Why are girls such push-overs when it comes to sex? (details below)?

[Anonymous]

i hate that were in a world were guys pressure girls into sex. But a lot of girls just give in. What happened to the girl who could wait till marriage to have sex? Honestly to me any girl who engages in sex before marriage is a slut. I know a lot of girls will be offended by that last sentence but thats just my opinion. Some of you may be thinking what about guys? Well same too goes for men. If a man who has good morals, ethics and values he will see the importance of abstinence. Before the modern age that we know live in girls were refrained from these acts and understood the value of abstinence and its sacredness. Now girls have sex on there 2nd or 3rd date and some even on there first. What use to be the (relatively new) 90 day rule no longer exists. A lot of guys just in my own social circle and most likely among yours will use girls and dump them. Is that anyway to treat a female? If you and your significant other truly love each other why not get married and tie the knot and say your vowels? Having sex with your boyfriend is cheap and slutty to be honest. Because then once he cheats or you guys break up you not only wasted your time and effort but gave your loving up again. Imagine this re-occuring 15 times is that any different than a slut? nope she has sex with multiple guys like your ex boyfriends. Take a look in your social circle and through your experiences how much girls or guys are virgins till they got married to a significant other? less than 2 i presume if any. Lets not forget that the aim of a relationship is to hopefully marry and live in absolue love, happiness and unity. Many girls and guys forget that. Im a 19 y/o virgin and i feel urges too but i know better. My point is generally directed at females because you are the gate keepers. If any man can't wait and is pressuring you spit in his face and forget him you can see his intentions are clearly wrong. there's many other things to do, see and accomplish together. lets not be irresponsible.

[HonestGuru]

HONESTLY, Why do you give a FUCK about other peoples lives? Im being serious, ask yourself this. If a girls can love sex as much as guys can, actually more because when the sex is good, they feel it more than we can. Sex is between two (or more) consenting people and only between those people. What those people do does not effect your life in any way. If you don't/Can't sleep around that's your deal. For me, as a proudly sexually active male, to point at you and claim abstinence is ridiculous. people who live the life of abstinence are stuck in the past an incapable of open minded thinking and thus should be considered a lesser being... would you be offended? The truth is, wether you like it or not, sex is great. sex is amazing, It's natural, and supressing it is a denial of yourself. people who enjoy and have sex with multiple partners in their lifetime are no lesser a human being. WOMEN HAVE ALWAYS, AND I MEAN AAAAALLLWWWAAAAYYYSSSS been as or more sexual than men, only they weren't aloud to show it, because men are stupid. today women can express themselves more freely then ever before, and you know what, they love sex. The average consensus is women love sex. They are no longer forced to view it as only for the purpose of childbearing, they can be passionate, horny, desiring, and pursuing of one of life's greatest ecstasies just as freely as men can. Why does that bother you? because you perceive moral injustice? well why in the past was it ok for men to cheat but not woman? you do realize that was a thing right? It would be a moral injustice for you to supress and condemn the most basic desires and needs of any human, and one of those, whether you like it or not, is SEX. And you're view is one that would do just that. Sex is as Basic a human need as food, water, social interaction. Would you starve someone? no. So why try to suppress sex? a very similar and basic need.

[Asker]

you missed out on what im say. You asked me why i care? well i care about my brothers and sisters, familes and friends and i care about society. Why do people donate? if someones poor it doesn't affect them. Lets not be stupid and play ignorant. Do we need more single parents raising children alone. Do we need more fatherless children with the mother to single handedly raise there baby? Do we want more STD's all around the world? And you're asking me why do you care. Even look at the statistics do you not see any wrong with one night stands? the increase in STD's? Do you not see the increase in single parent raising children. I care about society. For our actions there are consequences and generations forthcoming will bear the grunt of this too. Yes women can be sexual yes they can have sex. But both men/women should not only encourage marriage but inform them of the importance and the value abstinence has. Wait for a special one to connect with, bond with, have faith in.

[Asker]

would you be happy knowing your mother slept with random men on one night stands? I know i wouldn't. Id want my parents married whilst clean and pure to value there virginity as sacred and find a loving partner to marry and lose such a special thing.

[HonestGuru]

You do realize that teaching abstinence results in higher numbers of teen and unplanned pregnancy right? You do realize that? You do realize the divorce rates are at an all time low correct? Ill gladly tell you that an openness with sex is playing its part. When you compare states who teach safe sex with abstinece only states you know what the result is? LESS STDS, LESS UNPLANNED PREGNANCIES! SHOCKER! Sex is also a key component of a relationship, finding a sexually compatible mate is SOOOOOOO IMPORTANT!!! Dont believe me? Look at all the posts by girls and guys BOTH, asking for help in situations where they dont feel desired by their mate, where they dont feel that they get what they need SEXUALLY. In a monagomous relationship, sex is the deepest activity shared between two people, its selfless and CHEMICALLY forms bonds in the mind that makes the attatchment between two people grow. Love is an addiction, its like cocain. Its fact, and its science. When you have sex with

[HonestGuru]

