Guy I met online asking for phone sex?

[Anonymous]

I've been chatting to this guy I met online for a few weeks on and off. We've not yet met but he has talked about meeting. Only he has asked for phone sex a few times. I've told him I don't feel comfortable with that. He says sorry afterwards but seems to keeps asking when we talk again the next time or asking for dirty messages (not pictures, just words). I think he is a nice guy otherwise. He seems to make out that this is a normal part of internet dating, most people are doing this. Is that right? Do most people do phone sex/sexting before meeting in person?

[Board]

I've met girls online with whom i shared my fantasies and they with me, before meeting in person. There are some I've never actually even met in person yet who know my fantasies. Altho we never really did phone sex, like we did cyber sex as in we typed it in a chat window what i'd do do her, how she'd respond etc.

But like actually talking and saying the words, while the other person can hear. Or actually sending pictures before meeting isn't something I would do. I wouldn't mind sharing fantasies, as long as it's not all sex talk and no normal talk. It is normal you listen each other out about what kind of person they are, what they've been through and experienced and a part of that is also sharing sexual fantasies. There's no point in meeing in person for a date, if you already could figure out before hand if you are actually going to enjoy yourself on that date.

So cybersex could be a way just to inform yourself about what kind of a person you are dealing with. The way you are in the bedroom often shows a lot of your inner self. But it should never be the only topic you guys discuss if you plan on taking this to a next level. A real life relationship isn't "sex only" either.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Not all guys engage or ask a girl for phone sex
most likely you've ran into another pervert
they are the ones who ask girls for sex talk or
ask for them to send them dirty pictures if you
stop talking to him watch and see he will not
bother calling, texting you. Any guy deep down
ask a girl for this stuff before meeting her is not
a real man he is pervert who needs his balls cut off

[Asker]

You were right he is a pervert. He sent me a dirty picture when I didn't ask for it and expected me to send him one back. I told him no way, I think he got annoyed and I've not heard from him since. Thanks for the advice.

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You're welcome glad to be able to help you :-) <3

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

Thank you for Most Helpful Opinion *__*

[katiesmuff]

Would appear to me your nice guy "who you have never met as yet" has one thing and only one thing on his mind. Might want to think about moving on or as the first answerer said "tell him to fuck his phone"

[Annymous8]

Tell him "I'm okay with you having sex with the phone".

[MothMonsterMan]

Yes sadly it is. So many people just text and never talk anymore. Sexting, phone sex or whatever. If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. He should respect that.

[AustinMan]

Sexting is pretty normal, especially for those guys of us that are literate and grammatically skilled. It gives us another way to differentiate ourselves from all those neanderthals out there.

[ArrowheadSW]

I wouldn't recommend having phone sex if you actually plan on meeting in person. The phone sex thing sexualizes the internet relationship before you even meet face to face to see if you "click" with the other in person. Actually I have had phone sex with women who I've met online, way back when the internet was still fairly new. But it was clear up front that it wasn't going to lead to a face to face meetup.