Why are females more likely to be prissy and reluctant about losing their virginity? Why are girls so prudish? Why don't girls like sex?

[Anonymous]

I find it odd, especially considering most guys are eager to lose it. Being sexual is just a new experience, yet girls do everything to be as prudish as possible. They often don't even watch p*rn, or even masturbate because they are "not interested in sexuality". Sexuality is defined by your goddamn hypothalamus, so you are supposed to be sexual. If you are "not interested" and don't have a functional sex drive, that just means you are inherently BROKEN. Why are girls so prudish? Why aren't they eager to lose their virginity?

[Anonymous]

- Because we're taught at a very young age to not just go and lose it to any first guy who asks to have sex with us.
- We have a lot more to lose when it comes to having sex. We can get pregnant.
- A lot of girls simply feel very uncomfortable at the thought of losing it to someone they don't love and trust. Losing your virginity can be fairly painful and a bit stressful too for a girl. That's why a lot of girls want to lose it to someone they trust. So that they know for sure that he will be careful and will do everything in his power to make it a pleasurable experience for her.
- Girls and women are always told not to be sexual, not to be promiscuous, not to be a "whore" or too slutty. There are people out there who literally think that girls are whores if they've had sex. Girls get very harshly judged for having sex. Guys do not. That's why so many girls are very insecure when it comes to exploring themselves and their sexuality. Society tells us to hide our sexuality, while encouraging guys to announce their sexuality to the world.
- And since so many girls are insecure, they just feel uncomfortable making themselves even more vulnerable. Getting naked, having sex.
- A lot of girls do masturbate, and some do watch p*rn. It's just something a lot of girls wouldn't want to admit, again, because society tells us to hide our sexuality just because we shouldn't be "too slutty".
- Girls who are like this aren't prude. They're just scared/insecure/uncomfortable or genuinely simply careful.

You don't understand this because you're not a man. You don't get the same societal pressure when it comes to your sexuality. You don't get harshly judged for having sex. For you, there are barely any consequences of having sex, except for maybe STDs. Girls can get pregnant. You can't.
And no, asexuality is not a sickness. It's just a sexuality, like any other sexuality. Stop being so ignorant.

[Opinion Owner]

you're not a woman*

[Asker]

You can do anything you want as long as nobody else knows about it. You can be judged for only what they know about you.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure. And who's to say that that random guy I decided to have sex with won't go around telling all his buddies that he fucked me? Again, this is why trust is essential for so many girls.

[Asker]

Yeah, fair enough. It makes sense to be cautious and not have sex with random people whom you don't trust. It seems awkward to sex outside of a relationship, anyways. And you shouldn't get in a relationship with someone you don't trust to begin with.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Girls are just being careful.

[Slavanna]

Girls who don't masturbate may simply be very religious. I'm not, but I don't masturbate anyway, I don't get kicks from that (either because I suck at pleasuring myself or it's just my nervous system being shitty as usual).
As for sex, it's... pretty complex. One thing you need to know about sex for women is that it's a huge responsibility. Any sex with any precautionary measures could lead to a pregnancy. Now, contraceptives are a relatively new thing; before they were invented, people needed another way to make sure a girl was free of STDs and didn't give birth out of wedlock - keep her from having sex. Easy as that, huh? It's culturally ingrained into girls by now that sex is something they need to be "protected from", even though now we have condoms and pills and all the good stuff. And as for first times... well, the first time is pretty special for ANYTHING we do. We're OBSESSED with doing something for the first time. Just look at all the mommies who post all the "first" things their kids do: first steps, first words, first toys, first whatever. Now put these two together: if sex is special, and doing anything for the first time is special, even if it's a basic action... then doing something special for the first special time is SUPER SPECIAL.

Now, as for eagerness to lose virginity... I'm not too eager about that. I just go with the flow and see where it gets me. If I want to have sex with a guy, I will, but I don't see it as a burden. I don't think I'll ever sleep around just to "get rid of it" - I'm a "target-sexual" sort of person and I only want to be sexual with one person at a time, because to me it's a natural consequence of all the other feelings I have for them... they never reciprocate, though. And that's a pity, 'cause when I'm horny, I go crazy like a cat in heat.

