My boyfriend makes fun of my physical flaw?

Yes I'm an insecure person but I have my reasons... I have an inverted nipple and my boyfriend makes fun of it all the time. I've told him I don't find it funny and to please stop. I know I'm not perfect but you kind of hope your partner would think you are. He doesn't stop it even though I've asked many times. One time he even called it ugly in a "joking manner" but I honestly (hate to admit this) started to cry. He got serious and apologized. For few weeks he didn't say a word about it but soon got back to making fun of it. I can usually laugh at myself but not when it comes to this. I feel like I'm not good enough. How do I get him to stop? he seriously doesn't seem to realize how much he's hurting my feelings.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • With a horse of course that is showing his true colors of being a horse of another color, this so-called Soul mate that I do not find 'Funny' Nor even a Mate is just an Ass without a tail.
    Get rid of him, he is not what I call a true blue partner for you. He doesn't love you Unconditionally and being you have your personal "Condition" which he Obviously cannot stop thinking about, making wise cracks about Nor poking fingers at, then he is Not worth the time of your day nor the hair on your pretty head, sweetie.
    Give him his walking papers and tell this little pup to find Ms. Perfect and you hope they will be happy forever together in hell.
    You deserve better. Your Only Flaw is you're too good for this dog who is in my own doghouse. He is giving you low self esteem, making you feel insecure and Not assured of herself. That is going Now into dangerous waters. He needs to put a muzzle on it and prance on all four out the door.
    Believe me, there are guys out there who would be Lucky to have someone like you... a girl with a heart of gold and with feelings and see her inner beauty, not just an "Inverted nipple" that is covered up with clothes most of the time anyways.
    This relationship is dead in the water if he continues down this road that he has put a dead end to himself.
    Good luck. xx

  • The good advice I could give you is to talk to him about it, which you did, , so that's out.

    What's physically wrong with him? No one is perfect. Find it and make fun of him relentlessly. Start making fun of his dick or something and swear you're just joking. Maybe he'll get the point.

  • This is all you need to know about what's really like. Dump his ass. You deserve better, especially if he started insulting you AGAIN after you cried.

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  • "you kind of hope your partner would think you are."

    Get rid of that idiocy now. Even women who are comparatively flawless should never think like that. Everyone has flaws, yes including inverted nipples once in a while, but expecting your partner to deny reality so you can happy, is stupid.

    He is making light of your so-called flaw, because it is so utterly meaningless and trivial in his eyes. And to you it's this great big enormous physical flaw that reduces you to tears. He's trying to get you to see it the way he sees it. Nothing to worry over, nothing to get upset over. Something to joke about.

    He desperately wants you to get over it, because it's never been an issue for him. If you want him to stop mocking it, TEACH HIM how you would prefer that he works on the issue with you. But don't ever expect him to take this flaw as seriously as you do. That is something you need to change. You need to see this for the trivial inconsequential thing, that he already knows it is.

    • wow... I know I'm not perfect but it would be great if the person I love didn't remind me of my flaws CONSTANTLY! I don't do it to him either...

    • Did you like, stop reading completely after the first line, or what?

    • I read it but I guess I must be really dumb then because I totally missed the point.

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  • Show him this.

    If he wants to be an insensitive jerk who thinks it's fun to hurt your feelings, dump the motherfucker already. You don't need that.

    Heck, you might dump him without bothering to try and tell him YET AGAIN. He's not showing great partner material right now (he's clearly not listening to you), and if you're insecure, he may not be a good choice for you at all.

    (And for what it's worth, if my gf had an inverted nipple, I'd probably notice it way more than she'd like... I'd find it cool! >.< But if it makes you uncomfortable, it's best appreciated in silence)

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  • Those things are hot as hell. I love getting them 'out' and perked up. Nothing bad about them. Tell him talk less / suck more or drop the bozo if he does not know what he has.

  • remind him how his ribbing makes you feel. he may think it's just playful teasing as a lot of guys may do the same among guys but he should respect your feelings and your wishes

  • Yeah... if you want him to make fun tell him that if he keeps doing that you are going to (joke) about his sexual habilitys or proportions only joking yay n. n he will freak out.

  • This is all "boy" and no "friend". I don't think you should stay with him. His actions do not show that he really cares about your feelings.

  • Sounds like your in a relationship with an immature fool , if he took time to learn about you and your feelings he would know how much this is hurting you. Give him an ultimatum if it doesn't stop now then you will move on. Sounds like you probaby be better off with a guy who treats you with respect.

  • Tell him exactly what you just told us. He needs to understand how this is making you feel. If he still won't stop after that, I'm afraid he's not your Prince Charming.

  • An inverted nipple is not a flaw. But anyway, you need to breakup with him. He us bringing you down. This is not what relationships are for.

    • What is it then? :) Because it's really embarrassing...

    • It's just you. And it shouldn't be embarrassing. I don't care if your nipple us inverted it not. In fact come to think of it. I find it cute and sexy !

  • If he's consistently not respecting you and doing things to intentionally hurt your feelings, that's what you need to know about his personality.

  • he really thinks its that funny? what the fuck? talk shit on his dick.

  • Dump him and move on. You can do better, Find someone who respects you, because he obviously does not.

  • If he's doing something that hurts your feelings after repeated entreaties to stop, kick his ass to the curb.

    From what you say he's had his warnings, too; the time has come to take action.

  • Clearly disrespecting you. You're supposed to be with somebody who loves every part of you. Is he really worth being with after constantly making fun of you?

  • Your boyfriend is an insensitive moron. Making fun of your flaws and imperfections is so disrespectful.

  • He knows how you feel and continually does it. Have another honest conversation with him if you must, but if he can't respect your feelings, then drop him.

  • Find one of his flaws and put it back on him. He'll figure it out sooner or later. Also does your doctor know about your inverted nipple?

  • Tell him you fake orgasms and that he's small like a cigarette bud.

  • He's not a keeper. Move on now.