What do guys feel about taking a girls virginity away?

So I'm a virgin and I haven't told him yet. We talked about sex already but I haven't told him I never had sex. Should I tell him? i'm afraid for his reaction. What do you guys feel about taking a girls virginity away?
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  • Some will like it and see it as an honor.
    Some will see it as extra work and expect crappy sex.

    Instead of telling him you're a virgin, educate yourself on sex so you can put out. There are tons of free guides made by professional sex teachers/experts (not pornstars) that will show you how to ride and suck a dick. Seriously, you can gain knowledge without ever having sex before lol. There's no reason to let being a virgin make you be lame in bed.

    Search Lover's Guide in pornhub or find one of their dvds in amazon.

    And make sure you both do lots of foreplay and that he eats your pussy and losing your virginity will not feel so bad.

    If he's the type of guy that gets off from deflowering women then tell him, but if he's not, then just let your knowledge speak for itself.

    You could also educate yourself like I told you and simply told him that you played around with didlos, then when you put out, he will be impressed by your skills. Then you can pop up and say "I was a virgin btw."

    • Hahaha thank you but that's not really something for me haha. And if I practiced I still will be super nervous when I have sex with him.

    • I understand lol. I just wanted to provide an idea in case you were worried about sex quality lol. I just thought you would feel more comfortable if you had some kind of background knowledge about sex lol.

    • Haha thankyou! it's just that I'm scare for his reaction when I tell him I'm still a virgin. i can't text him that random haha we first have to talk about sex and then maybe I can tell him. But because he's older and more experienced.. i'm afraid to tell him or more nervous..

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  • I would want to know for sure, because it can make a bit of a mess. It would also change my expectations, and how I approached it. Generally need to take things much slower, especially that first insertion, as it's going to be uncomfortable. Can't just start going at it like you would normally. So it would be in your best interests to let him know, as it could help him keep things a little more calm and manageable.

    As for how guys feel about it... there are a ton of different reactions, guys think about it in different ways. Personally I like it, it makes me feel a bit like a mentor, and I like mentoring in all sorts of areas, sex is no different. But keep in mind that if you don't tell him, you are starting your sexual life off with a bit of a lie in an attempt to mitigate his potential reaction. And that is something that is not cool. When the choice is between 'should I be honest, or should I not', honesty is always the right answer. Not the easy answer, necessarily, but the right answer.

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  • I think you should tell him if its something you really wanna do. If he don't know he may just think you aren't and get a little to rough with you and that'll cause you to hurt! I can tell you when I lost mine it didn't hurt and I didn't bled either, but I told the guy and so he took it easy with me and truthfully did everything a guy in that spot should do. After it was over he cuddled with me and made sure I was okay because the last thing he wanted was for my first time to be awful, even if he didn't get a shit about me he still didn't wanna ruin it for me. I'm not going to tell you not to do it but be sure its what you want and remember you can never get it back. I can tell you even now as a married woman who loves her husband more than words and hates the guy who took my card I still do care about him and he will always have special spot in my heart. He was just a fuck buddy that I went to high school with, and for the record I was 19 so we wasn't still in school Lol.

    • Thanks for your good advice! That's why I want to tell him I'm still a virgin, so he can do it slow. That it hopefully won't hurt that much. But he's 22 so has lot more experience as me and thats why I'm afraid to tell him. What id e thinks I'm stupid at the same time he might feel special because I've waited for someone special, and thats him.

    • Yes you should really tell him... the guy I lost mine to and my husband as well have more experience than me Lol. The guy I lost mine to probably doesn't know how many girls he's slept with... and well my husbands list isn't near that long (5 total for him) but he's ten years older than me. Lol but my husband has never complained about my lack of experience :) I don't know where you live at or what the laws in your state are but in some states he could in a lot of trouble for having sex with a minor! Say your folks found out and got really upset and went to the police he could have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life even though that may not be the case. Its just something to think about.

    • Yes everyone here is telling me about jail and things. But where I live, the netherlands, there it is not a big deal. i've never heard about it actually and he lives in Italy and he has also no problem with it. if you didn't knew yet, we're doing long distance since I met him 1,5 month ago. So he's going to visit me soon in 1 or 2 months and we already talked about sex, that's why I want to tell him.. Thanks for your good advice! :)

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  • Depends on how much he cares about her and respects her.

    If he hardly knows her and she has not given him unlimited reason for him to genuinely give a f*ck then he probably won't. If he has not developed a sturdy, strong bond with her, the care he has for her is not nearly as massive as it could be and he will care less. Generally, if the guy has does not have a close connection with the girl, the more likely he will mainly be concerned about his own sexual gratification.

  • I think it's important you tell him. Like you said, you've been waiting. If you decide to do it with this guy it's obvious you see something in him that makes you want to lose it with him and not other guys. Losing your virginity to someone is a big deal. It's good to be honest. He won't see it as a negative thing.

    • i'm 16 so everyone thinks I'm so young but I'm very mature for my age. i had a lot of chances to had sex with guys but I knew they didn't love me and now I met someone 1,5 month ago and he's amazing. i want him to be my first. But i'm kind of afraid for his reaction when I tell him I'm still a virgin.

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  • That is a strange question? what do you think a guy would feel?
    I mean there are guys that would never want to be a womans first, or last for that matter...
    but overall I don't think any guy will care.

  • Don't care. She doesn't even have to tell me she's a virgin if she doesn't want to. Makes me no difference.

    • But it makes difference for me cause then he can do it a little slow, so it won't hurt that much

    • Ohhhh. Well yeah tell him that. I mean even if you weren't a virgin he should go slow at first. Never should a guy just go full force right out the gate. I don't.

    • But because he's older and probably has more experience, I'm afraid to tell him. Maybe he thinks it's stupid.

