Do guys find girls getting embarrassed cute/sexy?

[Tszarina94]

Okay a little background on me and my situation may help. I'm 21. I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years. He's the only one I've slept with, so obviously I'm not super experienced with sex. Anyway. So I was having sex with my boyfriend and I guess I got "wetter" than usual. He made a comment about it and my cheeks got red and I couldn't look him in the eye. He chuckled and poked fun at me for being embarrassed. It seemed to me that he was a little more turned on by the fact that I was a bit embarrassed, but it was hard to tell. Also I've never purchased condoms before and I told him I was scared to buy them because I didn't want to get the wrong kind. He laughed and said "you've never bought condoms before have you?" I said no, my face got red and he just gave me a look like he thought it was cute or something. Do guys like it when we're embarrassed?

[ThorTheThinker]

Well, I did not get turned on when I read that. I smiled, and got a warm feeling of joy. The feeling "cute" is a feeling of care and friendship. The feeling comes from our late ancestors.

Now, let me answer that question cutiepie: All guys and girls have fetishes, so he might get turned on when you get embarrassed. But I just think he loves you, and cares for you.

"FACT; A test result shows when women get shy or afraid men get a warm feeling, this feeling can set the chanse a for the man to fall in love a lot higher"

[Tszarina94]

Thanks! I figured he thought it was cute or something. Lol It's very hard to read him. When we were having sex and I was embarrassed, the sex sort of changed. It's hard to put the difference in to words though.

[ThorTheThinker]

Well, I can't tell you exactly why because I don't know exactly how it changed. But my guess is that he got less turned on. The feeling cute, and the feeling you get when you are turned on are two very different things. When you blush, you show the sign of embarrassment, witch triggers your mans protective and careful instinct. Meaning that instead of wanted to mate with you he gets the feeling of defending you, witch becomes a bit awkward and uncomfterble for him. But the mood can quickly get turned around if you just ignore it.

[Tszarina94]

Good to know. Obviously it didn't affect it too much because we had sex like normalish. I mean it was also a new position for us too. Maybe that's what was different. I guess the only way I could describe the difference was it was "dirtier?" after I got over the embarrassment it was intense and lots of eye contact but again, it could just be because we were in a new position. We're really close and love each other a lot, but it wasn't making love. This was straight up "fucking" I guess. Sorry for the crude language and the details. I'm just new to sex and I'm trying to figure my man out. What makes him tick. I've tried getting him to verbalize what he likes/doesn't like, but he's not good with that stuff. It makes it hard to know what pleases him. I ask this question because if it is a turn off, next time if he says something that embarrasses me, I'll just try to move past it without letting it show. I can't really help blushing, but I'll just try to be as normal as possible.

[ThorTheThinker]

No no hun you got me all wrong. Your a nice and wonderful person from what I read. And a part of that wonderfullness comes from your personality, and the embarrassment is a part of it. He loves you for who you are. So never change at all. He would not be there if you weren't who you are. want to know something funny, from the sounds of it your a young couple. Even guys have these thoughts in a young relationship, so he's provably thinking of the same things right now. Go ahead and ask him what he thinks, he's your man, your partner, he's fine with you asking him. Trust me. :)

[Tszarina94]

Thanks. I appreciate it lol. Yeah we are. I'm 21 he's 25

[bam191]

It depends on the guy. Plenty of guys think it's cute, and like it when girls close to them get embarrassed on their behalf. There's no real general answer to give because, as I said, all guys are different. Clearly your boyfriend likes teasing you when you're embarrassed, and finds it enjoyable.

[Tszarina94]

Thanks! I appreciate the answer :)

[DaGuy]

Yea it is a turn on for most guys I know along with myself for a girl to be embarrassed about somethings, especially the things you said you where embarrassed about.

[Tszarina94]

Thanks! I appreciate the answer. Do you think it's the "innocent" aspect? That's the only thing I could think of. Maybe it seems innocent or something. Oh, also he's 4 years older than me.

[DaGuy]

Innocent aspect is kinda the reason but for me it's more a feeling of accomplishment being able to not really embarrass you but for something to happen that you didn't expect to happen and it catches you off guard.

[Tszarina94]

Hmmm okay. Yeah. Just trying to figure you guys out lol. It's very hard for me to understand men's thought process when it comes to sex. He's my only partner so it's not like I have tons of experience with other guys to go off of. He's been with other girls so it's hard for me. He gives no feedback even when prompted. I just want his sexual experience to be good too.

[DaGuy]

If you want his experience to be good all you have to do is sleep with him. I have never heard a guy say that he had sex with a girl and it was a bad experience. I've heard of girls being a dead lay but never bad.

[Tszarina94]

What is a dead lay? Like they don't move at all or something?

[DaGuy]

A dead lay is a girl that just lays there and makes no sounds or movements. Basically she is acting like she is getting no excitement out of sex and is just doing it to do it.

[ThatGuy98]

I would call it "cute" when a girl gets embarrassed but I guess somebody can get turned on by it as well ^^

[Tszarina94]

Okay cool. Thanks :)