I have never quite understood this line of thinking "My boy friend loves me and I love him, but I am afraid..."
In true love there is no fear. Yes there can be hurt and disappointment and sadness, but no fear. What I mean is this... if you are not ready to do something, and he loves you, then you should have no fear in telling him. It might make him sad, it might make him disappointed, it might even hurt his feelings... initially, but if he loves you he will come around. And therefore you should not have fear of telling him.
If you do, or if he won't respect you, then there is something else going on, but it is not love.
I probably sound the smart alec here, but I get frustrated when people are afraid to respect themselves and demand respect from those they love. It would be different if this were something like you were afraid to go down a roller coaster and would not even try with him... this is deeper and more personal. It is OK to not be ready. And it is OK to tell him. And it is OK to expect him to respect you.
True love can cause fear. It's the best feeling in the world & you could be afraid of losing it.
You might be afraid of losing someone you love... but my point was that if there is love, you should not be afraid of respecting yourself. True love does not cause that kind of fear. Ever.
hold out long as you can... once you get the sex its less than what you expected but holding out is so much fun and keeps them wanting... get close and pull it away just so you can get close again... but this works better on guys like me that prefer the foreplay over the sex itself... just make sure to return all his favors... orals a great way to avoid pregnancy and its full of protein! LOL... but no really you can do other things to cope with not getting sex make sure who he is b4 you have sex... a handjob or oral is more than enough for him until you are sure... if your not sure if your ready it means your not ready thats how it is
dont rush it or you'll ruin it
Me & my bf have been together since July & we haven't had sex yet. He's fingered me, we've made out & I've given him 2 bj's, but I'm not ready for sex yet. He said he can't wait till we do (not in a literal way), but that he will wait as long as I need him to. That will prove whether he truly loves you or just cares about sex.
He should know that you saying no doesn't mean you don't lobe him. Going farther shouldn't be from pressure. It's something you both should enjoy together because you love eachother. Don’t be afraid to speak up, just say what you mean. He should love you regardless of wether you want to go farther :)
Just be honest with him!! Just say no and tell him why!! Don't be afraid this is what causes complications in relationships! After all it's your privates.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!You need to move at the pace you're comfortable with. And he might be disappointed and you both have to deal with it. Love doesn't magically make the two of you on the same pace. It doesn't magically make one of you 100% happy with whatever te other wants. Thinking it's supposed to be easy just makes people feel like something is wrong when maybe it's just normal.
Tell him your feelings. That he turns you on a LOT but you're not sure you're ready for more yet. And he's allowed to feel however he feels and you both try to handle it.
What's making you unsure?
I don't know. I just feel weird. Like I do but I don't. I don't know.
Don't ever let anyone pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with--even someone you love.
You put it pretty well here. You need to tell him these things. Reiterate what you said here to him.
Tell him how you feel and your reasons. If he loves you too he'll understand and wait until you're sure. I would.
So you tell him the truth. Tell him exactly what you feel.
Well, so what you tell a man NO! Does he own you/ or your body? NOPE, no man owns
a woman's body unless you let him! So what you love him, NO GIRL needs to make me
happy with SEX ! WHAT? Do you have money to raise a child? The pull out method is
bullshit !
Well you shouldn't do anything you don't want to do. You'll know when you want to.
Don't go farther if you don't want to do it. He can't force you to do anything you don't want too. If he pushes you into going farther when you specifically don't want to then he doesn't really love you and all he wanted was sex. Hope this helps.
Open up and say no and explain to him why... I have been in that same situation and I think that you should take the next step when YOU feel ready and if he really loves you he will be fine with that
It's okay to say no just tell him why :)
Don't do something with a guy if you don't want to. Ever.
How long have you been together
almost 5 months
fuck him thats it
Loving someone to death is not an excuse for caving in.
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