If a man fantasizes about getting you pregnant, what does that mean?

[Anonymous]

I'm intimate with a guy. We started dating 3 weeks ago and he wants to get me pregnant already. Well he's thinking about getting me pregnant. We do it without condoms, he's been tested and everything so it's fine, and he likes to go in deep. He says he wants to see me pregnant with his kid (s) and that turns him on. He says he wants to make more sweet, passionate love to me once he gets me pregnant. I would not mind having his children as long as he places a ring on my finger. He also seems pretty financially stable to prepare for kids and a wife. But why do guys want to get you pregnant first but don't talk about marriage? I mean, marriage is what most women fantasize about lol. He seriously wants to get me pregnant and I've never met a man that wants me to have his kids right away. Does that mean he's in love with me? I don't understand. I want to get impregnanted by him, just not before marriage and I don't want our marriage only focused on the physical of him getting me preggo and pop out his kids. Needs to throw in more intellectual and emotional intimacy too lol.

[selfishstars]

For some people, the thought of impregnating someone, or getting pregnant by someone, can be a huge turn-on. This isn't so weird.

If he genuinely wants to get you pregnant after being together for only 3 weeks, this is a big red flag! If it were me, I'd probably not continue the relationship because my "crazy alarm" would be ringing way too loud. If you do continue this relationship, I hope that you are on the pill and taking it consistently!

Even if he was just turned on by the idea, and didn't actually want to get you pregnant at this time, that's still the kind of fantasy-play that's kind of iffy to be talking about this early in a relationship, since you don't really know each other well enough to have a solid base of trust.

Does it mean he's in love with you? I'm going to say no. You've only been dating for 3 weeks, you can't love someone that quickly. The only exception might be if the two of you have been close friends for years before dating or something.

[flaurent]

I think most guys find pregnant women attractive and he probably sees a future with you otherwise he wouldn’t of been thinking about having children however if he’s not going to marry you I wouldn’t entertain the idea just because it doesn’t provide the child with a stable environment and your not guaranteed anything for him to stay loyal

[Anonymous]

It isn't weird that he may think that you pregnant is a hot idea. It is part of human nature to reproduce. You can call it a fetish if you want but a lot of guys want to make babies right? So I wouldn't call it a fetish. However strange thing about this is that he's talking about getting you pregnant before marriage and on top of that it's only been 3 weeks anyway. Go out with this guy more so that you can find out what his true motives are and if he will be a good father. Then you can talk about marriage with him.

Don't feel pressured into becoming pregnant before you are ready and have met the right guy. Tell him your opinion and if he cares about you he will understand your position. Remember: it's only 3 weeks in, get to know him better and make a decision on weather he loves you or not. Don't get forced into a relationship that won't work. Good luck with this.

[HadiAbdel_]

A fetish about having sex with a pregnant women v. Marriage (Long term) is a big difference. By what you're staying this guy sounds like he has some fetish going on and not even considering marriage at all I do quote what you said... "he says he wants to make more sweet, passionate love to me ONCE HE GETS ME PREGNANT". Sounds like a fetish to me. Take this for example, it only took me a week (less than your 3 weeks) to know my gf (now fiance and mother to be) that I wanted to marry her and build a family together but never did I want her to get pregnant just so I can go have more sex with her.

[RestlessYouth_]

Sounds like he has a fetish. I'd steer clear of him honestly. Theee weeks and already wanting you to have his kids? Creepy

[reptocarl]

No, no, no this guy has a fetish about pregnant women. Nothing more or less. Trust me on this

[gapminder]

It means that he is just weird. Run away before you end up living in a VAAAN DOWN BY THE RIVER!