[Asker]

I'm surprised, because with sufficient biological stimulation you're supposed to get the clitorial response either way after a given amount of time.

[XRabbitHeartX]

~Guys and girls are wired differently when it comes to how we view sex. Girls want to feel loved to want to have sex. Guys don't seem to care about the love part.
~There's a larger risk for us to just explore our sexualities and be as eager as guys... men don't have to worry about pregnancy... we do.
~Double standards: As already pointed out... if we don't have sex we are prudes, if we do want our fun like guys, we get called sluts and whores.
~What's so wrong about wanting to share your body with someone special? I wouldn't share many things with random people, so why should I want to share my body with just anyone?
~ Just because a girl doesn't actively engage in sex at the moment doesn't mean she has a low sex drive.. it might just mean she has some self control and has values when it comes to sex. Not everyone acts like animals and need to react every time they feel a urge. It's called self control. You should learn about it.
~Lastly, and I'll repeat my first point, girls and guys view sex differently... we are biologically programmed differently. It's not a choice. It's how we are made. We are simply more emotional and have different needs than guys. Deal with it bro.

[Asker]

Which part of this justifies seeing masturbation as wrong, or even immoral?

[Asker]

Honestly, that "wired" thing is funny. You can attribute whatever value you want to sexuality, that is what it will mean to you. The current system is completely cultural, guys aren't "wired" about this anywhere.

[XRabbitHeartX]

No person needs to justify their reasons for not wanting to masturbate. Seriously dude. Get off your high horse. Everyone is entitled to do whatever the want without having to provide a reason for it to be OK in your eyes. That's just pretty bizarre and ridiculous. No one needs an "okay" from you to decide if their actions is OK or not cause it sounds like that is what you want. .. you want everyone to conform to your idea of sexuality and therefor people who don't need to justify themselves to please you...

[XRabbitHeartX]

And yes... people are wired in certain ways. Please go educate yourself in psychology and biology. More specific how the brain works and why genders behave differently. Something you should have done before posting this very question.

[Asker]

Right, because the importance of a cultural construct (love, commitment) is biologically defined. You can choose to think certain things are more important than others based on morality and conceptual thinking, it is your own choice. You put unnecessary blame on males, yet females just as often have sex with random strangers just because they think they look attractive, it is called a one night stand.

[kangy]

I agreed @QA she isn't blaming the guy s

[XRabbitHeartX]

Sweety I've never blamed men once single time in my answer nor replies so I don't know where you're getting that information from but clearly not from me or here. I've given my answer, take it or leave it but don't put words in my mouth. Done.

[kangy]

i know, i didn't refer to u blaming guys. i was reading what QA said to u-* You put unnecessary blame on males, yet females just as often have sex with random strangers just because they think they look attractive, it is called a one night stand.* so i said u r not blaming guys. i dont know where he got the impression from

[kangy]

or the sweety u refer to is QA? LOL

[Asker]

Probably me. I lost interest in this answer because it's basically telling me to screw myself.

[XRabbitHeartX]

Oh no it wasn't directed at you xD It was towards the writer of this question :)

[Asker]

Yup, me :p

[aamy811]

Because girls are taught that we shouldn't be sexual or we're a whore. the whole girl community is just double standards. Don't dress sexy or your a slut, but guys don't like girls who are prudes.
Also moms hype sex up or girls making them think everything has to be perfect and exact, and if it's not you shouldn't have sex.
When the whole school finds out a guy had sex, he's amazing. They treat him like a god for shackling of the chains of virginity. When girls do it they're whore and everyone considers them sluts. Thus making them less prone to loosing their virginity.
When you hear about sex as a girl, it sounds painful. The Idea of a guy thrusting something into the most sensitive whole in your body, isn't pleasant. They make up phrases like "cherry popping", anything that's related to my vagina and "popping" sounds painful.
And with girls we know that things like sex has big reproductions like getting pregnant. I'm high schooling never heard a guy being called a whore because he got a girl pregnant. There's just a lot of hype they put around girls and sex

[Asker]

"The Idea of a guy thrusting something into the most sensitive whole in your body, isn't pleasant." It seems the opposite from the male perspective.

