If I were to tell a girlfriend about my foot fetish, how would she react? How would you react?

[Anonymous]

Ok I have a foot fetish and I find them very attractive. I don't steal shoes or do anything inappropriate like the clichéd foot fetish guy, I just find feet sexy the same way I do legs or breasts. I'd love to do things like give a future gf (haven't had one yet) a foot rub but I wouldn't do anything that she would be uncomfortable with obviously. If I were to reveal to a girl (after a while obviously) that I have a foot fetish, would she think I'm weird? Would she dump me or tell other people about me? Do any girls know of a guy with this fetish? Do any guys here have stories about what happened when they told girls about their fetish? When I get a girlfriend, I'd rather not keep this from her. It's a big part of my sexuality. If I hide it, I imagine I'll start to feel guilty for lying and resentful for having to hide it. I've been told several times on here that I'm sweet and thoughtful and I like to think I'm a good guy. I've never pm'd anyone to ask for pics of their feet just so you know! I'm a (mostly) normal guy apart from the fact that I find feet attractive.

[SilentJoker]

Hey I have a foot fetish too and I'll tell you my experience with it I told my first girlfriend and I'm going to be honest with you she laughed at me and I fell weird about it but then she'd run her feet on my crotch. We later broke up not because of the foot fetish tho. I later found out that she told my friend and it later got out to my small group of friends and they poked funny at me. So I got rid of those friend. I told my current girlfriend about it and she accepted me and didn't care about my foot fetish and I mean most nights I usually have sex with her until she's satisfied then she'll do "stuff" with my foot fetish and I'm satisfied. I also got the balls to tell my new friend and his girlfriend and they said that its miner and accepted me too in fact they said that they can think of more kink things then that. So the moral of the story is there are all kinds of people in this world and everyone's different what's weird for some are normal to others. Having a foot fetish is not a big deal its actually really fun. if your dating someone and your sexually active with them and they reject you because of a foot fetish then there pretty messed up them selves that they don't love you anymore because of a kink in the bedroom. Don't be ashamed of who you are

[Anonymous]

It depends entirely on the individual girl. Some girls might be into that. Including your girlfriend. However, if your girlfriend is like my sister, she would dump you on the spot. My sister hates feet, and I even asked her about this kind of question. Like what if her boyfriend told her that he had a foot fetish. She said she would dump him. I asked her what if he was the hottest guy in the world and everything about his personality is perfect except for the fact that he has a foot fetish and she said she would still leave him.. She said that a foot fetish is one of her only deal breakers... To me that's odd, but that's just the way she is.

So, it depends entirely on your girlfriend. What one girl likes another might hate.

[OhPaige]

It's not a huge deal or a deal breaker at all. People like what they like. You like feet. That's no problem.
The only issue I have with men that like feet (experience) is that they can become obsessive about it during intimate times. As long as you don't go overboard & talk about it all the time it's fine.
A good friends with benefits I used to have had a big foot fetish but you'd never know. He wouldn't talk about it. Not because he was shy or ashamed, but because he respected my opinion, though, personally I am ok with feet & foot fetishes. I have a small one but it's more when guys play with mine not the other way. Anyway, my friend would only act out his fetish during sex. Even then it would be small. Holding my feet against his chest or kissing them. I loved it.
I think it all boils down to your discreetness about it & how open she is. Plus if she's into it it gives her more opportunities to go to the nail salon & make them pretty. What girl would hate that! Good luck! Hoping you find someone that accepts you :)

[Asker]

Thanks. XD My main worry would be ruining a good thing with my... uniqueness.

[arielle_cerise]

Foot fetishes are actually fairly common. I've met a few guys who are into it, and my ex loved my feet. I initially didn't really care, but I warmed up to it. There's so many nerve endings, hehe.

It's such a harmless fetish, too, I don't see why someone would have a huge problem with it, especially after made comfortable with that part of their body. A lot of people don't pay that much attention to their feet and it becomes a hideously nonsexual thing, and that's where the stigma lies.

If you're going to introduce something, always keep it light. Let her get used to the idea. At the very least, she'd appreciate a foot massage. :')

[Asker]

True. Tbh I imagine a girl dating me would find that there are perks to the foot fetish. For one, she'd get foot massages whenever she wants. I'd probably be grateful for them.

[Anonymous]

I saw that my boyfriend favorites a tweet of a girls foot awhile back, and it made me wonder if he had a foot fetish. Initially I thought it was a little weird, but it really isn't a big deal. He hasn't told me, but if he does then I wouldn't think of him any differently. And I certainly wouldn't mind footrubs :) There are crazier "fetishes" out there than liking feet

[Asker]

Have you acted any differently around him since that tweet? Do you want to discuss it with him? Or is it a total non issue for you?

