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Why do I enjoy masturbating to fb/instagram pictures of my female friend? Do I fancy her?How to text her/when/what to say without being nervous?

There is a girl who I know. I met her just as she was moving abroad, but we keep in touch. As she was moving, I didn't try anything and just stayed friends. I did think she was really hot and seemed like fun. Despite the distance she contacted me often on our work messenger. As I got to know her a little more when we chatted on IM, I started to really like her. Eventually I moved firms and lost the IM ability. The frequency of messaging went down after this, but then eventually I got her number and we've started to text each other. Most of the time it is me initiating, although she has started to do it recently too. Once she said she was tied up and then she randomly video called me. I was so nervous I didn't pick it up! I wonder whether I fancy her? Thing is I saw her pictures on instagram and found them hot. She looks sexy and so pretty. I ended up masturbating to one with her mouth open. It feels really hot to do so and I end up laughing almost when I see her smiling in a picture like that. I get nervous when texting her, and excited if my phone buzzes and it's her. I'm not sure when/what to text her and at what time given the time zone difference. I also dreamed about her twice last week. We had a romantic date and then passionate sex afterwards and all night. DO I FANCY HER? WHY DO I FIND PICTURES WITH HER MOUTH OPEN SO HOT? HOW TO BE CONFIDENT/LESS NERVOUS TEXTING HER?
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@Caren-Field What do you advise on this pls?
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  • Ok well I can definitely help you here

    This happens to most guys, where they become really interested in one girl and that's who they can think about it. I think fancy is a bit too forward, if you don't know eachother too much. But if you just know her and talk to her from time to time I would say it's more like a crush as your interested in her because of her looks. There's nothing wrong with that because that's how nearly every relation begins.
    To be more confident when texting her, I would probably talk to her and ask her for her number before texting her. This was if she gives it to you, you should be confident as by giving you her number she's saying she's interested and wants to chat sometime. If not why would she give her number.
    Sometimes it is nervous when texting cos your not sure how she reacts or if she is going to even reply and what she thinks of you, so it's fine to be a bit nervous
    This also shows that you really like her as you only get nervous when you really want something.
    But anyway,
    I think you probably just like wanking off to her pictures and especially ones with her mouth open because that's some sort of fetish and that's how you would imagine doing it in real life, so you do it to pictures with her when she's in that picture. If that makes sense
    So basically your fantasy is to cum in her mouth, or have some sort of oral sex with her.
    So do you fancy her, maybe and in some ways, talk to her a bit more in person if you can. If not message her, but say anything but her, or what's up.
    She will have loads of guys saying that so be creative and unique when texting her to make her interested. Like refer to one of her pictures or one of your previous conversations.

    Hope this helps and let me know if you need anymore help and advice

    Hope it goes well with this girl

    • Thanks! Yes I know this girl. We met briefly in the UK at uni. She moved abroad for work and used to IM me every day at work (office messenger). Evenutally I asked and got her number. She may visit occasionally or vice versa. I think you could be right about the wanking off to her pictures. I find her attractive and once dreamed of having a romantic date and then passionate sex, including cumming on her face. I really do think she is pretty and love her personality too. Just wish I was brave enough to tell her she is hot. I get nervous whilst using whatsapp with her for some reason compared to other female friends. Could you read my original post with the details? When I text, she does tend to respond enthusiastically. My heart races when she responds and I get excited to hear from her. I don't know whether she likes me. She used to initate all IM. Texting has been me mostly, but recently when I have not texted, she started to message me?

    • I think I am attracted to her, but as I got to know her through IM/texting, I think I might fancy her. She may not be the one, but I would like to go on a one on one date with her or meet up when we are in the same neighbourhood. She is really fun! This is the first time I really have felt excited about a girl's picture in this way, so maybe that means something? Even her whatsapp picture I find hot? Thing is not sure if she likes me? Why do I get nervous texting her and how/when should I text her? Also the video call thing, I got scared because I looked scruffy at the time and had no privacy to talk, but when I texted back, she just continued texting. When/how should I text her to display attraction to her? Any nickname or flirty things I could say? Should I just initiate most of the time? I was also wondering about flirty/good things to open with rather than what's up? Advice EltonBond?

    • Also, what do you make of her video calling me spontaneously? Is it possible to text her and tell her she is beautiful? Any flirty nickname for her? Should I/how would I video call her? Sorry for the questions, you know your stuff!! Thanks!

  • Wow, You are really clouded aren't you. To be honest, i think you are stuck between fantasy and neverland.
    fantasy of having those open lips around you, and neverland of never making a move if those lips are around you. In conclusion, you are suffering from a very severe case of infatuation brother... not cool.

    • So I fancy her? I may have.. erm imagined her lips around me occasionally. Also her on top of me. Trouble is I am nervous when texting her. Does she like me you think? How do I up the flirtiness given the distance via texting? Is it possible to tell her I think she is hot/pretty?

    • I think its possible to tell her anything. My recommendation is for you NOT to. You are infatuated. She will notice and she will push you away. I say work on not being so obsessed about her before you talk to her again.

    • I see your point. I mean I have fapped to her picture recently, but a lot less than before. Also in terms of dreams, that hasn't happened for a while. If anything, I erm.. may have imagined banging a different female friend who was wearing fishnets and looking hot the other day! I don't think I am obsessed about her anymore. I would like to be part of her life tbh. She's a very hot and fun person and also Asian like me. But I think I do like this one. I'm worried, because she used to initiate everyday at work. Nowadays, in terms of texting, it's more like 30% of the time. Although, when she does, god it feels good. I wonder whether she misses me texting, is that why? How to get her to miss me? I'm worried about not texting her in case she forgets me. But I want to keep the messaging flirty. How so expert?