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  • Most guys would actually prefer it if a girl was a virgin

    • I hope he thinks the same

    • You are under 18 anyway so it's normal to still be a Virgin.

    • Yes i know but he's 22 so maybe he thinks it's stupid that I never had sex

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  • I don't think he will care whether you tell him or not, everyone who has had sex starts out a virgin, you have to start somewhere. No matter if the sex is terrible he should be forgiving since you're inexperienced, though I doubt any guy would find sex terrible.

  • honestly most guys wouldn't mind unless he really wants a girl who isn't a virgin:P

    • Hope he won't mind. He's 22 so hope he'll understand me but I'm not so sure what if he thinks its stupid?

    • well if he thinks its stupid then he is in fact stupid lol. more so a dumb ass hahaa. no offense.

  • If you tell him, watch his reaction carefully.

    • i'm afraid to tell him. What if he thinks it's stupid? But at the same time I really wants to tell him. Because I've waited for the perfect one and he is, so he might feel special

    • How old are you?

    • i'm 16 but almost 17 and he's 22. So he's older yes and I'm young yes. But I'm very mature for my age, he thought I was 19. And the age difference doesn't feel like 5 years. It feels so good to be with him. But we're doing long distance so I won't see him that much. But he's coming to visit me next month. Finally after 1,5 month. And we texted a lot about sex so that's why I think I have to tell him

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  • I'm a girl but I think that you should DEFINETALY tell him.. *scratch that* I know u should.. Because he'll be more gentle and it'll make him feel special he's your first. He would probably take pride in that in a good way.

    • Yes that's also what I think. But what if he thinks it's stupid or something? i don't think so but what if it is?

  • I am Virgin but i am damn sure that a guy feels like a real man when he is responsible for it.
    But depends babe. Players won't feel any extraordinary.

    • i think he will. But he's older so more experienced and that makes me afraid. He's 22 and I'm 17 I dont want him to think that I'm stupid because I haven't had sex yet.

    • No a guy never considers an inexperienced girl stupid. Infact he will rock you like anything confidently and make you do things to please him. He is a performer and hence you dont have to do anything except witnessing his advances. He won't feel under pressure because of your inexperience. Problem is for Virgin guys.

    • I'm going to tell him but not random haha. We're doing long distance so I have to text him or I have to tell him on skype. But than I prefer texting because it's a little awkward. Thanks for your good words! i'll tell him but I'm really nervous. i know you're right but I still doubt a little bit

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  • I think you should wait til marriage.

  • Couldn't say, still a V here.
    Also the way you phrase it, i imagine myself kindnappying her virginity , stuff it in a sack and "taking it away", mwahahahaha!

  • Don't do this early what if things don't work out with you guys and then maybe you will regret it I'm not a virgin but I waited until I was 18 to have sex just be careful and really think about it…

    • The problem is we're doing long distance. i've met him 1,5 month ago and we both like each other a lot. And he's coming to visit me soon, next month probably. he's 22 and Italian so i know he wants sex and I feel like I'm ready. i want him to be my first. i'm 17 by the way. But I do want to tell him I'm a virgin cause then he won't expect too much from me.

    • It's not about him it what he is expecting for you, it's about how you feel and how comfortable le you are. And you have to tell him that you are a virgin it's better than shocking him while you are having sex. I can't stop you but I can tell you to really think hard of it and please do tell him

  • I couldn't tell you since I'm one myself.

    • You damn lier. I remember seeing you in another post saying you already lost your vcard

    • Where? I've had a girlfriend, I've seen and performed oral on her before, but never actually had sex.

    • Oral on her boobs that is, not her Hoo-haa

  • if the virgin was my wife, it would be very proud giving thing.
    it it's my gf's virginity, i wouldn't wanna take it away

    • Good guy good guy.

    • So even if she know this or not, i think you should tell her you're virgin and can't let him inside ur pussy.

    • Why wouldn't you take it away?

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  • Nothing. I won't

    I once did, But I was virgin back then too but now. Why would I go through all that work lol

  • Never done it but I would love to have sex with a Virgin :)

  • Most important thing in life,, u must always be honest,, u have something special to share, make sure it's with the right person and that's the person you never have to worry about talking to ever!!

  • I'm nervous to be honest. I'm a virgin too.

    • Yes but is it nervous right?

  • I am 19 and a virgin myself. I will only lose my virginity to another virgin

  • If he minds, then he doesn't even deserve, to have sex with you.

  • Please don't lose your virginity so young... I dont care how much you think you love this boy. Im 26 and recently lossed it to someone and the pain afterwards if it doesn't work is crucial. Ur age says under 18.. ur still a child. Listen to me when I say Dont do it!!

    • Weather or not, loosing your virginity was a good or bad experience, doesn't depend on age. You said you whee 26, and that it was terrible afterwards. That just proves, it has nothing to do with age, because you obviously where an adult. We do not know, if this girl is 14 or 18, but she could be mature enough, for it be a good experience. It's up to every individual, at what age they are mature enough. Some are ready at 14, while some aren't until they are 24. I lost mine at 15, and it was a great experience, and a very good memory. It wasn't even with a boyfriend. Only one self, can determine when sex, is right for you. :)

    • it's not that I really want it but I've waited for someone perfect. And I've had a lot of chances to have sex but I knew they didn't loved me. And this guys is amazing. I've met him on my holiday and I had 2 amazing weeks with him. We're doing long distance for 1,5 month already. And he's going to visit me soon. But I feel like he's worth the pain. i really love him, I've never had those strong feelings. So We talked about sex already and I think I have to tell him I'm still a virgin. I dont want him to expect to much. And at the same time he might feel special that i've waited for him. And if I tell him, he can be slow and careful.

    • I'm 16, almost 17 and he's 22

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