[Opinion Owner]

No I don't think I've acted any differently. And no I'm not going to ask him about it, but if he tells me then I'll talk about it with him. It really isn't an issue for me. The only thing he's done is he'll kind of play footsy with me if we're cuddling or something and he's taken my shoes off for me before. Which is all fine, and I don't think it's weird. It's different, and I don't have that kink, but it's totally fine with me. What makes a foot "sexy" to you?

[Asker]

Well for every guy who has a foot fetish there seems to be a different preference (based on what I've seen online; we don't all have weekly meetings :P). For me, it's a few things like the curve of the instep, smooth tops and the heels/nylon/sandals they're in. It depends.

This pic is a good example 33.media.tumblr.com/.../...k9L5KJ1qhgao0o1_500.jpg

Also there is a sense of me taking care of her (like what your bf did with taking of your shoes, that'd be attractive to me). Giving her foot rubs, taking of her shoes and even giving her a pedicure seems a turn on to me.

[Opinion Owner]

I always thought it was like little dainty feet that guys with foot fetishes liked. Mine look like the one in the picture basically. And yeah no guy has ever untied my boots and taken them off for me before like my bf did, but I just saw it as sweet and romantic :) I haven't gotten a foot rub yet but I wouldn't say no to one!

[Asker]

Yeah I've learned that there's a massive variety in what foot fetishists can find attractive. Did you ask him to take them off or did he just do it himself?

[Opinion Owner]

He just did it himself. I was sitting on his couch with him and he just leaned over, untied my boots, and slid then off for me. Like I said, it was romantic and a little sensual

[Asker]

Did you really not mind? You didn't say anything about it?

[Opinion Owner]

No I didn't mind! I thought it was sweet actually. And no I think I might have said thanks. Maybe kissed him too

[Asker]

Right thanks. XD I'm just curious, would a girl still be able to see me as a long term option if I tell her about the fetish? Or will she just play along a while out of curiosity, then dump me because she doesn't want kids with a guy with that kind of fetish?

[Opinion Owner]

No I definitely see him as a longterm option if he has that fetish. There are certain fetishes that I probably wouldn't be ok with, but that one is really mild to me. If my guy wants to give me footrubs and whatever then I'd love that :) and honestly if he wanted like a footjob (I think that's what it's called?) then I'd do it for him. Why not?

[Asker]

If we're thinking about the same thing then yes, that's what it's called. XD Do you really think it's mild? I always thought that most people (esp. girls) bought into that stereotype of "foot perverts".

[Opinion Owner]

Haha ok that's what I thought it was called, but I wasn't sure! Yeah I'd do it for him if that turned him on. And yeah I really do think it's mild. If a random guy grabbed my foot and started rubbing it or something because that is his fetish then I would think he's a little perverted. But if my boyfriend liked it, then that's not perverted at all to me :)

[Asker]

Fair enough. XD How long do you think it would take for you to become comfortable enough with a guy for him to bring it up without seeming weird?

[Opinion Owner]

Um probably a month or two. I'm really comfortable around my boyfriend though and it hasn't been that long. We just click and I can be myself with him, so I would expect him to be himself around me and tell me things like that when he's ready. It's definitely not a deal breaker

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Asker]

It was between you and the other anon girl. You got it cos of the fact that you actually had SOME experience with it. Plus, you never got tired of my extra questions. XD I'm really interested in the girls POV and I'd probably talk to you about this forever but an mh isn't worth that. :)

[Opinion Owner]

I could give you my name on here and you can message me if you want. I don't mind answering whatever questions you have :) This is helpful to me to since I think he might have the same attraction to feet that you do so it's nice for me to learn about it :)

[Asker]

I actually can't think of any more questions I want to ask. I've exhausted all my concerns tbh. Which is rare. XD If you want to ask any questions, I suppose you could just post here and I'll get a notification for it.

[Opinion Owner]

Ah, nevermind then. It's fine :p

[Asker]

I know it's been ages but it's Christmas so if you want to tell me your username, I'll pm you and you can ask me whatever question you want later on. :)

[Opinion Owner]

brookeelizabeth96 Merry Christmas :)

[AnAtomInMe]

I think if you tell her they look nice and you want to give her a foot rub, that'd she'd feel lucky. Some people are really nervous that they have ugly feet, but if you reassured her that you like them I think it'd be fine. If you start asking her to rub her feet on her balls or jerk you off in a high heel or something weird, yeah she might get a bit freaked out. I don't think it's that weird to find feet attractive.

[Asker]

I'm sure she'd like all the foot rubs but what I'm worried about is if I tell her about the fetish, will she still be able to see me as a long term option? Or will she just play along a while out of curiosity, then dump me because she doesn't want kids with a guy with that kind of fetish?

