How does one slowly and considerately convince their girlfriend to give them a blow job?

[JoeAverage]

My GF and I have been dating for 3 years. Our sex life is pretty fulfilling, we both enjoy getting off (multiple times for her) and its emotionally satisfying. However, the foreplay department is falling flat. I absolutely love going down on her but she refuses to reciprocate. It took months to get her to start using her hands on me and she expressed some minor interest in trying oral at some point but its 2 years later the BJ department is still non-existent. I don't want to force her to do anything she doesn't want to do and I know that everyone has their own preferences/comfort levels/turn-ons. I'm wondering if there are any ways to slowly coax her into trying it at least once. If she completely hates it after that, then I've got no problem dropping the subject. Thanks

[truthbeknown]

Some guys have hygiene issues we are not aware of. You have to make sure you are smelling good down there. Don't ask for a blow job if it has been 6 hours since you showered last. I'll actually put a little deodorant down there to keep it smelling fresh. The next thing is a little grooming. I keep everything trim down there and it looks nicer and more appealing for my wife. The other thing too is, some women think if they start blowing, they have to swallow. You need to reassure her that she doesn't have to swallow and can stop anytime. Blow jobs are amazing and I honestly feel sorry for anyone in a relationship that has a gf that flat out refuses to give them. There may be some kind of underlying issue she has with that part of the male body. Perhaps there was some kind of abuse in her past. It may be a good thing to talk about it to see what her issue is and may be you two can get some help with it. On one had it isn't fair for her to do something she doesn't like or want, but on the other hand it isn't fair for you to go without something you do like or want. Relationships are about talking and being open with each other and compromise. Being one sided is an attitude for failure! Good luck!

[MadeInAmerica]

I just tell her you really like for her to give more in the foreplay department and it doesn't have to be right now, you don't mind being surprised and it just happens in the future. Hopefully she does it but it's going to be difficult after 3 years of not having to do it. Maybe try to do 69 so then her focus isn't totally on doing the deed as she is getting something from you too.

[JoeAverage]

Tried the 69 trick pretty early on and she shot it down. Said it felt weird having her ass that close to my face... plus only worked with her hands

[MadeInAmerica]

Just have her warm up to it. One day she have her just give a kiss. The next day she kind of jerks it and then gives a lick and so on until she is comfortable to a bj. Also some people just aren't into certain foreplay. No sex life is perfect. Be happy the sex is amazing.

[Zepher]

Sprinkle some Starbucks on it and they'll suck away.

[pavlove]

push their head down slowly and considerably to their penis.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her you would really like it if she did. If there is something she really wanted wouldn't you want her to tell you?

[JoeAverage]

Yep! did that one pretty early on too. She said she'd think about it

[Opinion Owner]

So remind her. It isn't like she said no yet.