[aamy811]

Well which sounds better, to be stabbed or to stab

[Asker]

Who said anything about stabbing? It's supposed to be an action of love.

[aamy811]

Well honestly people over hype the first time. They tell you it's going to be amazing and passionate and you connect as one. But honestly (for most girls at least) it's painful, uncomfortable, and mostly just plain awkward. The moment it starts you want it to end. And when I say stabbing that was like a penis metaphor

[Asker]

No joke, I'm a virgin so I'm still in the "overhype phase". It can't possibly be that bad as a female if you regularly masturbate and finger yourself and stuff.

[aamy811]

But the thing is, most teenage girls don't. Girls aren't encouraged to masturbate. Girls don't talk about masturbation. Girls usually aren't as horned up as guys, or we are but just suppress. For girls masturbation is such a dirty unspeakable thing. And if you do, do it sometimes you feel guilty and think your a freak. Honestly I didn't do it until I had sex.

[Asker]

Well that's what the question is about, if you supposedly have sexual arousal triggered in your body, you will want a release in one form or another, which would force you to want to masturbate. Yet many girls still don't. Why is that?

[aamy811]

It's seen as a boy thing. And if your a girl that does it your slutty and weird. Also in shows they always make guys do it it seem normal, but you never hear about women doing. Just another thing made to force girls to want to give It faster

[Asker]

There should be a natural drive for it, whether it's a "boy" thing or not. Albeit I don't know how the parents would react... even though many of them have sex and generate kids of their own (duh, that's why they're parents), they're still acting prudish and immature when their kids start exploring sexuality. I don't really understand why that happens. If nobody knows about it, then you can do anything as long as it harms no one, yet most girls still don't do it. You don't need to tell the world that you're doing... oh. Well that explains it. Heh. But even in anonymous surveys, the number of females who admit they masturbate is still significantly lower than guys. I wonder why that is.

[aamy811]

We have a natural dive, I don't think it's as strong as boys but it's still there. Also we just ignore it. When we feel horny we just don't succumb to our urges as much. I think men are taught to explore all their fantasies more and women are taught to keep their virginity all sacred. They make it seem that once a woman looses her virginity, she just damaged goods. Also no patent wants their kids to have sex because they know all the cons that can come from sex

[Theguyoverthere]

It depends on what they're told when they grow up, if they truly do grow up. There's a double standard in parenting to protect the daughter from sex while not protecting the son. You'll hear dads flipping out on a daughter "because she can get pregnant" yet you'll barely hear of a dad flipping out on a son about the worry of getting someone else's daughter pregnant. So guys these days only really get the "don't get STDs" portions of sex while girls get these extreme teachings of "watch out for men" things.

Overall though, many girls have different ways they go about sex. Some of them religious obviously. It's very common for them to be "relationship only." These types know they'll get feelings and don't want an aftermath of hurt. But honestly, my second job is full of single mothers. It's really disturbing. So I don't think prudes are overall as common as they used to be. We got single mothers everywhere. I got one at my second job who has 3 kids and she started having them at 16 years old. I see plenty online on these dating sites as well. So they're definitely screwing away.

Just look for their attitude in regards to sex. If she says things like "I don't wanna give it up" or "the guy needs to earn it" that shows you that she looks at sex as all about her and not a shared experience. So not only would she be a prude, but sex with her would be extremely self-centered. She'd by cynical to think that having someone perform oral sex on her with no returning of the favor would somehow be a privilege to the guy while the guy is left hanging. Just watch out for these types. Just because a girl isn't jumping the gun and darting into bed doesn't mean she's a prude. It's just these ones with the sick and twisted mentalities who really just look to manipulate men by making false leads into thinking they'll be having sex later.

[Asker]

I wanted to give the MH to either the asexual girl or one of the girls who portrayed the social cultural aspects of tradition regarding the brainwashing that do their best at trying to prevent them from displaying any kind of sexual behavior, however your answer is fairly graphic and stem from actual experience with victims of the opposite scenario, thus you get the MH.

[Asker]

So if you want to see another good answer, look at @aamy811 's answer.

