Not sexually satisfied?

[EddelChristopher]

So I haven't been satisfied with my sex life recently. The sex isn't bad its just not exactly what I want. I tell my boyfriend in detail exactly what I want and he says okay and apologizes as if I told him he sucks (which I don't, I put it as I like this but next time can we do this...) he never follows threw. He likes rough sex which I like too but we have it so much it loses its passion. I've been masturbating a lot (which I never do) but it doesn't fill the need I have for him. I really want passionate sex. I'm a very passionate person in all aspects of life and he is just not. What else should I do? Is there a better way to explain what I want to him? I want I love you sex. Is there a way I can make him understand or want that too?

[cobrar97]

You need to be open to the fact that maybe you just are sexually compatible. He with you... or you with him. If you are communicating everything (which is great by the way), and he still ISN'T WILLING to do what you're asking; that's not a good sign for the future of your sexual relationship. A guy should care MORE about pleasing his woman that ANYTHING else. Some guys simply care about themselves, and it almost sounds like that. But I don't know him or you, so that may not be a fair stab. If you are sensual and put truly deep feeling into everything in your life, you are going to need a man that can do the same (especially in the bedroom). And that a genetic trait that some have and some do not. You don't want a guy that pushes you on the bed, pulls your hair, and slams your pussy every single time. You'll want a man and does a lot of foreplay, back massages, tickling, kissing your neck, slowing touching you. Then when it comes to sex, you'll want a guy that will sit up, let you get on his dick and slowing grind on it while he looks in your eyes, feels your skin, and allows sex to last an hour or so just totally being in the moment with you and building that fire WITH you. There's a huge difference, and this type of sex is earth shattering.
As far as something to try with your current guy... can you get in a position where YOU are on top so you can control the situation. You go slow... makes him go slow. If he starts to go faster, say, slow it down... that feels so good. If you cannot get what you want under these conditions... I'm not sure you can... and that worries me.
A slow, hour of foreplay, followed by an hour long of super-slow penetration in different positions leads to orgasms like you've never had. If you're resorting to masturbation for this, it's no good... because although you can go slow... you really want the "touch" and physical connection with a man to get what you're looking for. That's just my 0.02. Hope it works out for you!

[AustinMan]

You need to move on. For me, even I Love You sex is really rough. Fortunately, I've been with women who like sex rough even when it's making love. You're clearly not in that number and there's not a thing wrong with that. It's just differences. Go find a guy who has compatible kinks with yours.

[playdates]

I suppose you can just say that you're really in the mood for low key passionate sex, and nothing rough--you're just not feeling it right now.

[dhinchak]

Just refuse to have sex with him, the next time he wants to. Keep refusing until you feel he has understood. I don't think it should take long.

Till then, happy masturbating!

[ljrobert]

You guys might just not be sexually compatible you know...

[bakuro]

Just talk to him in proper way. say that u like to do sensual sex rather than rough... explain him what is sensual n also u try first on him so that he can understand better

[writerguy220]

I think you should talk to him about how you feel and what you need. Maybe during a time that's not right after you've made love, he's apt to be less defensive that way. Talk in particular about his lack of follow through when you've brought it up before (but kinder than how I just put it) it's more than likely that your boyfriend cares about you and wants to meet your needs. Best of luck!