Im a year past you and still hold my virginity. People wouldn’t imagine me being one but its reality nonetheless. I waited and waited to meet that girl I always wanted. I envisioned us picking it off real good and everything but things went differently. I met a girl, real nice and super sweet to me. We became good friends because I loved her character but not everything about her. She had lots of flaws and things to work on, she knew it and she made me know it as well. So I figured she wasn’t girlfriend material, at least not yet.
Anyway, about a month ago I ended up having my first real sexual experience with her (oral). That was the first time I’ve ever done anything sexual with a girl. Not even kissed anyone before. I was literally saving everything for the girl I was gonna spend the rest of my life with but temptation kicked in big time. I could’ve lost it all that night but chose to keep this gift for that special someone. It may still be that girl, but things are complicated now.
So from me to you I say urges can take over in the most intense moments of your life, but you mustn’t let emotion dictate what’s most important to you. Have self control, and from what I've read in these other comments you do have it. Good luck looking for the great man, he is out there. Stay strong dear. Don’t let the media put you down. Being a virgin at 20 is a blessing. Its shows you are firm about your beliefs.
You can do it as well. Thank you. ❤
Listen, don't listen to anything anyone tells you. I am a virgin too and I'm very proud of it. Have I had girlfriends? I sure have, and I've made love as well, not intercourse, but gone as far as second base. But it is rare for a woman like you. You are special, don't let anyone take this away. Sex should be shared with somebody you truly love, I mean TRULY love. It's so hard to control my perviness haha but I respect women who are virgins. I actually find that arrousing and when the time comes for both of us, I look for it as being a fun experience, not awkward but something that we can both experience for the first time. In this world it is hard to come by a woman like you. A real man will respect it. There's my rant haha hope this helps! :)
Once I do it after getting married I ain't stopping. Hahah ! Yeah I need a man who will respect me. Now from where do I event that kinda guy? Heheh but thanks. ❤
It's not bad at all -- I'm nineteen and in a similar position. I'm not waiting until marriage, but I am waiting until I meet someone special, and feel comfortable and ready.
There are guys out there who will stick around and completely respect your decision to wait, although they can be hard to find. Once you build a really strong emotional connection with someone, and you guys develop an awesome and fun relationship, then he's most likely not going to mind waiting until you're ready. A relationship can be awesome without sex being involved. Just focus on being the best person you can be and staying true to yourself. Never do anything you're not comfortable with.
If you do feel like doing other things beyond kissing though, like (and I don't mean to sound crude, haha) dry humping, hand jobs, oral, whatever, then that'd probably be appreciated on the guy's end after a while of dating.
am 26 never had a real boyfriend or real kiss I did date some people online wishing we will married LooL but there attention was something else so good girl, if they leave just show them the door and say goodbye they don't deserve you, guys are just like animals all there attention from girls is sex so don't ever give any guy your totally trust because they will make you down.. am like you I will never let any guy touch me tell will get married if he want this he is welcome if not I'll show him the door and tell him goodbye, we are not objects we are women's and they must respect us..
Yes. I've showed the door to men countless times. People think I'm a slut cause I change men. They don't know why I leave them.
no it isn't bad. you shouldn't ever do anything you are uncomfortable with. if those guys got upset after you didn't give them any, then apparently they are not the guy for you and its best that it ended early. keep your head up, be happy that you're still a virgin, and don't lose it till you are ready.
Yeah I guess I'll just wait for the guy who won't fight over it and be more understanding about it. Thank you. ❤
that is definitely what you should do. there are guys out there who are just as conservative (i hate to word it like that, because that can have a negative connotation, but i can't think of a better word... like-minded maybe?) as you are, and those guys are going to be the ones that appreciate you more.
I just have to find a guy like that which is really hard work. Heheh
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I don't think so. I'm waiting for marriage too. I want a relationship where it's not about lust and I think if a guy loves you enough they will be waiting. And isn't it great? :) It helps you to know who are worth it and your exes, I don't think they are.
Being a virgin at 20 is fairly common, and there's nothing shameful about it. The waiting for marriage argument is hugely flawed and a big red flag for me though. The concept of waiting for sex until marriage and then remaining monogamous is very recent in human history, having been created near the dawn of agriculture, and one that goes against our highly promiscuous (scientific, not colloquial term) nature. The book Sex at Dawn goes into this subject in great detail, and I cannot recommend it highly enough.
I advocate having sex with anyone you have a positive, healthy, appropriate relationship with, but being careful about it. Safer sex, regular testing, and some common sense are crucial.
Someone might seem the perfect guy but you never know. So I can't just give it to anyone. :)
There's no such thing as the "perfect" guy or girl. There are levels of compatibility, sure, but it's a mistake to assume one person can be your everything- that's a burden you shouldn't put on anyone. Different people meet different needs in your life. Also, pay attention to your language: "give it to anyone". Sex is not a gift. It's not a transaction. That's a horrific way to look at it. Sex is a fun and pleasurable thing you do together. It's a mutual decision, and it's not that big a deal.