[thetundrawolf]

News flash, women are not men.

Did you know that many women never have an orgasm during sex?

Guess how many men have an orgasm if allowed to finish sex.

Yeah... Nearly all of us.

Women are more emotional, and more sensitive in heart than we are. She must be "In love" and "In the right mood" to enjoy sex. All we need is something warm that won't run away.

Women are more passive by nature. We are more aggressive. For a woman, her first sexual experience is a tremendous mental and emotional thing. She never forgets her first... And if we were honest, we'd admit the same thing- but we don't.

Women are also weaker physically- they are at his mercy, more or less, in a relationship.

A woman can never afford to be manipulated by sex... So she can "turn it off", or have it turned off if she is not in the right mood.

Women have much, much more to lose by getting with a rotten guy, than a guy has getting with a wicked woman. If all women enjoyed sex automatically like guys do, they'd be "laid" into manipulation by evil men, in my opinion.

Women are not prudish, they are wise. Some of them.

We take sex lightly, we are foolish, most of us.

[feral_shade]

I'll play along. If all 3,050,000,000 women have the same "flaw"... how is that broken?

Conversely, if a sex drive is a primal impulse, why can't guys exercise some self-restraint?

[Asker]

Not all women have the flaw. That's why it can be counted as a flaw. The sex drive cannot be properly overridden, aka "self-restraint" sounds wonderful in concept, but the body forces you to get release in one way or another because otherwise you'll be overloaded with sperm in your testicles and causes you physical distress, if aroused then even blue balls which are extremely painful by the way. Also, if neither of these occur, then you get nocturnal emissions which are just a plain nuisance.

[rjroy3]

I don't agree with this guy in the least. But it is a primal urge that is CONSTANT. We show restraint every day. Testosterone is a hell of a drug. Talk to any girl that has taken steroids for medical reasons, your sex drive goes through the roof. I'm not excusing the dogs so to speak, but seriously. We fight urges all the time.

[Asker]

@rjroy3 now I really wonder if steroids can fix asexuality. Hmm...

[rjroy3]

Honestly, most girls that have issues either haven't met the right guy or are dealing with head issues. What she feels and wants vs what she was taught growing up. In my experience. I'd never say girls are asexual. No human is

[Persempre]

It's not that we don't like sex. Your first time should be special, you want it with someone you love and someone who loves you. It is exciting and it will hurt. You dont't have sex just with someone you know. Girls are really romantic, they want a perfect boyfriend, and they want sex with him. Not just a random person. For you guys sex is easy but for us it will hurt and it means a lot. You want your first time with someone special.

[Asker]

Some people don't find it exciting because they are pretty much in terror of the thought of the pain, rather than think about any positive aspect it could have. If girls masturbated more often, it would hurt less...

[Persempre]

No sex and masturbate is way different. We're afraid that it will hurt and that's probably why we are so nervous. You should respect that and make her feel comfortable. and no the first time is not excited but that's not out problem. When you do it easy and with respect, then it won't hurt that much. But when you only think about yourself then it will hurt and then she'll be afraid for the next time. We girls don't deserve that. We wait for someone special and it would be nice if the guy tries to make it special or at least that she feels comfortable with you. The first time is really emotional and a lot of guys don't respect that. You should be happy that she waited for the perfect one so that you are perfect in her eyes. Don't act like you only want sex and that it's her problem that it hurt

[Asker]

I have waited more than two years, I think it's reasonable to start getting frustrated. Also, most of the pain stems from a lack of stretching, aka if girls fingered themselves using two fingers more often then it would hurt significantly less later.

[idklmao]

There are 2 main reasons I can think of. First, we love in a world with double standards. Guys have sex and are eager about it and the get praised by their peers, but when girls are excited about having sex or lose their virginity at a "young age" they get slut shamed and are looked down upon by their female peers. Also it seems like when other guys find out a certain girl isn't a virgin or enjoys sex they don't respect her as much and act like she's a slut who doesn't care about relationship but just wants sex. Once word get outs that you're not a virgin it's hard to tell if guys wanna really date you or sleep with you. And some people value their virginty. It's portent and some people want it to be a special moment with someone they love, not just a quick hook up with someone who you'll never talk to again

[idklmao]

*important not portent Maybe if we could stop all these double standards involving sex and sexual desire and stop slut shaming girls because they enjoy sex then things would be different. It's absurd that it's ok for a guy to have sex and enjoy it but as soon as a girl died the same, even if she's the same age, she's called a slut and disrespected.

