Why do men and there penises gross me out?

hey I'm 31 and I like men, but some times I get grossed out by the penis it makes me feel sick and makes me want to push all males away, what is wrong with me I just feel ashamed of sex because I've never done it when I'm truly in love its morally been obligated sex as love four play kissing and touching but I hate the act of sex and have felt obligated to have sex as its not fair on the guy,
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Most Helpful Girl

  • you might want to consider that you may be asexual!!! there is nothing wrong with it and it may help you find a community that supports you in your discoveries of your sexuality! i would suggest doing a little bit of research about it, but what you've described is telling me that this might help you figure out your identity. i wish you luck and i hope this helps you.

    • thank you for your feed back

    • i looked it up hun and i do get aroused so i don't think im completely in that category, i don't feel im comfortable with my sexuality thou so the identity is an issue

    • ahhh yeah you might be demisexual or gray-asexual!! i seriously bet that there's going to be an identity that fits you, and it may be a journey, but you can find it. my asexual friends get aroused and masturbate but with another person they do feel the way you described. also you could possibly be heteroromantic + gray-asexual ! romantic attraction to males would be under the heteroromantic category and gray-asexual could be your sexuality. but the only way to know is through finding it yourself! if you need anymore help let me know

Most Helpful Guys

  • I think you are ashamed you won't be able to satisfy the penis... dont be... am guy knows how to get his own satisfaction. and in the process will satisfy your vagina as well.
    Sex is not necessarily an obligation (expected though, but not an obligation) so thinking of it as one may be a reason why you are not fully into it. Relax a little.. penises are harmless.

  • I'm not sure how we can know. Maybe you were assaulted? Maybe it doesn't feel good (for some it doesn't)?

    • its like im hot and cold with it, the thought of having a males penis inside me turns me on big time, watching a male in side a women in a sensual way through p*rn turns me on but doing the act in real i feel ashamed when not inlove which i have never been inlove

    • Well there's your problem. You think it's morally bad to have sex outside of love. That's why you're feeling conflicted despite your desire.

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  • You've grown to hate it. That's a basic answer, but I believe it's true.

    • i never looked at it that way

    • Either that or like the girl said you could be asexual.

    • ... or it could be both? O. o

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  • There are different kinds of people, nothing wrong in that find it unattractive. Maybe it looks very vulgar in a way.

  • You need sex and to fall in love.

  • Ya what the other girl said.. I think your asexual

  • Maybe you had a traumatic experience when you were younger?

  • i find it super normal not to have sex if love is absent