You are into you release oxytocine- responsible for attatchment and loyalty, dopamine- responsible for pleasure, among other horamones. If there is no sexual compatibility, THERE IS NO HAPPY RELATIONSHIP!!! If you have a girl who desires sex more than her mate, even if she waited til marriage, and her mate doesn't desire sex as often or doesn't suit her desirez SHE WILL BE UNHAPPY. and vise versa. SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY MATTTERS!!! More than anyone realizes!!! Look it up!!! You just can't get around it

[HonestGuru]

When you force an idea of abstinence you are forcing people to suppress one of the biggest parts of them. DO YOU REALIZE HOW MANY MARRIAGES END BECAUSE OF SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITIES? Because people waited till marriage before even discovering what defines them and there sexual desires? Now people end up bein in unhappy marriages because there partners can't fulfill their needs. And they cheat. Or they remain miserable. Thats not the world i want a part in.

[HonestGuru]

YOU TALK OF STD TRANSMISSION, en. m. wikipedia. org/wiki/Abstinence-only_sex_education here is one article discussing the ineffectiveness of abstinence only teachings. No drop in stds, no drop in pregnancy. YOU KNOW WHY? BECAUSE ITS HUMAN NATURE TO ENJOY AND DESIRE SEX!!! YOU can't SUPPRESS IT! ITS NOT MORALLY WRONG, YOUVE JUST BEEN PROGRAMMED TO THINK SO

[HonestGuru]

In addition id like to post this article based on government studies showing how states with an abstinence only education policy have the highest teen pregnancy (and one can assume) std transmissions thinkprogress. org/health/2012/04/10/461402/teen-pregnancy-sex-education/ you brought up std transmission. Id like to offer you real statistics cdc. gov/std/stats/? mobile=nocontent you'll find that the cdc ONLY reports a rise in stds between men who have sex woth other men. The infection rates primarrily effect people between 15-24. Why? Well, i garuntee you its due to lack of sexual education consistent with abstinence only ideals. Oh look i found a link discussing such Takepart. com/article/2013/04/03/how-abstinence-only-sex-ed-driving-std-rates You did say stds are increasing right? Oh shit, look at the cdc's report found here cdc. gov/std/stats13/toc. htm? mobile=nocontent you'll FIND THAT THE LAST FEW YEARS STDS ARE DECREASING

[Joshua2332]

Although I agree, but not to the point where people should wait to marriage. I do think it takes a little longer than a couple dates to have sex with someone. The reason why girls give in so easy is simple. Girls are emotional creatures while men are not. So when a guy pops the idea of sex, the girl thinks if she gives him what he wants, then they will eventually start dating. Obviously this rarely happens. And people give into peer pressure like none other. Most people who have casual hook ups do it to either boost their ego or to not be labeled as a pansy. There are very few people on this planet who enjoy sex because of the way it feels.

I wouldn't say anyone who has had intercourse before marriage is a slut.

[Asker]

Thanks but i differ. im 19 still a teenager but i am positive and its a pritty good assumption when i say less than 30% of girls today will wait till marriage. The truth is my reality. Prior to this modern age women were more faithful and valued the sacredness of abstinence even if it took a decade. Now look where were at. Girls will engage in coitus in matter of hours after they met a guy in a bar. Sleeping with their best friends boyfriend. What is this? This is disgusting and demeaning. Where is the dignity? the cleaniness? the purity? its non existent. This doesn't go for all girls but for more than less it does. Lets not be naive. Any man or a woman thats quick to exchanges sex for love is not only naive but eas and slutty with no dignity.

[Joshua2332]

If you think this didn't happen throughout time then you're 100% wrong. The only reason why it seems like it happens left and right is because the media glorifies it. You didn't have the internet or TV back then so it was exposed as much as it is now. According to your logic, me getting drunk last night makes me an alcoholic, but I rarely drink.

[Tractorbeam]

@Asker, you can forget about 30%. Less than 3% of the population are still virgins when they marry. Premarital sex is not immoral, unless it involves something like cheating or adultery with a married person, so don't claim any connection between sex and morality. Sex is not impure, either. Are your parents dirty because they had sex? Of course not, because sex isn't dirty. In the 1950s, 11% of the population married as virgins. They married a lot younger in those days, and there would be almost as many 25 year old virgins now as there were then.

[musicbrain5]

Okay... I can see what you're saying about people having sex on the first date or just one nighters and never talking to each other again. But you can't make everyone wait until marriage, that's crazier. And yeah, it's offensive that you say everyone who had sex before marriage is a slut. I just got married but had sex with him before that, but he's the only guy I have ever been with. That doesn't make me a slut. I think it's important to wait until you're in a committed relationship before having sex with somebody. If that means marriage for you, that's great. Not everyone should have to follow that rule though.