[Asker]

I personally think it's plain weird to have sex with anyone outside of a committed relationship regardless of gender.

[aficionado]

You seem to be a bit off here. What you ask in the question, would have been valid 2 decades back. But now, kids as young as 13 or 14 are losing their virginity, there have been too many teenage pregnancies and other similar stuff. So you see, virginity is now more of an 'individual' choice, rather than a gender related one. There are guys and girls who value virginity, and also guys and girls who don't mind losing it.

[cantsaylol]

The girls I've met love sex and they're the ones making the move for it first.. Maybe it's the vibe ure giving them?
I've had a lot of girls admit to me they watch p*rn and masturbate

[justbeinghonest]

Plus one

[Asker]

That's cool. They should be doing that. It's odd if they don't.

[jesseray]

I like that girls hold off on sex. I'm not a fan of women having sex with men they have no interest in taking as a husband, as that increases their risk of giving birth to a child without a father and contracting an STD that could be passed on to their children and future husband. Plus, their future husband has to think about one or more douche bags taking advantage of his wife that way, which lowers his respect for her because she let herself be taken advantage of and lowers her sex appeal because he has to think about her being with all those douche bags.

[lululucifer]

You're being insensitive about the situation. Males and females are genetically different... very different. You should make use of google.
Also, females do masturbate. They might just be shy about admitting it.

[Asker]

This is more a cultural aspect than a biological one.

[lululucifer]

Please just google. Testosterone has a lot to do with it, which isn't cultural.

[KBob93]

Yep. Testosterone is the hormone of aggression & sexual instigation. Estrogen is the hormone of cautiousness & doubt. For the exact reasons of nature: the woman chooses the most suitable spouse. We have muniscule amounts ofnit compsred to you guys.

[inamorata]

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q985753-guys-what-told-you-wanted-to-stay-a-virgin-until-make-a-lifelong - This is my question on GaG from a while back and in the main post, and bellow talking to the guys, I explain this in detail. Feel free to read it.

[Asker]

Heh, nice in concept, but you can't guarantee the promise of lifelong commitment. Not even necessarily because someone leaves, but because they die sooner than you.

[inamorata]

Lifelong does mean as long as both of you are alive. And I understand I can't guarantee it will be lifelong, but if I commit to it, it means I'll do my all to make it one.

[Asker]

Reasonable.

[apshm]

Society tells women that they're not valuable if they're not perfect virgin snowflakes, in case you haven't noticed. We're brainwashed since birth (especially those who are religious) that sex is dirty and bad and you deserve to be ashamed if you have it. Sexual oppression at its finest.

[Asker]

I'm surprised many people get over it and still procreate.

[apshm]

When we stop dehumanizing sexually active women and start encouraging young girls to explore and embrace their sexuality the way guys do, the world will be a happier place.

[Asker]

Dehumanizing women in general. Why else is it possible to see people who deceive women into having sex with them, then leave the next day?

[apshm]

I agree. This is why feminism is such a necessary thing.

[Asker]

The only problem is that they're not really increasing awareness. In fact, many people don't even realize that it is a problem. Remember how people thought slavery was okay just because the person was black? Same reason behind why people think it's okay to fuck then dump a person just because they're female. There should be classes at school that enforce intergender communication with rotating groups. But they are not doing that.

[apshm]

They actually are increasing awareness. That's why feminism has become increasingly more popular, especially in the past decade. There's of course so much work to do, but increasing people's awareness on these kinds of social issues is a must.

[Asker]

Feminism has a terrible reputation. It should be a government driven education reform, but they have "more important things to do" than fixing society's errors.

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[justbeinghonest]

This is news to me. Girls don't like sex? I must be a guy then, or maybe I'm sick.

