Slept together twice now im confused.. 5days no text from him should I text him for the 3rd time?

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i had sex with my friend after i broke up with my bf. my friend sam and i texted everyday till we had sex 6 days. he inititated the conversation EVERYTIME but after we had sex he stopped texting as much so i straight up asked if anything had changed because i felt like he was getting distant. pretty much he said he was just really busy with uni and work ad was just exhausted from training etc. fair enough EXCEPT that he made time for me before we had sex so really he just didn't feel like he needed to make all he effort. we had made plans ealier that week to hangout so we did and it was amazing we had sex again. but he hasn't texted me since! it been 5 days! i texted him the day after we hung out to see if he wanted to catch a movie with me. he said it was his only day off and he honetsly just felt like sleeping allday! i mentioned sex in it yet he still said no. 3 days later i texted him i was in his nabourhood and if he wanted to grab something to eat with me. he said he would but his mum had already made dinner and that he was sorry. again fair enough. BUT now its been 5 days and I've been the one to text him twice and NOTHING from him. tonight our fav show ends and i was thinking of texting him about it depending on the show outcome. but i dont want to seem needy. he still flirts in the texts and puts emojis so im confused.

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i dont know if im being needy or not because he has been replying to my texts. he just hasn't been initiating any.

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why would he even bother texting me back than? why is he being like this? i told him from the beginning that i didn't want this to turn into a booty call thing and he totally agreed and than why would he have still be texting me after the 1st time

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jerrbear100 Xper 5
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His conquest is complete. He accomplished what he set out to do. And now, in order to remain aloof, like he has been all along, he will ignore you. As Nicole Marie put it below, you were just a booty call. Move on, unless you thrive on being treated poorly.
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- Asker
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  but his not ignoring me? his replyed and given me a good exscuse both times? i know what being treated like a booty call is and this is not it
- jerrbear100
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  I agree, you should stop initiating the texting and let him initiate them. I think you will find that he will shy aqway for awhile, until the need grows again. Trust me, some guys will be very patient and be persistent to have sex with you, or be very attentive and pleasing until you give in. I have seen it happen a thousand times. This however is no reflection on you, except perhaps that you might not be entertaining the notion that he is playing you. Of course he is not ignoring you. He answers somewhat promptly, but always has an excuse why you two cannot meet. i have seen that happen a lot, and I have done that also, (a longgggg time ago) when I was still immature.
- Asker
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  i jus dont understand why he would throw away our friendship just because he got to be intimate with me. i just got out of a serious relationship so its not even like he thinks i want one with him. his motive sjust aren't making any sense
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- jerrbear100
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  I do not know why he would throw away that friendship either. But a lot of people have done just that. Speaking from experience, at the time it seemed like a good idea. In hindsight, it was the crummiest thing I ever did to a girl. The sex was great and worth the effort of waiting until she said yes. However having conquered you sexually, he now moves to aloof status and avoids you, or the possibility of any commitment. It's a basic instinct thing guys have been doing since the dawn of time. Not that it excuses his behavior, because it does not. Your friend however, turned out not to be such a good one.

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abundantlyrich Master
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I figured he's stop cos you wouldn't stop texting him non stop and daily? He probably thought this is not the time COs he needs his time to focus on his studies? It was happening too fast for him.
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- Asker
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  i wasn't teh one texting him allday. he was the one that initiated it everytime and wouldn't stop texting me. since we had sex i only initiated it twice and considering he spent 6 days of texting me from 5 am till 10pm i wouldn't consider my actions needy
- abundantlyrich
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  That was when he had time to kill. He already said he is busy as of now. Its not personal.
psychedelicfruit Xper 5
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Plain and simple... Hump n dump.
He just used you
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- Asker
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  why would he keep texting me after the 1st time but not the second time than? and why would he even bother replying to me and give me good exscuses why not just ignore me? we were friends a YEAR before i slept with him. not guy pretends to be friends with a girl for that long an dlistens too all her breakup and bf crap only to hump n dump as you say
- psychedelicfruit
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  He saw you were vulnerable, so I knew exactly how to get into your pants. Sigh
- Asker
  +1 y
  so his going to throw away our friendship that we had built for over a year just because he is now abale to say he slept with a girl like me?

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XNicholeMariex3 Guru
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You are just a booty call to him.
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- Asker
  +1 y
  we were friends for a year before i slept with him! he texted me even though i had a bf and at that time was very happy... why would he spend a year buttering me up just so he can sleep with me once! you didn't answer my question.. should i text him or continue waiting for him to text me?
- XNicholeMariex3
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  You should wait for him to text you.
rjroy3 Guru
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You are being needy right now
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- rjroy3
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  Don't text him EVERY day. Take what he says at face value. He is busy. He does have family and school and work, whatever and he spends time everywhere. Wants to hangout with his friends. He doesn't want to hangout with you and only you every day. Take a step back, put down your phone and don't text him unless you have something to say better that "what are you doing?". Focus on your life a bit more
- Asker
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  i waited 3 days since the last text and it was only cause i was in his town. we are friends im not going to sit alone to eat just cause he hasn't texted me first in 3 days
- Asker
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  also just a little information about me, im a model and most of my guy friends a male models (not this guy) and since i broke up with my ex around 20 males have texted me asking to 'hangout' im not this girl that is easy to get.
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- rjroy3
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  He shouldn't have to drop his plans because you are in town. It's not that you have to wait for him to message you. It's that you should avoid sending texts that don't say anything. And focus on your life means hangout with other friends. Family. Work. Working out. Whatever
- rjroy3
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  If they don't specify a date, just go out to lunch or something in public when the sun is still out. When it's over, just leave.
- Asker
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  im not saying he should drop his plans. he reasons were very reasonable. what im confused on is why he hasn't initated texting? and i haven't texted him for anything pointless both time sit was to hangout. he wasn't free which is fair enough. im not upset about that. im upset that its been days since we had sex for the second time as friends and he hasn't bothere to see how i am. after the first time he texted me just after 200 minutes of leaving his house
- rjroy3
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  If he's busy or not. The best thing you can do for yourself is to let it go. Because you're not in a relationship. He doesn't owe you a check up. And to get upset over it, when he's not your boyfriend is being needy. You can't expect more from him. He is a friend that you had sex with. That's awesome, but it was just that.
Anonymous
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He got what he wanted - he doesn't need to pursue you as vigorosuly now.
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- Asker
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  we were friends for a year before i slept with him! he texted me even though i had a bf and at that time was very happy... why would he spend a year buttering me up just so he can sleep with me once! you didn't answer my question.. should i text him or continue waiting for him to text me?
- Opinion Owner
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  Depends on what you want - if you want him to initiate texts, stop texting him for a while. If you don't care who texts first, you can keep texting him. Just don't expect immediate replies.