[AnAtomInMe]

Personally I think it's a pretty tame fetish. It sure wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.

[curious123456]

Open minded and non-judgemental girls are out there. I've been with my bf over two years now, knowing of his fetish for the last year or so. It took a little time to understand it but I was willing to and now we have fun with it.

[Asker]

So it took about a year until he told you about it? What do you mean have fun with it? Do you enjoy it too or are you just keeping him happy?

[curious123456]

Yea it took him a year, he was really embarrassed about it and new to having it with a partner (as im his first long term relationship). He was worried how I'd take it when he told me. By having fun with it I mean we involve it during s*x, as a means of foreplay and I've shared pictures with someone that I felt comfortable with and was just being adventurous, kept anonymous of course, so I know what I enjoy and what im comfortable with about it and in the end it we both get pleasure out of it.

[curious123456]

Its not the main focal point but what girl doesn't love a good foot rub ;) knowing he likes them has made me want to show them off more, by painting my nails often and finding sexy strappy shoes etc.

[Asker]

Good to hear. I hope I find a girl as open minded as you. XD

[curious123456]

Im sure you will :)

[Klaatu51]

just tell it to her, foot fetish isn't uncommon

[daisy122]

I’d personally be down for it. If she rejects you for it then she’s just not sexually compatible with you and that’s okay. My advice would be to be sure to make it known you’re fine with people having foot fetishes so long as they’re hygienic and respectful if a kink conversation happens or if you could subtly make one happen. Her reaction would say a lot about her sexuality and that’s golden information for such a sensitive sub topic of sexuality.

[ivorlongan18]

Tell her! When I finally told my girlfriend she just smiled at me and said "I already know you do! ... Most guys look at girls boobs or legs first but you make it blatantly obvious that the first thing you check out is their feet" She told me she was totally ok with it because not that many girls have feet as nice as hers anyway. She can't get enough of flaunting her feet and teasing me now, especially in the car and out in public cause she knows just how much I can't wait to get home and show her how horny she has made me.

[Princessofpersia]

I wouldn't be weirded out I would just continue the relationship like nothing was wrong

[deadpoets]

She may laugh, think its funny or cute, even hot. She'll love getting foot rubs. Most girls won't overreact and leave. Everyone has their kinks! Be proud of them. They're a part of you and your sexuality. I wouldn't mind if my man did,

[Asker]

Cut or hot. Really? :) I just assumed girls would think I was some kind of pervert. You've got a point re the foot rubs. If I'm honest, I'll probably enjoy giving them more than she would enjoy receiving!

[deadpoets]

yes lol! i think its a cute fetish. A lot of woman are insecure about they're feet too so knowing their man likes to touch them and thinks they're cute is reassuring.

[Asker]

Fair enough. As you said, a lot of women are insecure about their feet. Would you not think less of the guy for liking your feet? Or would you just love him loving another part of you?

[deadpoets]

I love him for loving me!

[Asker]

Fair enough. Not a bad attitude to take. I heard on another fourm a girl say she loved having a bf with a foot fetish. It meant she always got foot rubs, he paid for shoes and pedicures and he always paid attention when she shopped for shoes. ;)

[BlueEyedAngel10]

i dont think this qualifies as a foot fetish. You just find something attractive. So dont label it as a fetish and then your gf will think its sweet :) tell her you want to rub her feet. tell her you think she has dainty girly feet. you appreciate something feminine. its not weird unless you make it weird.

[Asker]

Tbh there's stuff I didn't put there out of embarrassment. I don't see the attraction of foot jobs but rubbing them and kissing them seems very intimate to me. I think there's an element of me pampering her in it. My gf sitting back relaxing while I rub her feet seems wonderful to me. Would most girls really think it's sweet? I'm surprised that a few of the answers have said that. As I said to another poster, I want a long term relationship and for that, I need her to see me as a long term option and not weird or anything like that.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care. What I want to know is if you would like a girl with a birthmark on her foot

[Anonymous]

I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months and figured out he had a thing for feet myself. He wanted to give me foot rubs like all the time and I kind of just put two and two together. Of course I didn't come right out and ask him about it but told him one night that I was painting my toes and asked his opinion on colour choice, he told me he likes dark toes and then went on to admit he likes sucking on toes. Never once did it bother me because I like him for all that he is. And, after allowing him to suck on my toes, it actually feels pretty awesome! if a girl likes you, she won't care. Build up to it if you're apprehensive. Start by making her comfortable with giving her foot massages and telling her how nice her feet look. And as long as she has an open mind it's fine. It's one of the least off the wall fetishes out there!

