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Should I admit to a girl im dating that I only had sex with prostitutes?

im 23 years old. this is obviously not something im proud of, but except for one drunk woman, all my life I've only had sex with prostitutes (even lost my virginity with one). by now i haven't been with one for over 6 months. im trying to stop going to them, even if it means no sex for a long time. if the subject does not come up, i won't say anything about it. but if it does, what should i say? i really hate lying, but im sure no girl would ever want to hear this right? what do you think?
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  • you could have an STD like herpes for years from one of your prostitutes with no outbreak so youd have no idea and you'll be spreading it to your future gf which isn't fair to her, why should she have to get a life long STD because someone was too selfish to get himself checked first and inform her?

    at least get checked first and if you are clean then its up to you to tell her or not as long as you won't go to them during the relationship, i think you should tell her anyway even though it risks rejection but your partner should know about your past the same way youd want to know if she was a serial cheat in the past or had 50 sexual partners

    • you are right! if i really do have something, it would definitely not be fair to my future gf, or any other girl for that matter. i would hate myself if that ever happend. im gonna get tested asap... wether to tell or not, that is still undecided lol but for the rest you are definitely right!! :)

  • I don't talk sex partners with my man. We both know we've had others and its just taboo to us to discuss details of them. Only would if there was a direct concern. I WOULD however make sure you dont have any STD's. If you do then THAT is an issue and must be divulged. And if you plan to still see a prostitute and your girl THAT is a problem for me personally.

    • i dont plan to see a prostitute and have a girl lol! not at all! even if i dont have a girl, i plan on not seeing prostitutes anymore... but for the rest you are right

  • My boyfriend has been to prostitutes before we met. He told me early on. Of course it was a bit of a shock, but I'm glad he told me because I could have found out somehow later on and then it could have been worse. Therefore, I think you should tell her. I mean it was in your past so she'll most likely not attach any significance to it.

    • so it wasn't a deal breaker for you? even though im not proud of it, id rather tell the truth (if necessary!!!) but i really can imagine it beeing a deal breaker for some

    • No, it's not something I think is great but it was before he met me and I'm aware that a lot of men have been to prostitutes at least once in their life. I appreciated the honesty even though I could tell it was not easy for him to tell me as he was scared of my reaction. There are definitely women who will consider it a deal-breaker, but even then I think it's good to be honest because if they find out later on somehow they will feel betrayed. Most people are mature enough to know that the past is in the past. We all did things we aren't proud of but I mean it's not like you killed someone hahaha ;-)

    • I did ask for him to get tested though, just like I do with all of my new partners, but with him I was a bit more strict about the testing. Especially since the prostitutes he had sex with were ones he picked up from the street... .

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  • Hey man I also lost my virginity to one. Russell Brand did as well. Some guys just ended up on that route. I personally would go with the ladies advice, say you had a few one night stands or short lives relationships with girls that you don't want to talk about. Don't go in depth.

    • yup i agree. not going into much detail is probably the best solution...

  • Not no but HELL NO!!! Unless you have a child or an STD, your sexual histories are none of the other's business. If there is trust and commitment, that's all that's needed. Each relationship stands on its own.

    • man... funny seeing so many responses from both sides of this you do have a point!!

    • I mean: do you care about her history? As long as she's clean and there aren't any legal prohibitions, vet her until you trust her and then make her ass yours!!

    • i dont care about her history! but man think rationally and women often act emotionally (specially the ones around my age) so just because i dont care about hers, doesn't mean that she automatically doesn't care about mine. thats all im saying...

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  • Yes, you had better. In addition you need to be tested for STD's and any other sexually transmitted dieseses.

  • If you're STD clear it shouldn't be a problem. To me it's not that different than having one night stands so I wouldn't mind it. However I would feel insecure in bed and wouldn't know how to please the guy.

    • i see. you definetly should not feel insecure in bed because of it. sex with prostitutes isn't that great at all, i probably learned nothing from them lol. i think most of them see it just as business and just 'open their legs and fake it a bit'. I've only been with 2 or so that at leaset seemed into it a bit haha when i went to one, i was just really really really horny, i wasn't looking for experience

  • Hmm I see you point, hope it doesn't come up, but it it does... then be honest about it and why, it will serve better. She will at lest give you credits for honesty, but obviously she won't like it.

    • i would prefer not to get credits for honesty, but rather keep her liking me lol

    • She will still like you, but she won't be impress by it. However lying to her, could spell the end of the relationship.

  • Yes you should.
    What If the orostitutes had STIs?
    (Sexually transmitted infections)

    • as I've said, it has been a long time since I've been with one. if i did have one wouldn't i know it by now? and last case cenario, if i get tested and im sure i have nothing... what then?

    • Still tell her

  • I dont understand why people need to reveal their sexual history to their partners. It wld only aggravate the situation. If she does ask.. just be diplomatic about it..

    • im not English ... im sorry but i dont know what being diplomatic means. i googled it lol but nothing. but for example if a girl told me 'im a virgin, how about you?' then i would have to say something lol

    • Diplomatic means handling things in an indirect manner that won't offend. if u r not a virgin just say u have partners before no need to give her full blown account of those partners. And change topic thereafter.

    • i see. you are probably right:) thanks!

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  • Honestly, get yourself tested like, right now.
    "Shouldn't I notice by now?"
    Not with all diseases. You might just be carrying 30 different diseases and not know it.

    Test goes fine? Keep it to yourself until later on in the relationship. It's something you need to make sure you trust her with before revealing.

    • hahaha i hear ya! honestly i was at an all time low i think (lowest I've been atleast) and (amongst other things) i honestly thought, whats the point? ill never get a girl, ill only have sex with hookers forever etc. it wasn't only girl stuff keeping me down, but being so down is why i sort of kept ignoring it and wasn't really thinking about it much. Im still down but slowly trying to get out of it lol and yes, its really something to tell only to the one i really trust

    • whats the point in getting tested, i ment

    • So you don't pass on the disease, and in some states, being a carrier and passing it on, KNOWING you are a possible carrier, could get you SUED? That a good enough reason? Stop making excuses. Get tested. It could save your life for all you know.

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  • i would keep this hidden

  • She will most likely leave you if you tell her that

    • lol sadly you are probably right

  • Due to the risk factor of your behavior I believe you should.

  • yes!!! even though u will probs end up loosing her

  • Get tested. And if she asks, tell the truth. Otherwise you don't have to bring it up.

    • what would your reaction be if a guy told you that?

    • To be honest. I would reconsider dating him.

    • of course you would:( i wouldn't blame you either

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  • Don't lie, just don't tell it all. You had sex with some girls you didn't really knew. Just leave out the part of paying for it.

  • Even the girls that think they are worldly and wise, do not want to hear this.

    Take this information with you to the grave.

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