How to talk to my wife about giving blowjobs without her getting upsetand to get them, like Every Week?

googled jacks blowjob persuasion and oral formula one both are down anybody who has the actual pdf's or info besides the residual ads I can find on google please share? I'm doin my Best to contribute back to this page. -Jack's advice: ur lazy in bed, no im not -u don't go down on her, yes I do -buy her a gift er nice things, I do all the time -its icky to her, ok trackin, it is, this is the MAIN ISSUE need more info on that, come on, anybody got anything? I need an example by someone who has gotten somewhere -get more confident, dude. I am not the bitch in the relationship. after a careful evaluation, we both make compromises, and the day that stops happening, the relationship will start to degrade. Also, I was a Marine. I'm not some scrawny limp dick either! I deployed 3 times in a row, and Never lost my nerve, I have confidence. I did things that no one else could do, and I still do! -get a six pack, noted, will work on that -be the best at your job, ok, I am. not even fucking kidding, I beat someone whos been doin this job for 40 years! and i have his job now. uh, what else did he say -oh yeah, don't ask for it. then, how do I >_> get it? cuz she ain't wantin to do Anything with down there. one girl said on here that if she want's you enough she'll do anything to keep you, and that means that, and if she wants you enough she'd just do it cuz she's into him... well see that hurts a lot, to, face the fact that my wife might not be that into me, and that she's really not willing to do anything to keep me or, that she's not attracted enough to me to do that for me. maybe she's right. and my wife isn't. so I'll have to become more attractive. BUT I ASKED if she wants six packs abs n she said No? does, that mean yes? I've never had to work this hard for it in my fucking life for fucks sake! this is bullshit! most girls r either like yes or no, n nob nob nob down on ya! -wash it up, keep it clean n trim. check check check... -dont beg for it. ok, I won't.
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lol though. back to serious conversation, I'm not that sexually frustrated, I just could only read a small part of the comment at a time and, we've all been there guys, everybody has been cussed out by some a hole on the internet for no reason. anyways, my wife and I had sex for almost 4 hours last night, so thats not the problem, lol we didn't, i mean we weren't even going to do it! in fact we planned not to cus we did the night before and she needs a break sometimes
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  • Sometimes, they really just don't like or want to do it and there's no convincing them. Sometimes they did at one stage, then something changed, and now we're at this period where they hate it. You have to figure out which one of these two is her case. If the first, then it's unlucky, mate, because persuasion to change is near impossible. If the latter, then there is hope :)

    Now I don't honestly know how to tacke this problem your having, but, and as mentioned, you could try to go down on her a little more often (not too excessively, she will think something is wrong) and hopefully she will get the message. Don't do anything too out of the ordinary like 101 gifts or anything of the like, just be yourself but try new things. For example, if you go down on her try something new. She will get the message and hopefully try to do the same to you. It's a start.

    I hope this helps, mate. Women! haha, they truly are a complicated species at time. If you have any questions or anything else, you know where to find me, Bud :)

    • I don't think she ever did it for anybody ever before. I know I can't get enough info in 2k charicters! Argh! Yes I remember asking before now, cuz, obviously that would have been an open door! She was a virgin before me, poor girl, lol, and i asked and she said she's barely even made out or kissed more than a few guys. thats another reason im so attracted to her is cuz im like 'we need to get u laid' ha ha!

    • no, persuasion to change is near impossible, but I have changed for her and we'll continue to change for each other, as I put it lately about another argument, 'we've got to come to an agreement about this or its going to tear our marriage apart' I would never end my marriage over blowjobs, I've already come to terms with that years ago, and she's worth it, I won't loose her over something that selfish. but I've done the impossible before, and she has changed for me before, she's changed a lot she even tried anal once, ha ha then she got scared and we stopped. oh man, shed be so pissed if she knew i was talking about this

    • I already go down on her every time we have sex, sometimes 3 times a week, some times zero times a week, lol, when she's on her period. and I've gone down on her in between a lot before too, shes, well ignorant, cuz in the past when I said 'you could reward me' after one of those the thought didn't even occur to her. IT WOULD HELP IF HER SISTERS MOTHER AND ALL HER FRIENDS DIDN'T SAY GIVING BJ'S IS FOR WHORES! DAMMIT! I'm like, thanks guys, cut my work out for me, psh... if she had the opposite moral support I would be in BJ heaven right now and not even appreciate it, but this has become my greatest personal challenge, uhm, sexually anyways,

  • Usually the "tit for tat" argument works pretty well. If you go down, then you get a goody in return. A lot of women might assume this means sex, but you can specify a blowjob instead.

