Why is my man not cumming when I give him head?

[BayJ18]

First off, no its not because I'm bad at giving head. He loves it! The first time I went down on him, he was begging me to stop because it felt "sooo goood". But even though it seemed he was dying of pleasure, he didn't get off. I didn't think anything of it at first and we just continued having sex. After a while though, of me giving him head and him not cumming I thought I was doing something wrong. I asked him if I was hurting him, if there was a certain way he liked it, or if I could do anything different period. He said nothing and that he liked it the way it was. I even asked about past relationships and he said he didn't cum from oral sex with them either. I figured he wasn't enjoying himself but he never goes soft during oral sex and he is always really into it. Every time i ask to go down he says yes. I love giving him head but i feel like Im not doing my job if I can't get him to cum. I want him to. He can only get off when we are actually having sex, not oral sex. So generally it starts with me going down and then it eventually leading to him inside of me. Now Im not complaining but sometimes you just want something fast! I get all hot and bothered and really enjoying sucking on him and I've tried EVERYTHING (except for his butt, he's not into all that) but, he still won't give it up! He isn't circumsised and I've never been with someone who wasn't and i know this makes the penis wayy more sensitive. I'm thinking this could maybe be a part of the issue? I dont know, any suggestions?

[Orion1084]

Honestly, it sounds like you're doing most things correctly, so I can really only thinjk of a couple of possibilities.

The first is that he just doesn't want to finish in your mouth. Maybe he secretly things it's disgusting or demeaning, and that's causing just enough of a mental block to keep him from going over the edge. Kinda of how it's more difficult for some women to orgasm if they're not relaxed.

The other thing that I can suggest is this: when you're having sex (as in actual intercourse) and you know he's getting close, just before he explodes, pull off of him and take him in your mouth. Suck on the head and stroke him with your hand. If he's REALLY close when you do that, he shouldn't be able to stop himself from giving you what you want.

I hope that helps! :-)

[BayJ18]

Thanks! We've done the whole pull out and have him finish in my mouth. But I still just want straight oral sex. Like a quickie? I guess i'll just have to make do. Thanks though :)

[Orion1084]

Ah, ok. I wasn't sure if you'd tried that, or not. Damn, I really wish I had some more suggestions for you. I don't get off from oral sex, myself, and I think it's great that you're putting so much effort into this.

[BayJ18]

Haha thank you! May I ask why you don't get off to oral sex? It may help me in my investigation lol

[Orion1084]

Sure, I don't mind at all. Anything I can do to help. :-) Honestly, the reason that I don't get off from oral sex is because I'm a little bit big down there. The length isn't a problem so much as my girth, which is well above average. I'm not gigantic, by any means, but women have difficulty fitting me into their mouth. Even if they say it's not that big of a deal, I can tell when they're struggling with it. I don't enjoy causing discomfort or pain, as I believe that sex should be enjoyable for both partners. If I know that a girl's jaw is going to hurt because of me, then I just can't enjoy myself enough to orgasm.

[BayJ18]

Well you're very kind. :) Thanks for sharing. My boyfriend doesn't sound to be as girthy as you so i dont think thats the issue. But thanks again!

[Orion1084]

Thank you, I appreciate that. I'm sorry that I couldn't come up with any surefire ways to get him to... well, fire, lol. I can only urge you to keep trying, and hopefully discover that one thing that'll make him pop. :-)

[Hidden_P]

Best answer - I do point 2 sometimes.

[islands7]

Add some things to your BJ to succeed!

he reads a very erotic story that always gets him hard during BJ
or steamy p*rn video

Electric massager on balls, shaft, head

HUM during it

Toward finale, concentrate on top of penis head near shaft, even lightly teeth it +
squeeze balls as firm as allowed

[LastGirlScout]

Just keep swimming, just keep swimming...

Just keep going, mix the pace up a bit, get him really hyped up then drop it back down to nice and slow and deep... the switch it up again etc... just tease the fuck out of him until he literally begs you to stop or he's done.

[Realistic07]

I think the issue is much more simple than that. how long have you had one oral section?

[billy420]

Just comes down to what gets you off and what doesn't. I do sometimes cum but not every time, like it feels great but I just don't know but then it comes down to if I cum now as in foreplay then we won't be able to make love and it's just something I prefer

[syd48]

Possibly he is masturbating too much and this can be a serious problem if he is doing that too much. Alternatively he could be watching too much p*rn. This could be giving him a mental block.
He is spoiling your enjoyment and his own with his extra activities I think.

[stevie123]

I would guess that he has a mental block about cumming in a girls mouth.
He says it happened with other girls, so you are not to blame.
I applaud your attempts to "finish " the job.
It appears that he can cum in mouth if he is tricked into it by fucking him first.
He may have had a past GF choke or spit up on him.
Make him believe that you want/need him to cum there.
Show him how much you enjoy it when he does it.
Swallow or not to his preference.

[TadCurious]

Maybe he has a mental block about cumming in your mouth. Even if you tell him it's cool he may on some level not be able to "let go."

[countrydude]

Sometimes it takes us aittle longer to cumm by oral sex. Not sure him being uncircumsized has anything to do with it. But I am circumsised and the Head or glans is most sensitive.
You sound as if you are doing everything right. But try stroking him with your hand too. Keep his Dick wett wifh your saliva, abd stroke the head slding your hand half way down his shaft. start slow and speed up as you go.

[toutatis]

he must be having a medical problem.