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How do I ask my mom for labia plasty (im 16)?

im 16 and i have really large labia and its really weird because im a pretty petite girl. it hangs about 2 inches and its just really gross it starts out bright pink and goes to black and its all wrinkly and gross and i have a huge clit. and wearing bathing suits are embarassing i feel like i have a fucking dick lol. and it actually looks weird in leggings too. i have a long term boyfriend and this is keeping me from doing stuff that all of my friends do with their boyfriends.. like fingering, and maybe even sex. but im afriad if i asked my mon for labia plasty she will think im sexually active. its also because it looks ugly in bikinis and i just hate the way it looks and it causes me discomfort when i wear jeans because it pinches it. i dont care if you think im too young if you had my vagina you would understand.. how do i get her to let me get labia plasty, also i could pay for it with my own money saved up, i just need a parents consent. and i find this really hard to talk about and i just know she's gonna tell my dad and my family is so loud in my whole family would know. i just want to keep this between me and her. any advice?
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and all the guys i know make fun of large labia and call it meat curtains..
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and please dont tell me not to do it because my minds already set all i want is answers on how to convince her
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  • https://www.greatwallofvagina.co.uk/
    Your only 16 I would not normally post to a 16 year old but your post made me feel your desperation. I will not tell you not to do it. As men we have no idea how this must feel. Above is a fantastic piece of art work which is made of 400 casts of normal women's labias. Please have a look you may find you are not that abnormal. I find it very moving and sad that young ladies such as yourself feel badly or pressurised into looking a certain way. However in extreme cases and you my be justified in this then a labiaplasty for medical reasons can be acceptable. If your lips do hang down by 2" on there own then this could be very uncomfortable in your under clothes rub and become sore.
    It's wonderful to see so many guys posting to tryi and reassure you. I can only add my thoughts. What you are experiencing and hearing from boys your own age is very immature many of your age won't even of seen a vagina in the flesh it's all from viewing pornography. They are showing off to their mates. Any guy who has the privilege is seeing your vagina will not be wondering whether it's a perfect one like in the P*rnography industry. He will be be thinking of you as a person and how wonderful it is that you want to be this intimate with him , believe me. Personally my advice which Is very tough to give as you are so young and so very concerned about it. Wait until you are 18. What I can say is many many men desire and love what you are describing and the right guy will love it because he loves. You.
    But if as you say it rubs and pinches you are old enough to see a doctor yourself. If you don't feel comfortable enough to go to the doctor on your own and are able to talk to your mum then this would be best. My advice to help you get it done is only talk about the medical reasons not the aesthetics. Rubbing and pinching, and not being able to wear certain clothes due to them pinching etc will be far more listened too. I hope this helps I feel for and good luck

  • I think if you want to take this step, you should wait about 4-5 years minimum. The reason is that genital sugery before finishing puberty can be problematic. My personal opinion is that you shouldn't do it because not only should you feel at comfort with your own body but surgery does risk the formation of scar tissue which WILL impede your functionality of your genitals. Though if you will processknow that your ssurvey is elective and purely cosmetic and thus will be unlikely to be covered by most insurance plans. To that end, you should be prepared to give a sizable sum of money towards a down payment for the surgery if you are going to ask your parents for it. I still am reluctant to advise engaging in it at all and if you do, I'm more reluctant still to suggest doing so anytime before you are 20 years old.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I don't think you should do it, but regardless I think you should tell your mother. Everyone feels insecure. EVERYONE. I personally think that large inner labia are better. They are reported to experience more sexually, like they get wetter easier. Most guys don't care regardless.

    I understand being so insecure you wanna change it, I do. But those surgeries can reduce sensation down there. I'd be a hypocrite if I told you not to cuz I want a boob job, but do your research!!! There are many risks, along with few benefits. Loss of sensitivity is one of them (for both breast implants and labiaplasty). You decide if it's worth it. I know for me, if my nipple sensation is gone, it's not worth it. If more than half my nipple sensation is gone, not worth it. What's the point of having big perfect beautiful boobs that everyone wants to suck if they don't feel anything? Not worth it. You should feel the same. What's the point of having a beautiful sculpted pussy if you cannot feel anything?
    And who's to say other people think your vagina is ugly? Most guys say there is no such thing as an ugly vagina, provided it's clean and disease free (no blue waffles lol). I know, it's hard to think that. Cuz most guys say that every boob size has its own beauty. Yea, so I know you will still feel self conscious even if we all commenting how beautiful or ok your vulva is. Especially when people ridicule your specific part, meat curtains for outtie vaginas, 12yr old boy for flat chests. Yea, it's hard to believe that there are admirers of our "less desired" parts, but they are there.

    Again, I'd be a hypocrite if I told you surgery isn't the answer for you, cuz I feel that surgery would maybe be the answer for me. I can only tell you to do as much research, and you decide if the benefits outweigh the risks and if the surgery is worth it for you. Please do talk to your mother or another loved/trusted one. Don't worry, we have ALL been insecure. Good luck.