[Asker]

Thanks. That's good advice and I'm glad there are some women who are open minded about this. Can I ask 2 questions: Does it really feel good? Most girls that I see talk about this online say that it's weird and they'd never do it. Also, do you think there are some girls who'd actually break up with a guy for having a foot fetish?

[Opinion Owner]

It really does feel good, I like it! Didn't think I would but again, it's about having an open mind. I've even returned the favor for him! I can see how some people have an aversion to feet (thinking they're dirty or whatever) but, if you're hygienic then it's fine. I take better care of my feet now that I know about it because I know he pays close attention to them. I think that as long as the girl likes you and has an open mind about sex, she wouldn't break up. This is why sexual compatibility is so important in a relationship.

[Asker]

Really good answer, thanks. Hopefully I find a woman as open minded as you. :)

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure you will! It's nothing to be ashamed about at all. Like one other person said, it took a year to get her boyfriend to admit it. I was just observant enough to have figured it out really early on and it's quite possible had I not opened the window he may not have said anything for a while! Just hold of on revealing it to her (when you start dating) until you're comfortable with her. I'd suggest starting by just playing with her feet and stuff (massages) and then build up to the rest. It's just important that she's comfortable with you.

[Anonymous]

I'm not going to lie this is very odd and strange in my opinion.
But..
I honestly would not mind having a bf with a foot ferish, actually.. I think id kinda prefer that. Cus I have flat feet and my feet always hurt so I love eating them rubbed hahaha seriously dude. But no I don't have a foot fetish I just wouldn't mind having a bf that had one cus if I asked him tk rub my feet every night when they she the most, he wouldn't be bothered or annoyed he'd like it lol.

[Asker]

True. :) As I said to the others if I was asked to give my girlfriend a foot rub, I'd actually be very grateful. We'd be in this weird situation where she gets me to do something for her and I'd be trying to find a way to pay her back. Weird. ;) Would you mind telling me what you think is weird about the fetish? I won't take it personally I promise. :)

[Opinion Owner]

Ugh I just noticed I had so many spelling errors! I ment to say my feet ache a lot at night espcially, so if I ask a normal bf to rub them for me, they get annoyed when I ask everyday, since they ache everyday, and that having a bf with a foot fetish will be too my advantage haha cus they won't complain. And I find it odd because well.. I don't have a foot fetish haha? So I can't relate too people who do and why they do, u know? Like I don't understand why they find feet so attractive? Like its like.. Having a hand fetish lets say, think about that? Haha. Does that seem odd to u? And now curious and I need too ask.. Ok so does looking at any feet turn u on? Or like just pretty girls with pretty feet? And also would giving ur gf a foot rub turn u on then? Sorry if my question is weird I'm just curious now. Hahah!

[Asker]

I don't mind the spelling errors. Don't worry about it. :) Yeah tbh if I had a gf who'd ask for a foot rub every night I'd love it! Good point about the hand fetish. I didn't think about it that way. To each his (or her) own I suppose. Haha, yeah I don't mind the questions. :) Tbh most feet are attractive to me which I suppose is a good and bad thing. Any girl that knew my fetish would know how to REALLY turn me on. Actually there are 'ugly' girls with beautiful feet and beautiful women with average feet. Different guys like different things in this area. Some like certain colour toenails, some like long toes others short. I don't think about it that much tbh. I just find some very attractive others, not so much. Yes giving my gf a foot rub would turn me on. I can imagine having an argument with a gf and then she kinda waves her feet up and down and puts on a cute voice and asks for a foot rub. I'd fall for it hook, line and sinker! It'd always put me in the mood.

[Asker]

Hope that doesn't seem weird. Honestly apart from this fetish, I'm mostly normal! :)

[Opinion Owner]

I knew id get u to understand my point of view somewhat with the hand fetish example haha! :D And ohh that very interesting.. So I have another question if u don't mind :p Would u rather date a pretty girl with ugly feet, or a ugly looking girl with pretty feet? Thanks for answering my questions by the way haha :)

[Asker]

I don't mind the questions, they're actually interesting for me too. XD Hmm, I'm not sure tbh. Assuming personality is equal (it wouldn't be though), I might have to say the ugly girl with pretty feet. I don't think about it that way though. To me, a pretty woman has pretty feet and if an 'ugly' girl has pretty feet she wouldn't be ugly. To answer your question, I assumed pretty and ugly was referring to their face. To me, pretty feet are the same as a nice face or breasts or hot legs or ass. They're something that makes a woman sexy.

[ivorlongan18]

Perfect feet are a deal breaker for me! I don't care how pretty a girl is, if I look down and see she has ugly toes I am instantly turned off! ... the thought of her nasty feet touching any part of my body in bed totally grosses me out!