My girlfriend's pussy is too tight/tiny or am I not doing it right?

[Anonymous]

Hello. me and my girlfriend are both virgin. I am 21 and she is 20. Keep it in mind that she never really "fingered" herself. Meaning, she never really put any object (including her finger) inside her vagina.. One day, we felt like we were both ready, so we decided to do some oral sex. She would give me a nice hj/bjs to satisfy me, so i tried to satisfy back by fingering her. Whenever I try to finger her, she always tells me it hurts.. Like when I try to put one finger in, when its wet, she doesn't say anything, but when I try to put in 2 fingers, she says it hurts and asks me to pull it out... I don't know if I am doing it wrong or is her pussy really that small? I don't know.. So after few weeks, we tried to have sexual intercourse. Of course with a condom on and stuff. She does her stuff to get me wet, so when I tried to put my penis in, i can't. I literally can't. I can't enter at all LOL even though when I look at her vagina, its wet, I can't put my dick inside her vagina at all. Her vagina entrance is way too small for me to put it in.. Keep it in mind that i am Asian and my penis isn't even big either... Yeah, i am virgin so maybe im not doing it properly but.. I don't know what im doing wrong.. When I tried to finger her, she says it hurts... two fingers, she says it hurts A LOT and she almost cried.. What should i do?

[ohyesiwill85]

I laughed so hard at this line, "Keep it in mind that i am Asian and my penis isn't even big either..."

Gotta be in my top 10 best GaG lines ever.

Ok onto the serious stuff.

For starters. She's tight you say? No shit Sherlock, she's a virgin.

You said one finger doesn't hurt her, right? Then do more with the first finger. Work it around in there. Twist it, turn it, wiggle it, pump it in and out, go faster and harder... but stay with one finger.

Once you've given her a good pounding with one finger (and I mean a good pounding) and you're confident that you've done as much damage as you could, bring in that second finger. But for the love of god do it slowly! Gently. And make sure it's very, very wet. If you don't have lube, then use your saliva. And use a lot of it.

Work in that second finger slowly like you're trying to thread a sewing needle. Be patient. It will go in eventually.

And if it doesn't? Well then you might just have to slam it home. Which will suck, and she'll be mad at you for a bit. But it will solve your problem.

Sorry for being insensitive ladies. But there's only so much you can do with a stubborn hymen. Lol

[Aigoo]

Wow someone did their homework! I got a little horny reading this

[MyNameIsJonas]

Listen she probably still has her hymen in-tact. Before a woman losses her virginity she has a thin layer of skin over her vagina entrance called a hymen. Usually it is broken the first time she has sex.

You can use some lubrication. IF she's Ok with it tell her your going to break it. It will hurt her a bit, but, then she will be able to enjoy sex. The first time you break it, it will be a bit painful for her. Go slow and make sure you two communicate.

[Anonymous]

She's kinda nervous and is tensing. This will make her vagina much more tense, tight and difficult to work with.
I mean, even virgins can take bigger things than 2 fingers without being bought to tears if they are relaxed, I know this because even virgins get pap smears and other medical things that's bigger than two fingers, but they won't be able to do the smear tests if the girl is to tense and nervous because it won't go in without a lot of pain. Even non virgins can find this actually, because a girls pussy doesn't really stay stretched, it goes back small unless it's just been wrecked by a ton of guys or something.

Lots of girls use lube, even when they're wet, because it helps it slide in better. So you can also try that. She just needs to relax and not over think it though... Which is gonna be hard for her because she is going to anticipate pain, but really, if she doesn't, it'll just hurt, and losing her V won't be as nice of an experience as it is for some, it'll be more horrible and painful like you hear some girls talk about.

[Quinzy13]

If she is anxious or nervous, the muscles around her vagina will remain contracted. That's why trust and comfort are so important in the bedroom. Perhaps she just isn't ready. If it really is that her vagina cannot handle a penis (which I highly doubt. That's what she's built for) I recommend seeing a doctor to make sure everything is okay. Being that you're both virgins, you may not know if something is awry. Good luck to you both!

[staygleekful]

You should try fingering her before you try to have sex again. For starters, clip your nails. That could be a part of why it hurts. Like others said, use lube, saliva, or get her wetter. Just get her used to the idea of using your fingers. And make sure she's actually relaxed and ready. Sex won't hurt as much if she's not tense. Good luck !!

[AllAboutTheX]

She may be wet but she isn't relaxed enough or arroused enough. You need to work more on kissing her body and getting her properly fired up. Wet doesn't mean she is good to go, it just means she is starting to get ready. Her vagina needs to relax and become more arroused. It will manage to fit any size penis with the proper warm up.

[Jay19007]

Any size damn, you mean two feet? How about a bed post or a fist?

[kelly173815]

She's a virgin, it's going to hurt - I would suggest getting her used to fingering with two fingers though before you try sex again

[sheflips]

She is virgin that is why, it has nothing to do with her race. Believe me, Im Asian.

[abundantlyrich]

Use your tongue instead.

[Jay19007]

Send your girl to me and I'll fix all your problems.

[Jay19007]

Serious though, go to costco and buy a gallon of extra virgin olive oil.

[Anonymous]

You're not doing it right

[Anonymous]

Buy her a dildo. Have her break her own hymen and get it over with.