comes and tells me she's feeling slutty and tells me to treat her like a slut in bed tonight, and when i asked how she said use google. Well i dont feel comfortable degrading her and saying rude things i never normally would, but for her ill do anything, exp if its getting me laid and she wants it. So im asking, what do i do? What do i say? I dont want to be a complete dick because thats not me, she's my adorible baby and i love and respect her to pieces. If i do this will we ever have sensual making love again? I dont want to loose that.. should i tell her its just for the sex, i dont think of her as a dirty little whore for real? This is all new to me, it isn't me, but ill try. So can a lady help me? Or guys too? Someone to help clear my mind, im nervous and scared honestly.

[AustinMan]

Okay, let's set some context here. For me, I have two lives: one "real life" where I respect, admire and revere my lady and treat her like a princess; the other is when the clothes start coming off and then her ass is mine!! This is what your lady wants except she wants it more toward full time. That's why when you told her off, she suddenly developed a super sex drive. It's important to understand that she needs you to dominate her. Make the decisions and tell her how it's going to be. If she objects, discuss it but as the head of the relationship, you have the authority and responsibility to make the final decision and trust me, she'll follow your lead.

When it comes to sex, she wants a power exchange. She wants to give you her power because she needs to submit and surrender and she wants you to take her power and, along with yours, own her sexually. She has some dark and kinky fantasies and apparently one of those if to play the part of a slut to your stud. So get in the role of a bad ass stud and give the bitch what she deserves. This is all make believe but really important make believe. Stay in role. I'm guessing she'll love being slapped around--not hard enough to do any damage but more than one woman has told me they really love a good smack to put them in their place. She wants you to call her the slut she is when she's in this role.

I'm going to message you with some other ideas.

[AustinMan]

Thanks for the selection as most helpful. I'm enjoying our chat a lot.

[Anonymous]

You don't have to have the same kind of sex every time. If you want to make sweet love to her, once in a while then do that instead. As long as you treat her like a lady outside of the bedroom I am sure she knows that you respect her.

[Nananabatgirl]

Find someone more your speed kid. Although if you dont want to do that you're going to have to do what she likes. She could have been uncomfortable with asking you to do S&M activities which could be why cheated in the first place. S&M is a taboo thing to bring up in any relationship. If you're going to stay together you're going to have to have find a middle ground where she gets what she needs and you also. Apparently S&M isn't really your cup of tea so I suggest you tell her that and try to find a balance of sensuality and S&M or else she'll find someone else to do that with and you'll find someone you can be sensual with. Balance what you both like she has to be in on this too or else it going to be a one sided sexual relationship, where you'll just be pleasuring her and never stating what you want. BALANCE is key what are you comfortable with and what does she like that is within your limits.=)

[Anonymous]

Research research research! Look up ideas, and videos and stuff. People get hurt too often from these type of sexual activities because they don't know what they're doing. Though she wants to feel pain, make sure you don't "hurt" her in the wrong way. I know this isn't answering your question, I just don't want someone to die from being choked during sex.

[Eaglesoars]

thats not treating her like a slut thats what turns her on, trust me if you want her to be willing to have sex often do that for her, Just establish a way of her telling you when to stop choking her

[Threadd]

Hmm looks like a job for dr. Phile

[SANDMAN032]

I know I am late but I like this topic and I can relate... we are in our 30's now but since 22 we had issues. I was lay back sweet and kind type of guy. learned quickly if I wanted to be with the girl I loved I had to stop and realize nice guys finish last. she run off, throw me out, file restraining orders all kinds of crazy shit just so she could mingle. so after our first child she started opening up. 2nd child more details and by the 3rd I fully understood she wanted to be a slave to me. collar dog chain type stuff. since we have children a lot of that is kept behind the door from my children so they may never know. bottom line... she wants me to do what I want when ever I want. she wants to be my personal slut, I could have all my buddies run a train on her if I wished by the snap of my fingers and her never turning her head or saying no because thats what I want.

many women love this but they must be attracted to you in order for her to be so open about such kinky stuff. you could never go out and say yo bitch your my slave to some random chick. if your here wondering the same stuff this guy is, and just reading.. just understand that there is levels. meaning diffrent types S&M bondage etc.. some women have dates for this or time frame. some have set days. some like 24/7 safe words list goes on. if you find a woman like this strap the fuck in and enjoy that ride because it will lead to more girlfriends etc. if your lucky. you are now a king... own it Boyz