Girlfriend isn't adventurous sexualy?

Question

Soo my girlfriend and I have a decent sex life. We have sex a few times a week and it's enough for me. But she's kinda boring. Likes missionary or cowgirl to orgasm. She's a "one and done" type of girl. One orgasm and she's exhausted. Tried anal with a previous boyfriend and isn't exactly excited to try it with me since I'm bigger down there. Never had a facial. Doesn't like giving blowjobs. Never had sex in public. Doesn't even like me to see her naked. 

Anything I can do? Anyone had/have a girl like this and has tips?

pandagirl7 · Accepted Answer

Try having a heart to heart talk to her and see if you guys can reach some kind of compromise. It could be that she's self conscious and just needs time to come into her own sexuality, or maybe she's not completely comfortable in the relationship yet. Or you two just aren't sexually compatible.

From the perspective of a woman who enjoys anal sex on occasion, it's a much bigger deal than a simple facial since there will most likely be pain involved. If you think that it's something that could be easily fulfilled, then maybe you should let her peg you first. Public sex, while very fun can cause legal issues that may impact a person's ability to get a job in the future so I don't think this should be a dealbreaker for you. But aside from all of this.. she doesn't seem very sexually experienced. How old are you two?

staciebee · Accepted Answer

You can encourage her with positive sexual experiences. For me, the more turned on I am, the more primed I am for longer sex sessions. You could try romancing her, kissing her back and neck until she's aroused, slowly undressing her, admiring her naked body, and telling her how beautiful it is. Just ease her in slowly. I've also noticed that massages make me super receptive to touch, and more likely to want to try new things.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm honestly really interested to see the answers that guys are going to give.. Because I think I'm a lot like your girlfriend. I don't know why. Fear/nerves/insecurities I guess. It soundslike she's not 100% comfortable with you. Maybe she has trust issues like me.

Rufus335 · Accepted Answer

Here's what you have to do step-by-step

1) Ask ( put the idea in her mind, she will likely say no but the important thing is that she thought about it)

2) Do some nice things for your lady and try to forget you asked. Its easier when its not on ur mind.

3) Arouse and stimulate her. Normal sex won't cut it. You have to try something spontaneous but still in her dictionary. Like hand stuff in a public place, better if you could bang though. Banging in the shower on the laundry machine, in your moms bed, at your sister-in-laws wedding. These will get her in an erotic mood.

Then repeat steps 1-3 until she gives in

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

If she'll consent, I'd tie her down and blindfold her. Go down on her and in various ways get her to cum. Then keep going until she's had a half dozen minimum. I'm guessing once she's had multiples, she'll see the light. As for anal, see the My Takes on comfortable anal sex for beginners. It gives a tried a true method for making anal fun.

Scrambled · Answer

I was about to divorce due to this. She won't change. When I dropped the divorce on her she cried and begged me to stay. I said no and she then gave me permission to have hookers on the side to get my kinks. Sounded ok at the time but to be honest, It isn't. I don't want to catch and give her any STDs and I would rather love an adventurous partner than be mediocre with one that isn't. My biggest regret... thinking that the sex thing isn't important and staying with her.