[Asker]

Most guys are driven by their sex drives so that they'll feel no pain after arousal, the body is defined in such a way that it causes you physical pain if you're aroused with no release. Blue balls suck.

[justbeinghonest]

LOOOOOL not even close to my point.

[Asker]

It did not answer why there are many girls who don't masturbate at all.

[justbeinghonest]

I think most girls masturbate actually

[Asker]

Yet they're prudish enough not to admit it.

[Tractorbeam]

Only about 17% of unmarried females are asexual. Unfortunately some of them get married and find out afterward.
The rest have some interest.

[Asker]

That is a surprisingly high number.

[harakiri]

we like sex, we just don't want to deal with stupid guys

[Asker]

That's not true about the people who get domestically abused though.

[harakiri]

What? I don't see your point.

[Asker]

People deal with stupid guys and marry them all the time. The point is irrelevant. The question is, why are there females who don't masturbate, ever.

[harakiri]

Because they don't want to. They don't have the desire. It's most likely related to brain chemistry and cultural and social norms. Virginity has a lot of significance tied to it in most cultures. As a straight guy, you are never going to understand what it means or feels like to let another person physically inside of you. For that reason alone, you're going to have a tough time grasping why girls care about their virginity.

[Asker]

The female genitals were designed for that purpose It isn't nearly as complicated as people make it seem. They should have the desire to masturbate if they have a functioning sex drive.

[harakiri]

What is it to you? Lol. Everyone has different sex drives, the same way everyone has different biological and psychological traits. Why do you have such a problem with people who have lower sex drives?

[Asker]

They are not working properly.

[harakiri]

Lmao, well I don't know what else to tell ya

[Asker]

Asexual people are weird. I want studies about their neurological structure. Do you think anyone has made a few?

[harakiri]

google is your friend

[dymphnak]

Because we were taught to. Pretty dumb, but yeah.

[Asker]

But you can do whatever you want, despite what you've been taught.

[dymphnak]

That's the secret, though many people seem to not realize it. Some lack the courage to step out of that safe zone, while others prefer/feel the need to sacrifice their individual needs for the 'greater good'. Old habits die hard.

[Asker]

There is no real greater good apart from how you yourself define it.

[CommieDearest]

Maybe they just aren't interested in having sex with YOU.

[BeardedDude]

Wow, you do not sound nice, just answer the question politely. Why get rude. I mean, just because a guy has sex with a girl looking like you in this profile pic does not make her attractive or even anywhere near average. I'm sure 90% of men would sleep you not because your pretty but because you have a crevice on you, but I can bet you none of them would marry you. Men will do a "3 or a 4", perhaps lower if necessary simply to get over. They'll even date them just to have a steady "piece" to go to when they're in the mood. Men wouldn't settle on marrying that girl though, they want the "best" in the end, all the sleep partners don't matter. But the best part about this is once you hit 30 after your 10 millionth BF, you look even less attractive to guys. Now all your younger female peers in their 20s are stealing guys your age. 40 year old single men won't even want you then because they'll be after 20 year olds as well.

[CommieDearest]

@BeardedDude You don't know the happiness it brings me to work up a total stranger so badly. Lol. Thank you
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[MaskedSanity]

@CommieDearest I cried tears of joy reading this guy's textwall of butthurt. Nicely done, I applaud you.

[CommieDearest]

@MaskedSanity :D Thank you

[Johnyoo]

@CommieDearest... you do come off as a bit rude.

[CommieDearest]

@JohnYoo YAWNNNNN

[Johnyoo]

@CommieDearest... there you go again :/

[AnimeDreama]

Aww did your girlfriend not give you her pussy? TOO BAD! You get sex when your girlfriend wants it!

[crayven]

Whoa! I don't think that's what he meant...

[AnimeDreama]

I am referring to the last part of his question. Almost all of these questions are posted because the guy couldn't get his little bean pole in the girl. I'm also pretty sure it's the same idiot who posted the question about girls being sexually retarded.

[Asker]

No, it is not the same person, I would know if I were.

[Asker]

Although to be honest, that's funny to hear from a lesbian.

[Asker]

It makes me wonder if you are a lesbian just because you hate males for some inexplicable reason.

