Girls, if a guy held your head and came in your mouth, would you be mad at him?

[Anonymous]

My friends with benefits was going down on me the other day, and right when I was about to come I held her head and came in her mouth. She didn't seem upset or say anything about it at the time, but she hasn't returned any of my texts since then. I think she might be mad that I came in her mouth in an aggressive way. I never know where to draw the line when I'm being aggressive in sex. Girls, would you be mad if a guy came in your mouth when you hadn't really discussed it with him?

[LovingLife139]

I think the main issue she might have with you is the fact that this wasn't discussed beforehand. It doesn't sound like this was something she had really agreed to, and in the heat of the moment, there was little she could do to stop everything before you came.

Would I be mad if this happened to me? No, but that's considering I'm married to a man who knows I like this kind of thing. If I hadn't discussed this with someone, I would expect him to ask me if I was alright with it beforehand (even in a dirty talk type of way, if things were already heated). If he didn't ask and did it anyway, I would find that quite inconsiderate and probably wouldn't be looking to repeat what had happened. I doubt I'd be looking to have sex with the man again.

Here's the thing: it sounds like you weren't entirely sure that what you were doing was wrong, and I also understand what it's like to be on the verge of an orgasm and be desperate to just get there already. Ha. It doesn't sound like you were trying to be inconsiderate or disrespectful, but your intentions aren't louder than your actions, particularly to the people they affect. If I were you, I'd let her know that this is bothering you, and you should apologize for what happened. If you're willing to talk about what's acceptable and not acceptable for the both of you in the bedroom before it comes time to happen, tell her that.

As for where to draw the line when it comes to being aggressive, that totally depends on each individual woman. It's super important to be clear on what each partner wants before attempting to follow through on things, but I'm sure you're already figuring that out. :) Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks for your reply. I'm worried that if I apologize she might find that creepy and lose interest in me. Our relationship started out with me being super aggressive and dominant with her, which she's always loved.

[Anonymous]

Would I be mad. YES! If you tell me that you want to have an "aggressive BJ" or ask to face fuck me that's one thing, but when you do things to force someone to do something you're not even sure their comfortable with is honestly so disrespectful. And she reacted a lot better than I would have, I once had a guy try to FF me and push my head down. I told him to not do it again and he did. He found himself thrown out of my apartment with his clothes in his hands. Not a smart move. You want to force me to do something I'm not comfortable with, well now you know what it feels like.
Just ask in the future, or even just say it out loud "Let me hold you and cum in your mouth" That way she knows what to expect and has an opportunity to say know and you still feel in charge because you told her to do this. But honestly how would you like someone holding your head while you had a banana shoved down your throat that was leaking a liquid? You would be pretty upset.

[Asker]

"But honestly how would you like someone holding your head while you had a banana shoved down your throat that was leaking a liquid?" Well, she's a hetero girl, so she enjoys having a dick in her mouth. She's gone down on me dozens of times. I didn't want to harm her at all, I just thought it might be hot to hold her head.

[Opinion Owner]

Theirs a difference between knowing your own limits for how much dick to stick in your mouth and having someone else choose that limit for you. And just because she's straight and likes to give head, doesn't mean she wants it SHOVED down her throat. It is hot to hold her head, if she knows or has agreed to it. Things shouldn't be decided for her.

[Asker]

I don't try to throat fuck her or anything like that. She controls the amount of penetration because I'm pretty big and that's the only way it works without her gagging. But think about it: if a guy stopped to ask you if you were okay with him touching your butt or penetrating you, you'd probably lose whatever excitement you had. Guys have to walk a fine line between being too aggressive or not being ballsy enough.

[Opinion Owner]

Having either of those things done to me without asking is fine, but when it's rough and aggressive it's a different story and when you try something new and you don't know their interested. Again telling her what you're going to do and giving her a clue is not being a weak man. You don't feel bad about the situation so why are you asking what people on GAG think?

[Asker]

No, I do feel bad if I offended her or hurt her. She's made herself totally vulnerable to me, and I respect that. There are two guys at our school who are totally in love with her and she chose to have sex with me, so I *never* take her for granted. Girls always think that guys are these horrible users without consciences just because we like sex and will kill ourselves trying to get it.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think mos girls think that, and those that do sometimes like that characteristic on guys. A lot of girls are the same way. It's hard to not want sex all the time when it's so ficken' fun! Just text her and tell her your sorry if you hurt her and want to at least know she's alright. I understand you have a "dominance" thing, but outside of the bedroom it's okay to show you're human!

[Asker]

Ok, thanks for your thoughtful responses. I will apologize via text because I don't want to lose her as a friend or as a sex partner.

[muliebrity]

that is so hot!

I think it might be safer to not do any extremes until you really know her boundaries. We're all so different in this aspect. Most of my gfs love the soft, slow, passionate kissing thing ALL THE TIME. I find it quite boring and unsatisfying.

Just ask them next time before doing it.

[muliebrity]

thanks for BA

[Ihav2fart]

It would depend on the girl. Some who like rough sex and like to be dominated would love it. Those who don't and dislike the taste of cum wouldn't

[Error_204]

You establish that pattern early. Out of the blue it's just awkward.

[SoccerDiva]

I would probably kill you if you did that. I don't like when a guy cums in my mouth and if he did it without at
least asking me first I would probably never sleep with him again.

[Asker]

I'm afraid that's what happened. The problem is that guys have to be aggressive, so we can't stifle ourselves. Hopefully she'll give me another chance.

[SoccerDiva]

You can still be aggressive without doing things like that. I love rough sex but hate when guys cum in my mouth.

[Asker]

She likes everything else aggressive. Honestly, I've never had a girl get mad at me for aggressiveness. I think girls get madder when guys aren't aggressive and act like timid pussies, which is something I *never* want to be. I'd rather be labeled as too aggressive than as timid and weak.

[KimmyB]

I guess it depends. I mean, if the guy really needed that control to push him over the edge, or if that was him warning me b4 he came, then maybe in the heat of the moment it would be ok. But in general, I'm going to let him cum in my mouth anyhow so having my head held down would not be my preference, just saying! :o)

[Nylena]

I'm into such stuff but most girls probably aren't. you might be lucky that she liked it but like @LovingLife139 said you should discuss stuff like that before, else it could go very wrong

[Asker]

It's just that almost all the girls I've had sex with have liked aggression. In fact, I didn't become sexually successful until I learned to be strongly aggressive with girls.

[bhabygurl]

It depends if I love having cum facials on me or not.

[JackKerouac77]

These thing should be discussed beforehand or before the event. Common courtesy.

[lisaj123]

i would love it! I feel so sexy and hot when i get cum in my mouth and on or inside of me.

[meatballs21]

Discuss it? Way to spoil the moment.

Ladies, guys cum. Don't give a blowjob if you're not prepared for that eventuality.

[Anonymous]

yes i would be mad if my friends with benefits came in my mouth without informing me he is going to cum. i would slap him hard. also i always make it clear before sex where he should do that. as for holding my head, well, i would not like it to be too aggressive

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be mad its pretty sexy

[Asker]

I was hoping she would too. She accepts my aggressiveness and dominance in general, but I know that some girls don't like the taste of jizz.

[Anonymous]

Depends how it was done. If the entire act was "aggressive" then I don't think I would be mad, but if it wasn't and you suddenly grabbed her head and held it there then... maybe. I think I guy should give some kind of warning so the woman can pull away if she wants.

[Anonymous]

That's actually extremely hot to me but I'm sure most girls would disagree.