    Positive affirmation always helps too, even if it is exaggerated at first. If she feels like she drives you wild by just even putting your dick in her mouth, you're on a good road toward what you desire.

    • worked on that a little last night. uhm, she's not just, obviousely if it was that easy it would have been like, happened years ago, cuz, but she dose Not like things in the mouth, lol, or around the face... and to get her over that I've been slowly inching it closer over the years till she gets more comfortable lol, also starting her out with hand jobs to get her used to it another thing I need to talk to her about is she was all like, 'yeah right, im not gonna blow you, why so you can gag me and grab my hair and shove it down my throat and choke me' I was like, WHAT? how, who, what, all the rest of the questions you can ask CLEARLY she has a warped perception as to what a NORMAL blowjob is and I would never do that to her, I told her that, I was honestly kinda, like, really? hun? 7 years together and you think I would do that to you?

    • Well, has she ever watched nice/emotional p*rn of real couples making love and not face fucking/degrading each other? Those show perfectly fine blowjobs. Not hard to look up and quite easy to learn from.

    • good feed back though! and im getting somewhere! ALSO she JUST TOLD ME that thats what she thought blowjobs were im like, why didn't this come up 7 or 6 years ago? psh... hah ha! its so simple, now I know what to do! show her how real and normal ones are, and then get her over the ick factor! Then get her used to putting things in her mouth wait, how do I get her used to putting things in her mouth? she almost bit my nose off last night cuz I was smelling her breath, I just looked at her like, 'its a nose, dude...'

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  • Okay first of all, the only reason she would be upset is based on your reaction. Just reading your question is kind of irritating. You're not the 'bitch in the relationship'? Don't talk about your wife like that.
    And it could be hygiene, try and get her into the shower with you, or shower before asking for a blow job. They're really not that fun to give, so I understand why. But they are essential in keeping sexual relationships interesting. Ask her straight up why she won't give you one. It's easier to be forward than to be around the bush. Keep yourself in good condition and don't be rude about it when you ask her.

    • ah ha ha. I need to explain that, she's not the bitch either. I read jacks blowjob persuasion and it says in there that im either lazy in bed, im not, or that I need to gain confidence... or that its a one sided relationship or something. neither of us controls the relationship, its mutual, ya know? you didn't think I was insinuating that she's the bitch in the relationship, or that in that, she is somehow obligated, then, to be giving bj's? no, I don't treat her poorly or put her down like that, that would break my heart. wow, im actually upset, I'm sorry guys. thats a good idea, maybe ask her to wash me! :D not that fun to give! YES! Why is that? thats what I'm looking for! Now we're getting somewhere! you need to understand one thing, when ur the person giving oral, you have power of the other person, not the other way around! unless he's doin stuff he shouldn't like gagging or pulling hair!

    • Now, why are they essential in keeping sexual relationships interesting too? Also, I have asked her, I try not to ask her straight up, and I hardly want to manipulate my own wife or con her into something she doesn't want to do either, I love her, more than anything, and if its no bj's, I'm ok with that. yeah, it sucks, thats why im here, but I won't leave her or loose her over something like that. oh no though: with her, she would rather me Not ask her straight up and responds better when I do beat around the bush, she doesn't get as irritated or upset, and I only bring this up like, once a year, maybe 6 months, if that, and not every year too. when I ask her directly she gets Mad, then upset, so, I usually don't cuz i don't like making my wife upset, she doesn't deserve that.

    • Okay I understand now! Sorry about the confusion! Well they can be a tedious job, and sometimes it gets really repetitive. Maybe she doesn't like giving oral, maybe she doesn't feel like she does a good job, maybe she doesn't like swallowing or something? I think there's some underlying reason as to why she doesn't want to give oral. Ultimately it is her choice, but I think it's odd that she just doesn't. That usually is what initiates sex and kind of kick starts the hormones. I know she doesn't want you to talk to her about it, but maybe next time you guys are 'in the mood', bring her into the shower and try getting her to do it then. If she likes when you're aggressive/talk dirty, say something about a blow job. But also be cautious because it could kill the mood if I'm understanding what your wife is like. And blow jobs keep things interesting because they're kind of a 'go to' during periods, or when she just doesn't want sex. Let's be real, you'd take a blow job over...

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  • You obviously are a good man and husband and I think you love her and she loves you but I think you should have a serious talk to her about your sex life, say to her what you want from her in bed and ask her what she does want back. Maybe it is a good idea to make something special for her, like a romantic bath like this, I think it would help.
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    • oh thank you so much!!! your so sweet! :D I will try that! I'm actually making a huge list from everyones suggestions and I'm going to try all of them and, maybe post up results if anyone wants to hear them, lol!

