Tried 69 for the first time?

[In-sight-ful]

Alright so I tried 69-ing with my boyfriend after we had sex, it was VERY pleasurable for me and I actually orgasmed 4 times, he, on the other hand, did not, I have NEVER been able to get him to cum from a hand/blow job. My worry is that it isn't as enjoyable for him if he doesn't get to cum. Any suggestions on how I can get him to cum, or is it going to be enjoyable for him even if he doesn't? I just want 69 to be enjoyable for both of us like it is meant to be.

[Realistic07]

okay a lot of times this question is really simple and most of the times just has a really easy to understand method or rime and reason as to why things may seem odd in trying some new things. First thing is first though sometimes when trying something new men can get very nervous in some cases it can make a guy cum super fast in other cases that song and dance can go on and on and still no cumming happens now am i saying this is your situation no, but it is a likely possibility. another thing could just be that he has good stamina when it comes to oral and the distraction he is given by eating you out is enough to make that stamina go on for hours without him coming again sometimes being detracted even in a awesome way can make things just drag on it's a big possibility that that is what is happening in fact i may bet money that that is what is happening especially if he already has good stamina as it is. it could also be who is on top creating an issues for him; like if your typically on top then let him on top see if that changes things for him, if he is typically on top then maybe you should try being on top again try both and see what works well for you and him. That being said the best thing to do is two things as well as the possible switching of positions first try jerking him and blowing him for a bit until you see that he is really you know warmed up then continue with the motion while adjusting yourself in to the laying down 69 position with who ever is going to be on top typically with that at least he has a head start to getting there. the second thing to really do and this goes beyond all the experimental advice i can give you is simply talk with him about it tell him that you want him to cum in the 69 position and you want to know what you can do for him to get him there let him know that it's okay to guide you and that you are willing to try with him anything that will get him there.

[Realistic07]

With that just remember he may have an odd request or just a normal one, but its best to be prepared and who knows even if it is odd you may enjoy it. Well i hope my advice helps you and him further your sexual growth as a couple and that my words have helped give you some perspective on the issue at hand. just remember a lot of times when in doubt just ask him and communicate with him openly and you will have a really good answer or solution be cause really who knows better what he likes than him himself. Well i wish you and him luck on your sexual journey. Good luck dear.

[Anonymous]

Give a hand job while sucking on it, maybe that works - to be honest if he is circumcised then it being difficult to get him to come is no mystery at all. The foreskin is responsible for most of stimulation.

[kaylaS91]

I totally get where you're coming from. I personally love 69 as it does feel great for me, the bad part being that it distracts me so much from being able to finish him off I'm usually 'out' way too fast. I've talked about that with him saying that I don't want to do 69 anymore as I feel it's unfair, but he insists he loves it and still wants to do it when we've got more time than usual.

Remember that guys are generally quite visual creatures, so I'm sure your boyfriend finds it perfectly enjoyable just to watch you lose control and get yours at least once before he does. Plus, generally after a guy cums he'll have to sit out for a bit to 'recover', which is why I some boyfriends make sure to get their girl to orgasm at least once before that.

Enjoy, not every guy will be so thoughtful! :)

[exoticval]

Usually hubby and I do 69 as foreplay. He doesn't care to cum before getting down to business; He always does a good job on me though, which is what you feel is your "problem". Enjoy it. I'm sure he enjoys the oral. Keep practicing. I remember I had a hard time at getting my hubby to cum from oral. But after a bit of practice on him and his help telling me what he likes, I swear I'm PRO. lol. Don't sweat it though. Ask him about it.

[LastGirlScout]

I hate 69, I can't concentrate on two things at once during sex. It isn't that important if neither of you orgasm, just use it as foreplay to sex. It doesn't matter if you do and he doesn't as I'm sure he will still be enjoying it immensely as you would.

[bestadviceguy]

Have you made other men orgasm from oral sex? Is he the only guy you couldn't?
How many times have you had sex with him?
Are you pretty shy in bed?

[In-sight-ful]

He is my first and only with everything, we had sex for the first time a month ago and probably 6 times since then, but we had done other sexual stuff before that, I am a little shy but not too much, I'm up for pretty much anything.

[bestadviceguy]

That's awesome, being first! Also, that's great trying to improve you skills for him. What about communicating with him about what he likes/wants? Does he cum quick during sex? Did you ask him if he came from oral with another person?

[In-sight-ful]

I ask him what he likes or wants me to do but he is very vague or just avoids the question all together, and it depends each time, it always differs, he has never been able to cum from oral, but only two other girls have given him a blow job.

[bestadviceguy]

Is he shy to say what he likes? Have you considered an instructional video or tips from others about techniques? How long do you suck on him for before stopping? Do you talk dirty when doing this? Also, what about the thought of doing it without the end result being orgasm?

[In-sight-ful]

I'm not sure if that's it or if he just really doesn't know how to explain it, I have watched 100 instructional videos and read twice as many articles, still doesn't seem to do much good. I have gone up to 20 minutes before to no prevail, and no I wouldn't even know what to say, lol, I would feel awkward. Meaning what?

[bestadviceguy]

I just thought if it's stressful to do it with the anxiety of him not cuming might bother you. Perhaps not one of my better ideas, sorry. You know what, though all this discussion, I am thinking maybe you're really good at doing this and HE has the problem! If you've done everything under the sun to learn and help him (which is sweet, by the way), perhaps he's got issues with it. Especially if he's not commenting much. The dirty talk was just an idea I thought might excite him, but as above, he may have his own issues?

[Royalflush]

Maybe deepthroat or just make it more wet.

[In-sight-ful]

I physically cannot deep throat no matter how much I try, and trust me I have tried often. And it is always very wet.

[Royalflush]

Damn he must be a trooper then.

[ryanbas]

Maybe it's an old question but i want to ask if he was above you or you on him?
Then, did you play attention to his balls? that's really an erogenous zone for many guys and it can really change the whole thing of cumming sooner if they are properly given attention!
Lastly, did you pay most attention on enjoying getting eaten out and was that a distraction for you?

[absoluteprince]

Ah well fr this u can seduced him frst
And then deep throat
...
Playing with his balls can make him cum
didn't u try this?

And u can also hav bdsm sex
Tie him up his hand and legs and starts sucking and licking makea him pleasure
;) xxxxx

[fitemeat]

u need a new man

[mrbo25]

ask him to masturbate a little until the point where he can cum easily. that way you cann finish him until you get more practice

[Anonymous]

What do you normally do to him that reliably gets him to cum? Just do that after the 69.

[Anonymous]

I am circumcised and I can orgasm multiple times and quite easily with blowjobs so that's not it.
Next time 69 before sex