I almost had a threesome with my best friend and her husband?

[Anonymous]

I'm not even sure what my question is... I think I just kind of want other people's opinions on what happened. The only person I could talk about it with was already there. Friday night after I had gotten off work I met up with my best friend and her husband. I'll skip to the part where we ended up at their house. After some time she actually took my hand and started massaging her nipple with my hand. Things just kind of escalated from there. At first I didn't really even realize they were escalating. Without giving a complete play-by-play. Basically I almost had a threesome with my best friend and her husband. While I kept all my clothing on, sexual acts were preformed. My best friend sucked on my nipples, her husband groped my breasts. I made out with her. I made out with her husband. I was given the opportunity to give him a blow job (which I did decline.) My friend was constantly asking me if I was okay. Was I uncomfortable? Did I want her to stop? After a while I did say yes to asking her to stop. I wasn't necessarily uncomfortable or scared. A part of me really didn't even want to stop. It's just... I don't have a TON of experience in the sex world. I didn't want to look stupid. My friend pretty much knows my sex life... what I've done, what I haven't done. She's never been shy about the topic of sex. In fact the topic of having a threesome has actually came up a number of times. After I had asked to stop, the conversation turned to "But you guys can go ahead. You made it this far, I wouldn't want to make you stop." So, I watched them have sex. Again not as uncomfortable as I thought it would be. There is a whole other part to this that I feel should be included. Yet I don't want to include it. I think it would alter some people's views on this. There was a point where I thought "I never thought I'd be in this situation." I don't necessarily want to ask if this is "normal." But what's your take? Will the oppertunity ever come again?

[Koreangawd]

I would say, that if you want this to happen again you should go for it. And if you don't want it to happen again, that's fine too. It also seemed like they were willing to ease you into it which is cool, so I doubt you'd look stupid, especially since your friend knows what kind of experience you have and because they obviously like you. I think if you want the opportunity to come again then it will. And I think regardless of it being normal or not it's fine as long as it didn't make you feel uncomfortable or icky or whatever.

What was the "whole other part to this that I feel should be included"? Aside from personal curiosity, if you feel it should be included then maybe it's important?

Either way. I think that if you want to go for it, you should talk to your friend and go for it, and if you don't want to go for it then don't.

[Asker]

The "whole other part" is a real long story, with a lot of parts to it. Even though I could sum it up in three little words. I would feel like I'd have to explain to justify myself. I do think it's important, but I think had I included it I would have gotten a lot of negative feedback. It kind of pairs with my friend knows about my sex life.

[Asker]

I mean if you really want to know I can certainly tell you. But...

[Koreangawd]

If you want to send me a pm about the "whole other part" then feel free (judgement free), otherwise I'm not really sure what else to say about it. I personally think that situation would be a positive experience, but that's just for me.

[Koreangawd]

I don't want you to feel pressured into telling a bunch of anonymous strangers your deepest darkest secrets, but I know that personally that's kind of why I'm here :3

[Asker]

Haha. Strangers on the internet are really the only people I can talk about this deep dark secret with.

[Koreangawd]

Then why not titillate them? ^.^

[Asker]

I am not able to send you a message. "This user only allows messages from followings only!"

[Koreangawd]

I'm a noob, fixed it though. Try now.

[michaeldwilder]

I guess that your friends husband was a ex of yours. Or maybe you already had sex with your friend one on one

[Asker]

No, I was never involved with her husband. Nor have I ever had sex with my friend. I have kissed her one other time though.

[islands7]

Never been that lucky but I would have declined as you. My case is that marriage shouldn't have a trespasser, it's supposed to be rare & sacred and often those coveting one of them only have to wait for marriage to crack under its own poorly planned weight.

Now, plenty of these stories have passed my ears. They are experimenting with swinger sex. At least one GAGer gal is into this but my real life local stories... those marriages never last.

Do it? For me, no - have lots of other kinky things left to try, e. g. spit roasting a heavy hung gal who swings 'em to the action but those STDs, then everyone being single... I guess your friend situation is as close to fulfilling that fantasy w/o STD guaranty as it will get... or IS there safety when swinger friends are out there doing strangers?

[oldsoul27]

honestly if she's a really close friend then I don't think she would mind you asking about it. After all you have every right to ask her their intentions.. why she initiated it, what was she wanting,

[Marissa_A]

Well if you want it to happen again just go for it the next time you have a chance. Obviously she's is okay with it, so you should be to if you are into the idea. But what is the whole other part?

[witzelsucht]

Good for you! That sounds like a great experience that went quite well and stopped at the appropriate place. Were your friend's husband not involved I'd say shoot the works and enjoy yourself to the hilt (using a condom, of course), but had the situation gone further your friend might decide next week that you'd become a rival for her husband.

The more experience you have the greater lover you will be when you meet your match, so I want to encourage you to explore and experience as much safe sex as you can so you won't be regretting missed opportunity.

[why_not_anonymous]

Go for it, as long as you're comfortable.

Let 'em know that you're going to have to go slow. Sounds like they'll let you.

[dakraziest]

Lol im not open to this idea and ill be puking like crazy if it ever happens
but if you are into such stuff then sure, she invited you and it seems like she wanted it bad but also kept it civil, maybe they want to spice up their sex life and they couldnt find a person more trustable then you (plus i think you are hot).

[molan]

Will the opportunity ever come again, not if they respect you and you don't let them know the reason why you stopped.

You should let them know this: "A part of me really didn't even want to stop. It's just... I don't have a TON of experience in the sex world. I didn't want to look stupid".

Threesome cam be awesome, my very best sexual experiences have been threesomes, naturally you must be into and let go of shame and insecurities and enjoy the moment.

[Royalflush]

If it does take it enjoy a little fun while you can :)

[Asker]

Yeah, I thought about that throughout the night. It's an adventure, why wouldn't I take it? It may never happen again. And then we get into the part I didn't want to talk about.

[Anonymous]

Wow that was so crazy things
I also like to have threesome
So how much u enjoyed threesome
Would u like to do next time too?
Go fr it

Sounds very sexy
Its ur life enjoy too
If i were u i will look fr more chances ;) ;) xxxx

[Anonymous]

does this husband have feelings for you?

[Asker]

No. Not to my knowledge anyways. They've been together for like 10 years, they married last year. Without her I wouldn't even know him. We've been friends for like 8 or 9 years. Never noticed anything.

[Opinion Owner]

it just sounds weird that at points the sole focus was on doing sexual things to you and she picked you specifically to do this to. think how the friendship will fare if you do go for this again, will jealousy crop up? distrust of you and him being left alone together? accusations of you liking him? etc. you can do crazy things if you want im not saying dont do it, i just dont want you to lose a friendship over this