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Why do guys want to have sex without a condom?

Okay my boyfriend is in California seeing his extended family for Christmas and over our many conversations on the phone, he wants to have sex without a condom when he gets back. I don't get why guys want to have sex without a condom when there is so much risk? Yes i am on the pill, but I don't feel that is enough protection. He keeps saying he wants to feel me skin to skin, blah blah blah. We have been together over a tear and we are planning our future together, but i don't want an unplanned pregnancy to derail those plans. I have asked him why is it so important to him to go without a condom and he just says he wants to experience the first time without a condom with me. I have never had sex without a condom and I am scared to try it. So guys does it really feel that much better without a condom? I am scared if we do it once without a condom he'll want to do it all the time without a condom. I have friends from college and high school who just used the pill and many have kids now, so that's why I scared to just use the pill as protection. Does sex feel completely different without a condom for guys? What about for girls do we feel a difference?
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  • It's very simple. They get more sensation without a condom.

    It sucks that we don't have something better.

    But YOU can tell your boyfriend - "I'm sorry. I have a policy. I want to use condoms until I get married." or "We will each need to get STD tested and show our results to each other before I'm comfortable without a condom." or "If you don't have a condom on, I will be nervous the whole time and for weeks after. No thanks."

    You do not need to agree to sex with no condom. You don't have to agree to this, or agree to it now. Your body, your decision.

    It IS great that you're asking questions and getting some input. I want you to make the decision that is best for you.

    I personally had years with my first husband where my birth control pills were the only contraception we used. No pregnancies. Birth control pills are very effective. My second husband prefers using a condom. We've only had a few times of not using one. I've had years I went off birth control and only used condoms with him. No pregnancies.

    With my other male lovers, there's really only a couple that I haven't used condoms with, and it has been under very special circumstances.

    At the very least, I would have each of you STD tested before going bare. Even with condoms, there are STDs that can be passed, and there are some that are transmitted sexually and non-sexually, so even a virgin can have one.

  • Well I have an IUD so when I have sex with my boyfriend there is no need for a condom. It's like birthcontroll pills but hey stick this thing up you the OBJYN it hurts for a few days. But the satisfactory not using a condom for sex makes it AMAZING. the first time I had sex using a condom there just no feeling of excitement. The reason why I have an IUD Is because they wanted to test out for young woman who have epiepsy. If its safer with out taking the birth control pill. So since I have epilepsy they used the study on me. But you can still get one even if you don't have epilepsy. But overall just take a chance enjoy the sex without using a condom for one time.

    • I have an appointment with my lady doctor in February and I am planning on getting a IUD then.

    • There very helpful. When they inject it you get cramps and you notice spotting. That is perfectly normal. But I would wait a while to have sex with your boyfriend. When he gets home you should tell him there isn't anything to worry about since you have an IUD. Describe what it is I mean he might know what an IUD is but he's still a guy lol. My boyfriend who've I've been with for 5 months I decrbed what it is. I bring some oil that helps make the feeling when your boyfriend goes inside you less painful. Message me if you have any questions after you get the IUD. Which one are you getting? I have the Maria the best part is when you have your period it only last like 3 days.

  • Ok completely being honest here- yes, it does feel better if the guy isn't wearing a condom but believe me- it's always in the back of my mind basically every single time the consequences... It def won't be better tho if ur not comfortable with it so, don't feel like u need to! Ur boy should understand that :o)

Most Helpful Guys

  • 1. The most primary thing in us or any living thing is procreation and hence the mind is hardwired for achieving the same
    2. Thanks to this the mind also thinks that a condom is an obstruction to pleasure - another way of nature hard-wiring our heads to edge towards procreation
    3. Another reason is it's more of acceptance (another psychological thing hardwired into us by nature) like in a BJ guys love it & feel accepted when she swallows thus even in intercourse it feels really complete when we expend ourselves completely inside the girl
    4. Finally ofcourse it feels much much much better w/o a condom :-D but if the partner is trustworthy else stick to a condom :-)

  • My favorite condom analogy is this:

    I'm gonna take you to your favorite restaurant for your favorite meal, BUT, I'm gonna ask you to wear a balloon on your tongue. Do you still get to sit in the restaurant and enjoy the atmosphere? Yes. Do you still get to order your favorite meal? Sure. Do you get to chew each bite, and have the meal nourish you? Of course.

    But did you ENJOY the meal with anything close to the enjoyment you would have had with a bare tongue? Absolutely not.

    And that is exactly what sex with a condom is like for a guy.

    • Great analogy.

    • Well done!!!

