Is my boyfriend fetishizing me?

So I'm in an interracial relationship right now (I'm black he's white) and we've being seeing each other for about 2 months now. He's really sweet, but seems very curious about our differences (he likes playing with my natural hair, likes touching and commenting on my skin, often calls me chocolate) I think it's just natural curiosity, but my friend said she thinks he's too intrigued by our differences and is fetishizing and that people only date outside their race for the "experience" I think that BS, but I'm not sure I've never dated out before. I'm not sure what to think. Is this normal, or a fetish.
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  • I know this sounds lame but true love is colorblind. If you guys really love each other then I would assume it's perfectly natural to explore each other. If you truly love someone that you have a fetish for does that make your love any lesser? I don't think so personally. Hope this helps!

    • I see what you mean and to a certain extent I agree but I don't want to someones freaky little experiment.

    • I don't think it is a fetish so much as it is just his way of showing he loves your body.

  • Dump this dude, he sounds creepy. I've been in a lot of interracial relationships and I never notice that we're different races. If he's making a big deal about your race, get rid of him... it probably won't work out.

    • what do you mean you haven't noticed you're different races? surely you must, even if its of no significance to you.

    • Probably should have worded that differently. I mean when I'm with her, race is so insignificant that I never even think about it.

Most Helpful Girls

  • All of the things you listed him doing are what normal guys do to show affection. Him playing with your hair and commenting on your skin is him showing you affection. My skin tone is pale to an extreme and my fiancé likes to comment on it a lot, also. Does that make it a fetish? No.

  • Its normal fetish but I find it offending. I would hate it if guy dated me only because I'm black.

    In this case I'm not sure if he is fetishizing or just likes the way look, he adores it and wants you to know aswell. Does he have some stupid stereotypes about black people?

    • no he doesn't have any stereotypes, like I said he's a sweet heart, I think maybe I'm being paranoid; I don't want to ruin a good thing because I'm being overly analytical.

    • Well it doesn't sound like a fetish. If he had a fetish for black girls he would propably include his weird stereotypes of black women in the relationship.

  • Has he ever dated outside of his race before you?

    If yes, what are his reasons, this will lead you to your answer.

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