Why do guys always try to get in girl's pants, and make it seem like sex is nothing?

[Anonymous]

The title says it all, so why do guys always try to get in girl's pants, and make it seem like sex is nothing? So before you complain "You are a guy, you should know!", let me just tell you that I'm this user's 16 year old daughter. So why are guys that way? I have big boobs and a big butt that apparently makes guys wanna get in my pants. And they aren't even interested in me myself, but just in my private parts, and just wanna have sex with me. For example, this random guy seemed to be staring at my boobs and my butt, which made me very uncomfortable and made me blush, than he carried my bookbag for me at School, and than he automatically assumed that I loved him, and started dragging me off to his home after School. Than, he took me to his room away from his parents, and tried to remove all my clothes. He started off by trying to reach down my shirt to take off my bra, but I just slapped him, than he tried to rip my skirt off, tried touching my private parts, and so on. While at it he said "Why you blocking? We gonna have sex! Don't be a prude and friendzone me!". He was very strong and it was hard to escape from him, but I eventually did and went back to my house. And several other guys did the same thing. They weren't even interested in me, they just thought that I was hot and only cared about my private parts, they just looked and wanted to get in my pants. And they made it seem like sex is nothing, and something you can do with literally everyone. Don't get me wrong, I'm not asexual and I do like sex, but I wanna find the right guy, I'm not trying to lose my virginity as early as possible. So why are guys this way? They just seem so perverted and sex crazed, and I don't like having my boobs and butt fondled at inapp times, especially if that person's not the one. So are they perverted or am I just being prude? I don't think that I'm made to be in a relationship with a guy, if I'm just prude.

[RationalMale]

Because it's human nature to play things to their advantage.

When guys play that sex is nothing and that girls should have no problems having sex, it helps create a situation/environment where sex is easier to obtain. So men push for an advantage.

It's like why girls are usually so scornful of "pick up artist" stuff and other attempts to learn how to charm women and such. Most men are not skilled at such things, and women often like to think they got "a real man" who "isn't faking it." The idea that men can learn said skill, messes with women's idea they can sense a real, confident man from a faker who just learned how to charm women. So, to push for an advantage, they discourage it as much as possible.

[baconandcheese]

Not all guys are like this. Also, nowadays girls tend to flaunt their sexuality, this perpetuates the objectification of women, even those who don't flaunt.

[Anonymous]

What they did is terrible. Not all guys are like this. You've just had some rough experiences, I'm really sorry to hear that.

[Opinion Owner]

By the way, I'm happy you are a young girl looking for the right guy. Stick with that. It's rare nowadays. Never allow a man to share your body if he has not proven he is good and worthy of you and your affection.

[Asker]

I agree, I did find it terrible and perverted. Good things that not all guys are like that and actually caring, but here where I live (America.) A LOT of guys are like that, about 7 guys did almost the same thing that the random guy did. And yea, I will hold on to my virginity till I find the one, and know for sure that he'd the one after a very long time. America makes it seem like asexuals and virgins are losers, and that's stupid and rude to me.

[Opinion Owner]

I agree. I'm a virgin also waiting for the right guy and I could care less about being a loser. in my opinion having lots of sex isn't cool, it's stupid. Anyone can have sex. Being smart about who you sleep with is sexy.