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He likes handjobs better than blowjobs. Why?

My husband and I have been married for a month. We haven't had sex yet. But two nights after our wedding, I gave him a BJ. He loved it (orgasmed in a minute). But ever since, I've been giving him BJ's every night, it hasn't been as effective. He asked me if I changed my techique, I havent. So why isn't it working? On Saturdays and Sundays, we do it four times a day, and it takes him 20 minutes or more to cum, and I eventually have to use my hand. I use coconut oil and he says handjobs feel amazing. *EVEN* if we do it four times a day, he can't control himself during handjobs, he loves it that much. I can make it cum in less than 5 minuts, always. But why? I always thought that guys liked BJs better than handjobs... I'm confused!! Also, any handjob tips and techniques that I can try? Also, are BJs every night, or 4 times a day, bad? (Maybe I'll ask another question about this) p. s. We are both virgins (I'm from India)
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  • The best BJ is combined with a HJ.
    @Be eager. BJ's fail because she lacks energy, especially at the end.
    @Be careful not to rake his penis with your teeth. Even a little of this can shut things down.
    @The crown and its collar (glans) are sensitive to tongue and lip action. Focus your mouth play there.
    @The shaft is not very sensitive to tongue and mouth play. It prefers hand play because your hand has more surface area and can apply more pressure. The best hand play has two fingers on the vein at the underside, partially compressing it on the fore stroke and releasing it on the back stroke... milking. This signals the prostate to engorge and ejaculate.
    @Sucking/licking/head bobbing should be limited to just below the crown so the "collar" (the ridge at the base) passes in and out of your "kiss".
    @As a part of your tongue play, try to slide the tip of your tongue into the slot at the end of his penis. This can be quite pleasurable.
    @When the moment approaches, work the cap aggressively with your mouth and tongue while stroking the shaft very rapidly with a moderate grip. Don't slow down until he starts to ejaculate.
    @When he starts to ejaculate, stop all motion for the first 3 or 4 fast squirts, he doesn't need help here.
    @When the squirts slow down, resume fast hand stroking to coax them out but do not resume mouth and tongue motion because his cap will be too sensitive now. Just maintain suction, and don't overdo sucking.
    @When ejaculation stops, let his penis remain in your mouth under suction while it shrinks. When you finally pull off, give him one last strong suck/lick from the base of his penis off the end, draining it. This feels good to the bottom of your feet.
    @Deep throating is ineffective. Only the cap is sensitive. Your mouth applies more sensation than your throat. And it's an ordeal for you.
    @Gentle ball massage during s BJ is pleasant. Cup them and keep them together.
    @Some guys enjoy anal fingering as orgasm approaches.

    • excellent answer!

  • Blowjobs take some skill... and unless you're very good at them are not meant as a "finishing" move. Using your hand obviously give you better grip and speed and depth, and using the coconut oil brings the sensation to near blowjob levels.
    Quite frankly and to me, the greatest thing about a blowjob is the visual aspect, I love it when she looks at me while blowing me.

Most Helpful Girl

  • may i know why did you two haven't have sex yet even if marrried?

    • In another post she said he's too wide and fitting him will take time.

    • damn!

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  • depends on my mood what I like in the moment, also most people guys and girls are just not great at oral

  • Try a handjob while seriously making out with him. My ex did that to me often. Often made me moan with pleasure. I would often simultaneously squeeze her butt or touch her vagina or touch her anywhere. She enjoyed it and I loved it.

  • I like hand jobs better. I just love the touch of a nice soft oily sensual massage. Nothing like it especially if the girl is enjoying it. If she has nice nails that's always a plus and can add light scratches all over at the same time.

  • I like handjobs, but I really prefer blowjobs if she is willing to 69 with me. If she will suck my dick, then i want to eat her out at the same time. In fact, I want to start on her first as I will never cum as many times as she can, so let's give her a head start..

  • You give a better hand job than blowjob. Whatever you did the first time really seemed to rock his world. You should talk to him and ask questions during and get feedback or at least tell him to be more open and tell you when he likes something, so you can do it better

  • You can only do so much with mouth Hands can perform many more techniques

  • Totally normal.4 or Tim es a day or night.. handjob is gud with coconut oil. Just take care not to hurt penis with laceration or bleeding... blowjob varies with different sstyle n techniques... but simple is that do what u know n try new thing which do nit hurt...
    I m also fRom India

  • So i prefer handjobs as even though my girlfriend in the past has given me blowjobs neither of us really like like them but she gave me 4 amazing handjobs and to me the grip she uses feels just like when I'm inside her and I cum just as hard from being inside her

  • As to why your first blowjob was so good, it was probably the first sexual experience he ever had, and doing them ever day he is probably got used to him. Give them a break for a while. after a while start them up again and see what happens.

  • Hmmm ... ur question makes my coc* erect...

    • I think u r super horny right now... Pm me inbox me if u wanna chat wid me

  • You've been married a month and haven't had sex yet?

  • Could it be the coconut oil and the lubrication that makes the handjob more enjoyable?
    Oral sex can take its time for a guy to come.
    When I was first married, my wife would want sex every day -- and it made me feel drained :-)
    Also if you are married for a month, why not try sex? (Warning: it can be a letdown too... people's bodies take time to get used to each other).

  • Some here stated that you can do more with hands than with the mouth. I agree. Also, you can kiss during HJ. I love looking at my woman and taking in how hot she looks, HJ’s really assist in that aspect. BJ’s are amazing and I get them all the time but often the feeling isn’t consistent and it can feel boring or dull. Honestly I just get Bj’s for the mental aspect. I never feel bored during an HJ tho, lotion and her manicured nails and her talking to me along with good technique and grip. Changing up the motion, speed, or hand use vs fingertips. It’s like a mental overload.

  • I actually like handjobs better too because there is a better grip and more friction. Do you use lube?

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