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Guys, would your heart be open to a girl like this?

Ok, so I'm a technical virgin. If you don't know what that is, urbandictionary. com.

I used to want to save myself ENTIRELY for marriage, but I developed a condition whereas my neurons do not work right. We also think there's some damage to my hypothalamus, the part of the brain controlling appetite & sex, granted I have irregulation in my sexual temperance. Therefore, weeks before I turned 20, I began to do sexual stuff-anything that wasn't coitus, which I still feel is sacred and only for my groom alone. In order to work around this, I had/have anal sex so that my hymen remains in tact for my husband. My therapist, charge nurse & psychiatrist told me I can't hold a grudge against myself for it, since it is a factor with people who have this ( www.bphope.com/.../opening-the-door-on-hypersexuality ).

I feel bad sometimes, like my bipolar has reduced me to no guy wanting someone like this. This is why I hope I find another man who's mentally ill like me, who will understand. I also do not want my marital partner to be a virgin before our wedding; I'm not attracted to men who have never had coitus. I want him to know what he's doing. Anyway, off topic. Gentlemen, would you be able to look past this in a girl who's libido is disordered, but loves you enough to save the best thing for you?

Albeit, studies have shown bipolar maniacs to cheat a chillingly greater amount than stable people ( www.bipolar-lives.com/bipolar-infidelity.html ). That's not something I want to do, as to why I've taken the platform of technical virginity now-so that the best thing is his thing, and unlike those alternative shenanigans, with my true virginity I'll have a cognate sense of his ownership of me. I manage this the best I can, and can honestly say I've only been with 4 guys this entire year (better than last year!). Granted, I'm a lot less manic this year than I was last year.
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We're told since we're girls to find the diamond in the ruff. I think this proposition is going to weed them out. :) lol
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  • Okay, so I didn't even finish reading this. You define sex differently from me. I'm just here to tell you that your hymen, if you have one, is probably torn to shreds already from normal, everyday things. Have you ever done jumping jacks? Running? The splits? Gotten fingered by yourself or someone else? Had a dildo or vibratir inserted into your vagina? Gotten a pelvic exam where they insert things into the vagina? Used a tampon? If the answer is yes to any of these questions, your hymen is portably torn. Also, sex doesn't always tear the hymen. And it's only ever supposed to stretch it not tear it.

    • I may have a paleolithic take on virginity but I understand your platform on it. I don't refer to myself as a full virgin, just a technical one, that technicality based on that said paleolithic take on the general tact of my hymen having not been punctured by a penis. It is too painful to insert anything in there, I've never had anything save a tampon. I do thank you that you don't agree with what I said but defend my right to say it. You gave a fair answer that allowed me to clarify my personal platform on virginity without attacking it, here's an Xper point. :)

    • @asker thank you for that, but if it hurts, maybe you should try some foreplay. Also, if you don't masturbate, masturbation is a great way to learn how to partake in carnal pleasure. Also, do you know what kind of hymen you have? Some people have hymens that allow tampins but not sex and I once met a girl whose hymen wouldn't even allow a tampon in (sucked cuz she couldn't swim during her period). I've also forgotten some other things that I was going to say, but as far as sex definitions go, mine vary on the situation and there are some definitions I agree with and some I don't. But I recognize that everyone defines sex differently.

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  • Hi @KBob93. Stop posting this all of GaG.. You do not deserve an experienced husband because you haven't had vaginal intercourse. You are not pure, in any sense of the word, having done anal. Don't think you deserve anything, you have no saved yourself. I personally am quite broken, but would not enjoy being in a relationship with a hypocrite.

    Do yourself a favour, if you do manage to get into a relationship, don't tell your future boyfriend about any of this bullshit.

    • .. Um?

    • Gotcha

    • I'm confused

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  • Growing up with a parent with bipolar disorder that refused was just awful. I will have to pass. For my sake of my mental health I can't chance re-living those days.

    • I totally understand and respect your decision. I don't think my brother wants a bipolar wife after having me as his sister. ;)

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  • "I'm not attracted to men who have never had coitus. I want him to know what he's doing" Yet you are making sure that you won't know what you are doing for him. Kind of a mixed up pattern.

    • If I'm going to be worth anything to a guy I might as well have something valuable for him to take. But I can't stand the thought of doing something with someone who hasn't had someone else as their first.

    • So then you fall for the guy who thinks the same about the girl he marries.

    • I'm talking about COITUS. If you wish to beg the question any more, bear in mind you're not corrupting my imperative on this.

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  • I guess i could look past the sex craving maniac side of you. It all depends on how you are on a daily basis in reality. You seem well aware of your problem and are making attempts to mitigate them. Which is a good quality to have.

    • From what i have read problems arise from not being medicated or stoping the medication. I have had a bipolar friend but of a worse kind. He had a tendency to have anger outbursts and got excited very easily. To which a simple request to make him, stop, realize what he is doing in a calm manor would snap him back to reality when he wasn't on his meds.

    • He probably had Type I.

    • Yeah he did, he's gotten into trouble before with his problem. But he never stays on his meds. The fucked up part is he's a nice guy just gets excited easily. The problem is because of his size to which he is 6' 4" and 220lbs he can be dangerous if the wrong person makes him mad. So he must always be on his meds

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  • "I used to want to save myself ENTIRELY for marriage," if you think that way then i'd certainly avoid you LOL

  • wtf did I just read

    • Was just wondering the same, could be a troll though...

  • I'm pretty sure I could open my heart to someone like you. I respect that you try your best to manage the disorder. That's really the most important thing for me.

  • No. You're not a virgin. Period. I'm sure others won't care.

    • Technically I am. Fully I'm not. Why wouldn't others care?

    • I dunno. Low standards?

    • Coming from someone who says your partner has to be hot no matter what. I'm sure you're one of those up-the-ass hypochristians then. Go prance around with your nose in the air then, run along.

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  • Absolutely, yes. I would. Especially if you were so self aware and open about the way you felt. We all have our crosses to bear. I, for one, was born with diphallia, which means I have two penises. I'd like to think you'd be as accepting of my situation as I would be of yours.

    • I've never heard if diphallia... How does that work out? Do you need corrective surgery or are you functioning just fine? Can you have children? Also, I apologize for being super nosy. I've just never heard of that >.< though I'm absolutely positive it's possible. Other things that seem similar are possible.

  • You wanted to save yourself ENTIRELY for marriage but failed. The "sexual stuff" is sex and even more perverted than coitus, with make you, stupid, immoral and hypocritical.

    I would have keep those information to myself and asked questions about it, if I had been you.

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