[AnimeDreama]

I don't hate men, just idiotic men who whine and bitch because the girl they want to fuck isn't putting out.

[littlethings]

Females are more reluctant about losing their virginity because most of the time sex is more emotional for us than for men, especially if it's our first time. My first time was a terrible exprience with a guy I didn't know well enough and he wanted nothing to do with me afterwards. I felt incredibly emotionally attached to him and was devastated that he dropped me the way he did. Also, females are worried about being labeled as "easy" or a "slut," which happens way too often.

"Sexuality is defined by your godamn hypothalamus, so you are supposed to be sexual." The hypothalamus does play an important role in your sex drive, but there are significant differences between what stimuli activates this area in men and women. Studies have shown that males exhibit greater activity in response to visual stimuli than women. Perhaps this is why some women don't masturbate? Maybe they need an actual physical stimulant in order to feel sexually aroused.

[Asker]

First, sorry about the first half of the statement, culture doesn't exactly support the idealism I do. Gender segregation is a bitch. Second, that's a possibility, actually. Albeit the visual stimuli aka watching pornographic activity should cause a mirror neuron reaction, hence why it's much more effective than just looking at nude pictures of women.

[wildspirit]

I'm very sexual. I love sex. p*rn and masturbation are boring in my opinion but I fucking love contact with a guy.

And by the way asexual people are NOT broken. Not everybody is the same

[gblue25]

Guys don't get it and never will. Females will catch feelings when being intimate. So for a female who is a virgin we want it to be with someone who isn't an asshole for us its painful for the first time. And we want it to be someone who cares about us genuinely not rushing us.

[Asker]

"Catch feelings"? I thought you were planning to be intimate with someone because you already have feelings for them? What you catch from sex is STDs, not feelings. You say it as if it were an epidemic.

[gblue25]

Not all but some of us are emotional as you might know. When your a virgin you don't want it to be an in and out situation we want it to be someone that we are serious about. After awhile we will feel some type of way. Sex is fine when your not a virgin and you can have more control over how your feelings are. There are people now who don't have sex because they catch feelings for the other person quick they have to be in a relationship.

[Asker]

I still don't understand why they'd have sex with people they don't have feelings for. I don't understand what you mean by "catching feelings".

[Lorna1224]

Men can separate "ACT OF SEX" from " EMOTIONAL FEELINGS" . Women on the other hand can not we have "SEX" and "EMOTION" together. That is just how we are biologically. Which is why women chose more carefully. I tried to explain the best I can I hope I helped.

[Lorna1224]

I didn't mean to sound sexist. Its just something to think about. (from my personal experience).

[Asker]

So can quite a few women, hence why one-night-stands are a thing. It takes two to tango. Honestly, the question is not really the separation itself, but whether or not you'd actually want to have sex with someone you have no feelings for.

[Asker]

All a female needs to do in order to have sex is lie down and wait, given that they've given their consent and not just on the ground waiting to catch a cold. Anyone can do that, "emotions" in general aren't a NECESSARY requirement.

[gblue25]

Your just not getting it. Guys can separate emotions and sex. We as women can not period point blank

[Asker]

That's bullshit. How is putting your penis inside someone else's vagina any more or less emotional than having someone's penis be put in you? Honestly, if anyone should think of it in a more emotional way, it's the guy. He's the one committing the action. The fact that culture counteracts this is what causes the deviance, but that doesn't mean it's a biological aspect that you can blame chromosomes for.

[gblue25]

It's not bs. This is coming from my personal experience. I personally can't just have sex with no meaning. After awhile I'm going to start to like that person and want more of a relationship out of it.

[Asker]

Well of course you do, it's still intimacy, and intimacy is linked with affection, which is linked with mutual positive attention and admiration, a foundation of a relationship.

[LucyColes]

I've never had sex, or anything sexual before. I didn't know that it was considered bad

[kangy]

it isn't bad, dont believe every word on gag

[ASOIAF]

Biology.

Having sex is a much bigger risk for females (due to potential pregnancy) so they are programmed to be very selective over who they have sex with.

Its not that they are asexual or don't enjoy sex, they are just incredibly picky about who they will have sex with.