Well that's not how I look at it. :) I look at it as a precious thing that I won't do it with just anyone.
Yes it is VERY bad... If you get some guy that is going to stay with you with no sex your going to get a queer or a religious fanatic.
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Go find yourself a queer and he will be very happy with you, he can even try on your clothes.
If you want to keep your guy expand your routine to letting him suck your boobies and possibly give you oral. Then you suck him off or give him a handjob. Your still a virgin and he is content.
In any case, I wouldn't want you. You have too much fudging control. I don't want some stuck up girl like you with that much discipline. I would want a girl I can worship and love from the start.
Lol don't worry I have no interest in a dick like you either. I'm not least bit ashamed about being a virgin and for not putting out. Cause people like me are rare. Someone who didn't have any guys dick in her. My husband would damn lucky to have me. And you are disliking me for having discipline? What kind a generation is this. That's all that makes me think. That you are outcasting people who are actually good. I don't wanna be a part of your generation then.
@Asker HUGE proof right there why its actually a great thing hehe
@slackercruster Not cool man. Very unbased.
it isn't bad. i'm 24, haven't had sex yet either. i think you just need to find like-minded people... or guys who are able to respect the decision you've made.
Its great that you haven't either. When will that like minded guy show up? Thank you. ❤
I have no idea :p hopefully sooner than later lol :)
Hopefully.
I didn't lose mine till I was 21.
That's good to know. I won't do it till I get married no matter how tempting it is.
no oh and if your waiting for the right person though your stupid
I'm not having sex until I get married. Not saying until I find the right guy.
that really isn't smart
For me it is. I don't wanna share myself with countless people till I find "the one". Break ups and stuff are too frequent even if you have sex.
i wouldn't call it marriage, yet it is good to wait for the right guy and when you feel he is the right one, i'd move further if i were you. no matter what your age is and whether you are married or not.
I guess different people have different opinions.
of course.
yeah it is bad but not as bad as extreme ases lie 24-25 i've seen here
Its not a lie. :)
Nope. It means that you simply love and respect yourself more than some others.
Well I do think that I'm holding others back from "sex" but then I think I told them at the very beginning. I didn't deceive them. They just had it in their mind that with time I'll change. :)
No, it's great!
Thank you. ❤
Its not bad. It means you are not emotionally ready for it.
Thanks. 😁😛:D
Nah don't worry 'bout it. There's a guy for you out there somewhere. Respect yourself and your beliefs if that's what you want.
Plenty of time to masturbate/control your urges until then.
STAY BASED!
Heheh I'm fine without masterbating. Just got to control and wait for the right guy. Thanks though. ❤
I respect not having sex (presuming oral, anal etc. is incl. in you definition and not just intercourse) before marriage.
Promiscuity have a lot of downsides as well, STD, higher expectation, getting more perverted etc..
If it's bad or not depends on the guys background, if he is religious he will appreciate it, otherwise he will most properly find someone easier - less high maintenance.
I don't wanna be like that mainly cause of my religion. So no oral either. :)
I have a hard time seeing why it would be bad to hold out until marriage, but not everyone holds that same ideal which can easily lead to that situation you described.
Yeah. Not everyone have the same thinking. :)
Come to india u will find tons of 30 year old virgins
And u r just 20
Be cool be smart
Dont let this virgin thing make u take wrong decisions
I won't do any stupid moves.
I that case u r good. :) Its not bad at all :)
Thank you.
Its not bad, its good. Makes it more special for the guy you end up loving. We all over urges, we are human.
Yes I shall do that. Thank you. ❤
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I am a virgin at 20 too. I would say it is more common where you are at than here in the western world (US). But even here, studies are showing teens are waiting longer to have sex than ever before. About half (51 percent) of Colorado high school senior females have had sex. That mean about half or slightly less enter college a virgin.
On believe me. Now a days now of the men I meet are virgins. To avoid this I try to seek virgins but here its sort of mission impossible now. :(
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its awesome to respect both ur body and soul, and save them to whom deserve to be ur life partner and not anybody else
thumps up for everybody that realised how precious, invaluable, priceless body and soul are, and how sex is the ultimate bond that shudnt be wasted
Thank you. ❤
be proud of yourself and that decision, and dont give it up to anybody, wait for that guy that appreciate everything about u :)
Yes I will wait till then. :D
I think it's great. It's very hard to wait, but I know people that have and say it was worth it.
It is hard but I've set my mind on this.
Im totally fine with it. This means you're a disciplined person and I admire that. Not many girl are like you. Keep it since thats what you want until you're find you're man.
Thank you. ❤
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