My best suggestion, call off the entire thing and force him tino sex ed classes.
His idea is about equally good as drilling a hole in the bottom of a boat to drain it of water...
It'll most likely hurt like hell for you if he just does that.
Instead it should be done roughly like this
1. LOTS of foreplay, including fingering and using smallish toys to make you ready and used to the feeling of penetration
2. LUBE. You will need it
3. relax. This makes you less tense, and makes it less painfull.
4. Go slowly. If done right, you don't even need to tear the hymen. It's quite elastic, so with the right preparations, it'll simply stretch and not tear. Even so, if the steps above is done, any tearing will be less painfull.
5. Ensure you're in controll (for example by you riding cowgirl). It means you can simply pull off if he tries anything funny, and the fact the girl is in controll oftentimes helps the girl relax
If he has said he will do it hard no matter what you say now it will still be done hard. It might be a fantasy of his that that's how he wants to do it.
Done it with 5 girls that were virgin, 2 were ONS and the rest were girlfriends.
The ONS was both done fast and hard. 1 of them I didn't know she was a virgin.
The girlfriends, one was done hard. One was done softly and slowly. The most recent one I inserted the head slowly into her and then pushed the rest of it hard into her.
Hard and fast isn't the best way unless you want it to be painful or his isn't a very big one.
Okay so wait a minute if fast and hard isn't a good way why did you do it to those girls? you like seeing them in pain or what?
Didn't feel like it I suppose?
He should make sure you are ready - wet. After the head of his penis is in, make him slowly push in. Maybe not all the way - only as much as you want. Put your hand between you and his belly. Let him in all the way when you're ready. Humping slowly will make it so much better. Don't expect an orgasm. He may not cum either if he's nervous.
I would say go in really slow. My boyfriend went in too fast when we lost our virginity together and it hurt so much. It will also hurt a few more times, it did for me, until you get used to it. 2 months later and we are having so much fun doing it.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Slow intimacy is the only way. Make sure you are moist the first time. (KY) Heavier thrusting on a virgin could turn into a meaningless quick'y. Intimacy is not supposed to be like two dogs humping each other in the park.
Your boyfriend doesn't know what he's talking about if the goal is to perform painful sex on you. Your better off not doing it with him, until at least he rethinks his ideology. My impression is he doesn't care about you other than scoring.
Condoms aren't reliable so go on birth control. If you are too embarrassed to see a doctor to prescribe birth control then maybe you should hold off losing your virginity because intimacy is far more personal than seeing a doctor.
I would think slow at first would be the best.
I totally disagree if its your first time. you're telling me he said he just wants to plow through your fucking vagina? first time? not even give you a chance to get wet? the fuck does he know?
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