  • i'm happy that i saw your question i really understand you and i can explain partly the reason why your labia does look like that,,, actually even doctors don't know the reason exactly but they think that the reason is the puberty you know your genitals will change but sometimes due to the hormones they excessively change color shape and size ,,, i'm sure that most of girls didn't notice their labia minora till the puberty they tend to change some of us have some little changes but some others like you have hypertrophy
    i must told toy that most of women have this problem so actually we can't consider it as a problem it's just common you know
    i have a pdf document in my pc this is the title : Labia Minora and Vulvar Appearance you can just go to google tap it and read it it will help you there is a project of large labia on tumblr mmmm i don't know if i can tell you how to look for it i mean you are 16 and i don't know if it is appropriate for you to see it but it helped so many women to accept their bodies
    Ah about your labia size 2 inches means 5 cm well i think it's really bothering you cuz it rub against you clothes i think it's good to have labia plasty but NOT NOW believe me it's early to do something like that you must wait even if your doctor say yes -_- you are just 16 your genitals may remain in changes so i think a labia plasty will lead to complications so just wait for the good moment
    and about your mother i'm telling you that you must tell her she won't think that you are sexually active cuz labia size has no relation with sex or masturbation
    just tell you mother aout your problem tell her that they hang out for 2 inches and she will anderstand your fears
    and finally you can read a lot in the net to help your self accepting you body

  • this was almost the exact same situation I had so I'll just tell you what I did (first I suggest starting out by telling your mom there is something you need to tell her and that you would like it to stay between the two of you) next, what I did, I found a doctor that I really liked and thought did a great job on all his labiaplasty procedures ( Dr. Daniel Mandalie btw)... So I pulled his website up one night and showed her all the before and after pics (note that I had mentioned before that I had a problem with the way I looked down there) and anyways she agreed that the before pictures were in need of that surgery so I told her mine were just as bad then she just asked to see mine... At first I didn't want to but I realized that if she didn't see it then I couldn't get the surgery so after like a week or so I said fine and just nervously played on my phone for like 30 seconds. if yours are as bad as you say they are then I'm sure your mom will understand and let you get the surgery good luck ☺️

  • You should absolutely not undergo this surgery for medical reasons.

    You are 16 and therefore not fully developed. Invasive surgery can actually make your genitals look WORSE. If you operate while your body us still developing that part of your body, you may end up looking umpteen times worse than you thought it did. Your mother will reject the idea and will be absolutely right in her decision.

    Read up MEDICAL articles about labia plasty and heed the advice of DOCTORS, not Dumas's teenage boys you just discovered how to jerk off.

    If you feel like this is so necessary for you, do it after you've finished going through puberty first.

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  • Tell her that you need this to stay between you and her, make sure she knows this is a confidential mother-daughter conversation and ask her to just hear you out without interrupting you. When you get past that point, just blatantly tell her what you want. Then tell her why you want it, just say what you've written here. Don't argue with her if she straight up tells you no, that'll pretty much ruin all chances of her ever allowing it, just accept her answer but ask her to please consider it.

  • The measurement alone does not fully describe the appearance of your labia, so none of us can know how it really appears. But I can say that there are many women that have labia that are 2 inches out (can't say long because that would be the measurement from front to rear, that are perfectly happy because they are satisfied with them as are many men. But the fact that it is fine for others does not change how you feel about your body.

    I would recommend that you speak with your mother and a gynecologist, before you speak to a plastic surgeon, or other specialist that would perform the labiaplasty. You (and your mother) need to learn about all the facts of your body and what the surgery may bring (effects you do not want), before seeing a doctor who makes his money performing that surgery and will probably recommend it regardless of its wiseness. If after seeing the gynecologist you are still determined to go ahead, then see the surgeon.

  • Well be honest with your mother about how you feel about your body. Tell her about how it makes you feel uncomfortable and hurts. She should be understanding.
    If you have a lot of financial flexibility and find a good surgeon and go for it. It seems as though this has greatly affected your life, and getting it fixed ASAP will just make you feel more comfortable for longer.
    Make sure you do not go to a cheap surgeon! try to find the best surgeon.

  • I have a droopy pussy too. Don't feel bad.

  • Do not do it! Ignore the idiot boys. Mutilating you vagina to have a sexless Barbie doll look is a crime of sexual violence against yourself.

  • Just speak to her and explain how embarrassing it is she'll understand mums are good like that

  • dont let it bother you that much if i saw it it probably wouldn't bother me but just talk to her private and if u need help i am here to help anyway i can. i understand what u are talking about. because my ex girlfriend had the same problem. i am here if u need me.

  • Talk to your doctor. If they give you trouble, they can refer you to a surgeon and insurance might cover it.

  • Young lady, if you will wait until you're older you will find your misconception about your vagina to be untrue, you are normal and need to love your body the way it is and any man that doesn't love you for how your genetically built isn't worth your time.
    I would forgo the surgery you're perfect the way you are :)

  • Typically, men actually tend to enjoy large labia. Don't worry about it. But if it's causing you pain then ask your doctor/ gynecologist about it. Tell them/your mom it's painful and uncomfortable and if they think you should get treatment, the doctor/gyno will address the problem with your mother. All labia are wonderful and I don't think your boyfriend will mind at all. I was self conscious about my labia but it turns out, boys really don't care and they love love love big labia. And even guys who don't particularly like large labia don't like labiaplasty labia, most men actually dislike them

  • you're under 18, so im assuming your friends are to. so really JUST IGNORE IT!!! first of all, are you willing to have plastic surgery before even personally seeing the reaction from ONE person? you are making this decision based on the opinion of some idiots!
    second of all... huge vagina lips, for me are definetly NOT a turn off, but a vagina from a teen that went through plastic surgery definetly is!

  • My boyfriend actually LOVES my large labia. And honestly, if you're committed enough to someone for them to see your labia, they're honestly not going to care. I promise.

  • I would talk to her about it. I mean you're self conscious about it and all. And you don't see anything with it and sex really but how it looks which is kind of very understandable. I'd talk to her about it. She may help you out and let you do it

  • PLEASE DON'T DO THAT! Any guy who's worth your time won't care, and some of us actually find larger labia to be very attractive!

    • the majority dont..

    • The point is that any guy who truly likes you for who you are WILL NOT CARE about something trivial like that.

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