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My Boyfriend Doesn't Want To Have Sex Anymore Because He Cums Too Quick. Help?

Okay, so recently my boyfriend never wants to have sex because he cums too quick. He always has, but he didn't really care (neither did/do i). But as time went on he started getting upset because of it. We both really want to have sex, but he says he can't. We still do other stuff but it's not the same... I don't want to push him into it. Can some one help? :(
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Thanks for answering everyone!! We talk about it often and like some have said he feels like he's letting me down which is why we just don't do it. And again like others have said we have a round one which is bj or something like that so he'll last longer actually having sex. But he'll still cum to quickly round 2 (sex) and get really upset :/
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Nature has designed us to enjoy sex and produce babies to keep life ever lasting on this earth. Not enjoying it is against low of nature and people consider them impotent - not in man. Talk to your man freely and suggest him to take advice form sexologist, offer him BJ - allow him to cum in your mouth or collect it on towel and in second round ask him to penetrate. This is the sure fire and surprising way to last much longer and make both happy. If not going for penetration, apply some lubricant or aromatic oil on his P* and massage to stimulate him till he reach to climax, - slow down for some moments and again do the same thing - several times in a day for several days. It will improve his staying power and confidence in making love - ultimate pleasure of life.

  • As has been said, getting him to cum once then go again is an idea, although if he isn't ready to go again quickly after the first time that might just hurt his confidence even more.

    Another thing to try is to do something else that makes YOU cum first, oral, fingering, toys, whatever. A lot of his insecurity might come from the fact that he thinks he doesn't 'satisfy' you. If he's just seen you have a nice big orgasm and looking pretty damn satisfied as a result he might not feel so much pressure about the fact he isn't going to last very long and can just enjoy sex with you.

    • We've tried but it doesn't work sadly :/

Most Helpful Girls

  • There are many easy ways to overcome this difficulty. Most pleasing and adding pleasure is to give him BJ during foreplay. Allow him to cum in your mouth or collect it in towel. After that allow him to penetrate and he himself will be surprised how long he stay inside and enjoy the union. He may consult medical expert - sexologist if require to suggest some remedies.

    • Second round is always lasting longer and much more enjoyable..

  • Try try again
    always with the praise for minor successes
    and next time he bitches, joke that maybe you're "too hot" for him
    then pull out some naked UGH gals as suggestions
    Laughing it off will take the focus/pressure off him until this distraction begins to work & build the confidence & techniques (see below) that will solve this.

  • You should tell him you dont care talk to him and let him know u dont gey mad or annoyed by it u can say u take it as a copmpliment even just make him feel comfortable u guys should have him cum by other means first then try once he gets hard again and it may be harder for him to cum

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  • 1. When I'm extremely stressed out (though rare) and for a longer period of time, I don't want to have sex either cause I cum inside of 5 minutes instead of the good 20+ minutes that I last.
    2. It's very normal for a guy to feel that he's not doing well enough in bed and thus unable to satisfy his partner so instead of leaving her high and dry which is a guilt factor he prefers not to do it at all. Also not every guy can go a 2nd time even when in a normal state
    3. There ofcourse could be other reasons than stress why he cums too early
    4. Once he diagnoses / interprets that if the reason isn't stress then he can well get it checked medically and that found being ok he can resort to learning Kegel exercises. All these however, requires to dawn on him. Anyone else telling him, he's unlikely to go in for any

    • Thank you for the MH young lady :) I appreciate wholly your kind, generous and thoughtful gesture. While I apologize for a delayed revert as I have missed out on being notified by GAG on a certain lot of MHs resulting in my delayed reverts after I painstakingly open up all the MHs I've received and then realize I haven't thanked the asker lol

  • Fluoxetine can help. a lot.

  • Even if you go slow? get him to pull out often and rub the front wall of your vagina about 3 inches in with a couple fingers, then slow intercourse then repeat? maybe might work I think I would feel terrible if I couldn't satisfy someone i cared about, cause to me it sounds like he really really cares about you to just not want to disappoint you, dam this sucks. You have tried googling things to do? porb get better ideas than mine by googling it

    • Yeah even if we go slow. It sucks cause I hate seeing him get so upset over this. Even though I understand where he's coming from :/

  • You need to talk to him.

    Find out when/if he will be ready to have sex again.

    Try and help him through his issues.

    is he able to get hard again after cumming?

    I had an ex with a similar issue.. and we just always started with oral.

  • Temporarily I don't know if he could try using a thick condom, as they always reduce friction. Even trying some of the ones made for PE?

    • We've tried thick ones but there was no difference :/

  • you need to reassure him its ok and get him to ask the doc is their anything to help with premature ejaculation, male pride hates not performing.

  • How about doing this:

    https://www.wikihow.com/Improve-Sexual-Stamina

    • This & Sangini are your first steps talking limited to praise

  • He needs to see a doctor.

  • He doesn't have to stop having sex, that would be unfair to you butttt what he can do when not having sex, is work on his stamina. There are exercises and things out there that can help with that. Question is, is he willing to put the time and effort in to it. I can't answer that for him. I'm not him... and I don't need to know the answer either, since that would be TMI

  • Is he crazy? doesn't want to have sex... cums fast... you dont care... yeah I think your BF might be gay.

    • Yes, he's cumming quickly when having sex with a woman because he's so super gay. Geez.

    • I didn't say SUPER gay just gay you Homophobe. the fact that us as guy all we normally care about is getting off and het basically being ok with it and him not wanting to boink her for 2min is pretty suspicious in my opinion.. hate having to spell shit out for dumbasses.

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