    • you're very welcome!

  • Put whip cream and chocolate syrup on your penis. Try to convince her it is a banana split.

    • Oh wait ur not saying that to me? And there's no way to edit a comment? Im sorry! Ha ha. That is funny but i dont call her mean names, im nice n sweet to my honey. I am very sorry about that though

    • I wish I could edit these comments! Sorry.. ok thank you for the feedback! !! Will add it to the list of things to try!

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  • Have you actually tried talking to her?

    • Are you crazy?

    • oh yes. but i don't like to bring it up too much cuz it upsets her. I also, REALLY don't like forcing anything on her, at all, or making her upset, so, I try not to, its a sensitive situation. no im not crazy, y would I be?

  • No chance. She's just a selfish lover.
    Stop eating her and wait for her to ask why.

    • tried that. uhm, as in an above comment, can't seem to post up enough info about this, 2k characters is not enough. the thing is, she won't be turned on enough to have sex if I don't go down on her. n waitin for her to ask why is not happening... lol she can outlast me! after about 2 weeks I'm goin crazy and like, come here! lol uhm, sometimes I think that, that she's a selfish lover too, but I don't resent her for it, honestly, I think she's a good girl, really innocent, ya know? thats part of my attraction to her too and im slowly corrupting her, bwhahahaha :D I should also mention that my wife is fine as hell dudes... kay, i know this all sounds bad but, i don't like to brag or show n tell though so, but I've shown my pictures of her around before and people r like :O and 'YOU GOT THAT? no wonder ur leavin for her!" but her looks ain't why I put up with her, I love her.

  • Eat her pussy often. She should be more than happy to return the favor if you do a good job!

    • Noted! Will try that! I already am too! Lol! But I'll add it on the list! N give er even more amazing orgasms! :D

  • Some (a lot of) women are just selfish.

    • Lol at the selfish lovers down voting me.

    • I up voted you to even it out. A lot of selfish lovers out there, glad I've never encountered them.

    • lol guys, that's funny

  • Does she have health problems? Something's not right. Do u have kids?

    • yes she has health problems. a car accident injury, and some other stuff... I don't want, All that online, too personal, I just, not comfortable. private message me for all that or I'll start a separate question about it.

    • It kind of explains why she is not horny for u.

    • That's ok, i don't need know more.

  • Have you talked to her about why she doesn't want to? Or was it just you asking, and her saying no then leaving it there?

    • absolutely I've talked to her about it. she's my best friend, Whats with this website? can't post up enough info, only 2k characters. n no deleting or editing posts? anyways, I talked to her about it since our first night, respected that she didn't want to, figured that she would try it for me later, she did, years later, almost vomited and i felt bad, I was like, ? y does it bother u so bad, haven't brought it up for 3 years... after that, she has somthing about she doesn't like stuff in her mouth and that, lol, my junk is icky im like, I DO IT! n she's like, 'but I don't ask u too' the truth is, she needs me to. if, i don't, uhm... we're not having sex, ya know? it'd be too painful for her and she wouldn't be turned on enough, she needs to be turned on and all wet, I don't mind. and im not angry at her for not doing it, I do it cuz i want to, she has a very clean pussy so its not like there's anything gross about it

  • tell her your gonna do dishes on the days she gives a blowjob

    • Lol! Good one! I'll try that too! :D

  • I don't know because I would've never married a woman that had a problem with that. I wouldn't marry someone that had a problem with oral because I like receiving just as much as giving.

    • Me too, and I told her that. Years ago while dating or something. It did not go over well and she did not respond well to that. I almost did leave her because of it, but decided, you know what, I don't know how but I want to stay with her, and maybe some day, cuz she said so, she'll change her mind.

    • And that will cause a man to cheat.

    • See I'm not cheatin tho... I don't have it in me to break her heart like that

  • Bitch I need you to suck my dick every week at least twice a week without the damn attitude, and you better suck it good. I don't wanna hear any lip unless it's the sound of it on my dick. Hahahahahhahahaha that's what you might wanna say... but you can't.
    There is really no way you can get her to do it unless she wants to. You're just gonna have to suck it up. Sorry to say it but if she isn't into it then she isn't gonna do it. Point blank.

    • HAHAHAH the first part of this :') and sorry, mate, I sadly do have to agree with the latter part

    • Hahaha thanks hun!;) :* it's the honest truth. I will message you now:p

    • Ok, what attitude? It's my wife, n i go down on her all the time, so, also. Im not a bitch. No more cussing at me, i dont have time for that

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