Boyfriend watches transgender p*rn and uses chat rooms?

[aylssawantstoknow]

I have been with my boyfriend for two years, we have an amazing relationship, I've never been happier. A few weeks ago i went to take a photo on his snapchat, i saw that he has been sending snapchats to a girl he used to sleep and to popular snapchat users that send nude photos. I didn't want to say anything because i didn't want him to think i was snooping which i wasn't at the time. This had me very worried about what he was up to and i know its completely the wrong thing to do but i decided to check out his history on his computer. I found that he regularly uses chatrooms to talk dirty with people, i noticed in there once or twice he typed in gay chat rooms but i didn't think much of it cause all the rest was straight. The last 2 weeks he has been much better so i kind of left it, then yesterday he was really distant so today when he went to work i check his history again and I was beyond shocked. For the last 2 weeks nearly everyday he has been watching transgender p*rn, looking up ridiculous amounts of gay and bi sexual chat rooms, using shemale masturbation sites and looked for men seeking men snapchat users. When we are sexual he always said he liked a finger in the bum and liked it being licked as well as becoming desperate for anal sex which i don't feel comfortable with so we havnt done it, i know many guys that liked this and never thought too much of it but now I'm really worried. Is my boyfriend gay or bi? Is using chatrooms considered cheating? How do i confront him on this? i know I've dug myself into a hole by looking at his history but after i saw those snapchats i couldn't help but wonder knowing he used to be such a womaniser before we started dating. I was never expected to find what i did, i know guys look at odd things when they masturbate and i have no issues with that but i think this is a step to far, its different to be once or twice and but for it to happen everyday, i think there is more too it.

[275153]

Those are the only options? I think he just likes p*rn. I know I do. And when you need something, you can't get from your partner, you can either cheat or get it from p*rn, where it safe. I like to watch women swallo. My ex didn't like to swallow. So, I'd get that part of my kick from p*rn. Interestingly, she was the beneficiary of it. I'd watch it, get bothered and would need the release and my ex was always ready to have sex. Sometimes she'd even let me watch it while we were having sex.

Point is, that by allowing me to have my p*rn kick, she kept our marriage bed clean. The limitation was, no communication with anyone. Chat or other.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

He is clearly bi curious if not out and out bi. As for cheating? I would say it was uncomfortably close to if, not actual. I strongly recomend you sit down and talk it through.

Question though: If he gets it under control and stops chatting/foruming and potentially cheating, why does the potential bisexuality bother you?

[aylssawantstoknow]

the bisexuality doesn't bother me but i just wanted him to be honest with me. I just don't want him to be using me! I'm afraid that if he is looking at this type of p*rn and he doesn't want to be as sexual with me i am clearly not satisfying him even though i have done everything he has asked for besides anal.

[ThePragmaticRomantic]

Dont take it too personally. Women often do, but male sexual drives are weird, and will tend to go off at odd angles when otherwise sated. p*rn and internet sexuality can be awefully compelling to even the happiest of individuals, and the only solution is to discuss it.

[Morava]

He is certainly bi curious and I would consider that cheating. He needs to figure his sexuality out for his own sake and happiness.

I wish i had advice. You don't owe him an explanation, just break it off.

[iWANTitALL]

What she said... don't let him drag into the mud with his decisions... if your not comfortable with his sexual choices get away. My opinion he may like you even love u but not the way you need and is most likely using you as his cover while he on the "LOW" this world is judgmental n he is confused but you don't need to be.

[Amagi82]

He's definitely bisexual. Would it bother you if he dated a man or a trans woman on the side, with permission?

What if he brought another guy into the bedroom for a threesome?

[Curmudgeon]

Maybe you just need to "peg" him.

[Curmudgeon]

And I don't mean that in jest. If he is otherwise a great guy who just has wacky fantasies about taking it up the behind, perhaps you should invest in a strap on and satisfy him?

[vet31bSoldier]

p*rn doesn't make a cheater. But chatrooms could be considered cheating.

[Kinggot]

None in my opinion he is addiced to Internet p*rn. People with Internet p*rn addiction s always search for something more and more extreme material. It doesn't mean that's is sexual preference. He should stop all p*rn. If you love him help him. Check out yourbrainonporn. Com good luck

[FurtileSpermRelease]

He might be gay. You can screen him for it by getting a new nice bag and see if he can identify it on the spot. If he doesn't then you're fine.