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  • Yes it feels a lot different without a condom. The best way I can describe it is to put on a latex glove and suck on a finger while moving it in and out of your mouth then do the same thing without the glove. Now imagine that feeling multiplied substantially because there are a lot more nerves in a man's penis than in your finger. So yes, it feels a LOT better without one. All I can say about how it feels for a girl is that I've been told it does feel a lot better without one. If you are on the pill and have been taking it as prescribed then you should be fine. Yes a condom provides more protection but I can see why he doesn't want one on. I see both sides of the argument. The choice is up to you but to answer your question the feeling is a LOT better without a condom on.

  • I've had sex without a condom plenty of times and in all honesty to me at least it feels 100times better.

    • Thank you for your opinion, it's nice to have a woman's point of view.

  • It does indeed feel dramatically different. If you faithfully take your pill, you're safe. If you let yourself believe that, I hope you can imagine the greater feel of intimacy that comes with bareback and will give him the full, unencumbered joy of your tight pussy.

    • The pill is not always so effective though, even if it's taken every day and used correctly. Other medications can make it quite ineffective as well, especially antibiotics. I think the best bet is the IUD. I hear more accounts of people getting pregnant on the pill than I do of people getting pregnant with an IUD.

  • Yes it feels different... But you hold the line. You have much more at risk than he does.

    • Yes that is very true, but he also has a lot to lose, he starts med school in the fall. I don't want to be like my parents who had to get married.

    • i know what you mean, but you are assuming he isn't going to run off if you were to get pregnant. I am not saying he would, but you have no idea. anyway, just my two cents.. best wishes.

    • You're right.

  • Well technically the pill is sufficient as long as it’s taken properly. Personally, I definitely prefer doing it without a condom. Once I’ve been dating someone for a while we usually stop using condoms. We know neither have an STI, and if she’s on the pill the chances of pregnancy are really low.

    You can also look forward to male birth control in a few years. They are currently studying a plant that destroys sperms ability to swim. The local tribes make a tea from the leaves and drink it 30 min prior to sex. The studies thus far show it is the most effective form of birth control. You can actually buy the plant and have it shipped to your place. I’ve considered it. It’s great for long term relationships. But too inefficient for hooking up with someone.

    Just thought I’d give you an alternative lol.

  • Condom is like a 3 out of 10, where as skin to skin is 9/10 out of 10. Yes it does feel that much better. My wife was the same way. We compromised. We would have condom free sex for a little bit, then I would put one on to finish.

    • That's a good compromise thanks for sharing.

  • sex without a condom feels undoubtedly better for the man and also the woman. and just as a point of fact the pill is about 99% effective against pregnancy so the condom is added protection but not entirely necessary

    but of course if you are uncomfortable having sex without a condom then that should be the beginning and end of the conversation and he needs to respect that

    yes sex feels much much better without a condom. trying putting on a latex glove on one hand and rubbing your hands together then take the glove off and rub your hands together... sex without a condom feels about 1000x's better than that

    • "and just as a point of fact the pill is about 99% effective against pregnancy" I just saw this on "The Doctors" sometime this last week (I'm not an expert, just repeating info): The Pill is only 92% effective... and that is only if she takes it religiously. 30% of women miss one or more doses every month. w w w. t h e d o c t o r s t v. c o m /videos/secrets-you-shouldn-t-keep-from-your-ob-gyn HTH

    • it's up 99% when taken as directed... per WebMD, NIH, WHO, AMA, etc not sure who doctorstv is but I'd trust the national institute of health and world health organization... either way it's effective when used correctly

  • sex without condom feels much better for me and from what we hear all the time from guys it's not different for them. so it's like you said, he want's to know how it feels skin to skin.
    but if you don't wanna do it, tell him. don't let him force you doing it. or you can try to pull out before he cums. not 100% safe but even with condoms there is a theoretical risk... your decision

  • It's a night and day difference. Honestly, sex with a condom sucks. I'd rather have a hand job.

  • Cause they wanna feel skin to skin
    Or cause they wanna get u pregnant

  • Sex barely feels like sex with a condom on.

  • Certainly enjoying a girl bareback is more pleasurable

  • If ur partner is using extra dotted condom than its bit different but using plain condom than much difference
    Coz without condom ur skin come in contact with ur partner site skin so more rubbing n more pleasure. ... don't worry about pregnancy just take two pills within 24 hours of sex that's better..
    N if u both r not infected than its safe honey... enjoy it

  • Because condoms lessons the sensation. Once a guy goes condomless going back really really sucks...

    • That's what I thought, once he does it once without he will want to do it all the time without.

    • It's true! When I had to go back to condoms it sucked ass!

  • Because it feels better. Same as the other guys who have said the same thing. It still feels *good* with a rubber, don't get me wrong. But it doesn't feel *great* with a rubber.

  • Because guys pretty much feel absolutely nothing with sex when it comes to wearing a condom.

  • Take the pill every day, at the same exact time. Put an alarm on your phone and keep those pills in your pocket. It's time to start raw doggin it.

  • Condoms ruin the feeling, ruin the penetration.

  • its the natural way

  • Condom make sex feelings lesser

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