[Asker]

you see your comment brought a smile to me. Im happy for you both and may you stay united. If one truly believes they are in a committed relationship than tie the knot. put a ring on it. Make it official that you can't see yourself with anybody else. Make him your husband. Make her your wife. Girls who have sex before marriage are sluts. now i know that accounts for a lot of girls. If one girl sleeps with 50 different boyfriends in her life one at a time that is slutty. If a slut (and i hate to use the word) has coitus with 20 different men both these women are demeaning and filthy. The girl who can abstain and value sexual abstainence is more strong willed, cleaner and purer. Less irresponsible and more careful and patient. Some women and a lot of men now a days will engage in sexual acts.

[Asker]

with random strangers they met at bars, pubs and nightclubs. is this what we should teach our children? or inform them of a wiser choice for the benefit of humanity

[EllaC]

We can be very horny as well, so bite me. I would never give in if I didn't want to do it.

[Asker]

Men will never respect women who dont respect themselves. I get urges too im a virgin but lets realise the value here. Like i stated earlier your unlikely to hear at least two of your friends remaining virgins till marriage. Why not to have sex with a true loved one not with your first/second/ or third date. How much sex have you had with boyfriends/hook ups that have now left you with nothing?

[aficionado]

Well... I personally would never want to have sex until I'm in a committed relationship with someone I love (I wouldn't go as far as saying I'll wait till marriage, because I may not). But that doesn't mean I think its 'wrong' when others do it, irrespective of gender. The number of people one has sex with, before or after marriage shouldn't be a problem as long as there was mutual consent, with no force of blackmail.

[Asker]

funny the girls thumbing up your comment won't express their opinion. Every relationship should be committed. But if you're truly in love you should tie the knot to signify what you and your partner is Husband and Wife. And yes your past does matter just like it does at a job. When you want new employees do you want one of a criminal history with aggravated burgurlary, assault, murder and rape or someone with a college degree. Lets not be naive. I dont want a partner with a long history of violence and disorderly conduct its indicative of who they are. One does not value the true essence of abstinence if they have sex before marriage. Theyre no longer clean they've lost there purity. Sex should be reserved for when a couple can commit to joining in hold matrimony and commit to life of commitment not for a week or a month or 90 days or a year but for life. I dont see that happening and i feel its our responsibily to educate and teach such values.

[aficionado]

How could you even equate crimes like assault, rape, murder etc. with consensual sex? That analogy doesn't work. I too would 'prefer' to wait until marriage, and I'm sure of waiting at least until I'm sure that my first time would be with someone I love. And you want to wait till marriage as well. Nothing wrong with that. But people like us shouldn't really be judging others negatively for having different sexual preferences than us. For example, I also happen to be an atheist. Its just my preference, and I can't really go around saying people who are religious are 'wrong' just because their views are different than mine. People have different views and beliefs about almost everything, and we can't always claim that our view or opinion is the ONLY right opinion.

[Asker]

should we not inform people of making better choices? do we not all judge one another? does the jury not judge whether or not one is guilty or innocent. judging others is a part of life. In school programs we teach and educate teenagers about sex. And a big part of that is taking responsibilty. We do this in hopes of them making the right choice cause there are wrong choices. Enlightening them of the issues surrounding it its consequences, the responsibilities. Because we know sex embodies more than just a physical sensation. It engulfs feelings of strong emotionts, trust, belief and spiritualism between both you and your partner. Which should be shared between soulmates.

[aficionado]

"Because we know sex embodies more than just a physical sensation. It engulfs feelings of strong emotions, trust, belief and spiritualism between both you and your partner. Which should be shared between soulmates. " - I personally agree with you on this one, but a lot of people have other views. For them,. sex is just another form of enjoyment. And its not really 'wrong' if they think about sex in that way. 'Better choices' is subjective. For you and me, of course waiting until marriage to have sex is obviously the better choice,. But for many others, having sex may be the better choice instead of waiting really long for a soul mate and thereby missing out on the experience of sex. As adults, people are responsible for their own actions. As long as someone isn't breaking the law, he/she should have the freedom to live their life the way they deem fit (which includes sex as well). If they indeed have sex when they shouldn't, then they're responsible for the consequences.

[Tractorbeam]

You're very likely to marry a girl who is asexual, and doesn't even want sex AFTER marriage. There's about a one in 6 chance of that, and an even better chance that she won't be interested in a regular healthy sex life.
1% of marriages in the USA are never even consummated. Could it be the virgins who are doing that?

[Ihav2fart]

Why are you trying to brainwash the girls! You're making it hard for us horny men!

[Chronick]

What is wrong with you. Lol.

[Anonymous]

After all that I seriously hope you are a virgin and are saving it till your married.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to tell you man. Not everyone has the same morals, and not everyone has a lot of willpower. Some are addicted. It's just how the world works.

[Anonymous]

You make it sound like sex is a matter of a man taking advantage of a woman. What a sad mentality.

Here's a thought you should consider... sex is something BOTH partners enjoy and it's a beautiful and GOOD thing.

You need to pull your head out of your ass.

[Asker]

I never once said that -.-. stop assuming and read properly. And dont tell me to pull my head oit my ass when your too blind to see the reality. The truth hurts learn to deal with it loser.

[Opinion Owner]

You sound like you have a stick up your ass; is it there to scratch your head?