He might either be to into that kind of affection or doesn't know if you would enjoy it. Most guys need clues or whatnot before they do things like that. Granted it should be a automatic thing but for some guys it isn't. Talk to him but be open and show that your just trying to figure it out, he might feel that you are trying to rope him into something or take advantage of him, this is just a possibility but still.
Talk to him about it, be open and understanding. He might just be nervous and unwilling to screw up what could be a long lasting relationship by going to fast or taking assumptions. But really talk to him and be clear and open, don't know how many times this should be repeated.0 0 0 0"He might just be nervous and unwilling to screw up what could be a long lasting relationship by going too fast or taking assumptions." When I'm with him, observing him, I sometimes wonder if this could be it. He actually seemed more forward and confident on the first couple of dates, and as we started hanging out more and esp after we started sleeping together, he seemed to have gotten less aggressive. Which is kinda weird because you would think physical intimacy would make a guy more forward. But it's really too soon to tell what the reason behind his actions is. I'm also kinda nervous and don't want to screw whatever this is up. This looks like it could have potential, and he seems like a really decent guy.
Anon has great advice. Before you go off the rails with an overactive imagination, talk to him, away from the sex say over an intimate drink. Ask him where things stand on the romantic front. If they're okay and there're many reasons to believe they are, then talk to him about being more affectionate, that you'll find ways to "reciprocate." ;) If you're kinky, offer to role play. I see the odds as good that he'll come around but maybe "make you pay for it."
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0 3It just means he's not a cuddly person. I personally love holding hands and cuddling a lot and it baffles me that there are women out there that don't like all that touchy feely stuff too.
0 0 0 0He is most likely shy. I could imagine myself acting the same way with my date in the first few weeks. I suggest you grap his hand or his arm first or even cuddle, it should make him more comfortable with you, and it should also encourage him to do the same next time.
0 0 0 0So he would be shy even after we've started having sex? I'm sorry, I was thinking that since we're now sleeping together, he would be even more confident. He's a cool and confident guy in his late thirties.
maybe that stuff just ins't important to him or maybe he doesn't like it.
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