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Most Helpful Girls

  • You have this Huge crush on her and of course Long distance makes this even more between this rock and a hard place for you, pshah2... she is on your mind constantly and it is quite Normal for you end up masturbating to a pix that you see which you find Hot to Trot because you are envisioning yourself having real Sex with her.
    However, if you do not initiate any video chats with her, it isn't showing much on your own part that you are willing to keep this LD Anything going and flowing with her... you Need to keep the lines wide open and not just rely on Texting. And of course, with video chats, one never knows what can happen between the both of you.
    I have a husband out in Egypt and right now, although estranged, Skye was always out best connection for making love and doing face to face to keep our relationship going for as long as we could. However, it does take two people on each end to make the effort and take the patience.
    Go easy, don't wear your heart on your sleeve just to end up disappointed or even with a broken heart. If you also want to keep this from going dead in the water, make some arrangements to somehow visit one another.
    I feel the more you text, for you can think this out before you push the button, the easier it will get and if you can do video, you really should. This also gets better as you practice to make it perfect... like anything you are striving to do.
    Good luck. xx

    • Thanks a lot, this is so helpful! Yes I think I do fancy her. I am nervous what to send to flirt with her. I am worried she might not respond and so have been witty and humourous but have held myself back. I would like to tell her I think she is so pretty/hot/sexy, but am nervous!! The video chat, she called me once and I was asleep owing to time difference. I texted her back next day as I didn't know if she was busy on a Friday! We ended up having a texting conversation. I wanted to see her in video, but I was worried about the call as I am with my folks atm, so not sure about privacy. When is best to video call her? I mean, we've texted since at Christmas, but I'm not sure about calling her out of the blue. I am so nervous when it comes to her. I do find her attractive and yes have masturbated to her picture with her mouth open. Find her face so gorgeous. Advice on how to be flirty with texts and on the video calling? Just text? Should I suggest a video call and how?

    • You're so welcome.. happy to oblige... go now and enjoy your New Years, dear...:)) xxoo

    • Video chat whenever you both have the time and you can get on the same page as to your time zones... my husband is ou tin Egypt so we used to video between 3Pm (My time, his was9 or 10, depending) But do not make yourself too sex filled for her, it could scare her off.. go easy with the compliments and just be lite and friendly and go slow. Yes, this is normal of course, you want to make love and it is hard being u are in this situation... just relax, do not over think anything.. give her a chance to see the Real you.:)) xx

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  • It sounds like your sexual attraction for her is very high, making you act weird, which is normal. When we are attracted like this, our bodies release chemicals and our brains are flooded making us "drunk." This is why they call it chemistry. There's not much we can do in a situation like that because the chemicals interfere with our logic and reasoning centers. I wrote a myTake about first date conversations with insight that might help you to be less nervous.

    • Saw it, very well written! Yes I guess I fancy her then? I seem to be nervous when texting her. So this is normal that she sometimes enters fantasies? For some reason I really feel excited when I see a picture of her with her mouth open.

    • It's with her pictures in particular I seem to think about these things.. is it possible I fancy her?

    • @Bellibooo What do you think about this girl?

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  • You defo fancy her, you like the pics with her mouth open cos it makes u think about cumming in her mouth. I know cos I've sent open mouthed pics of myself for my bf and he said that's why he likes them. Just be honest as per previous comments but leave out the wanking part :P

    • Actually that makes sense! I have imagined.. erm.. cumming in her mouth! It's something about the way she has such a pretty face. I do think she is hot, but I'm nervous when it comes to her. I was worried about asking her out before she moved. Now she's abroad, is it possible to flirt/up the texting? She may visit now and again. Even her whatsapp picture, I find hot! Your advice expert? =)

    • by the way, why did she video call me suddenly? Also, should I mention that her open mouth pictures look hot?

    • Yea flirt with her sounds like she likes you and that was why she was video calling you. Don't mention hot photos sounds stalkerish. But actually complimenting her will go down a lot better!

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  • Yes, you like her. A LOT.
    Try being less nervous by not thinking about her so much and next time pick up the call.
    Maybe visit her a couple of times - real contact will help.
    Ask her out, see what happens.

    • Yes I do think I like her now! I'm trying to wean myself off so I am less nervous. I did it once by not initiating and suddenly after a while she did. I would like to visit, she lives abroad that's the thing. Hoping it will happen or her over here someday soon. I'm worried about asking her out or displaying my interest in case of rejection/losing the friendship given that I don't see her often enough as it is. Thing is when I did get back in touch it was after she called again, but I wasn't really my best (there's a time difference). She looked incredible as she had just come back from a work meeting. I told her she looked great, but literally I was at my folks. She said to call back whenever, she's free...

    • Cool. Seems like she likes you too. I'm not saying it's a 100%, but you should try something. The thing is, would you ever be able to look at her as anything other than a potential girlfriend? If not then there's nothing to lose. =)

    • Should have nailed down a specific time, but I rang her back that weekend but there was no answer. Second time the next day she sent a text back saying she was out and call in a bit. I was a bit annoyed because of the delayed response, and I was really tired, so I buzzed her back saying no problem, have fun and let me know when you're free. Eventually, to break the ice again, I texted her a week later asking how her arm was and wishing her well. Despite me asking a question, she came online whatsapp suddenly and said "Hiiii!!!" What was I meant to do? I didn't know, so I waited... I feel silly and confused now! I still dream about her and erm.. I really like her whatsapp picture with her mouth open, but have decided to just wait. I feel like it's me doing all the talking, and I find that hard over text because there is less to respond to, at least initially. Normally she gives me stuff to talk about by talking about herself. Is she interested? Just wait?

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  • Understand that she likes you.

    • Does she like me? She texts back.. but I don't know.. How to text her and up the flirtiness? Also if there is a time difference, when best to text? I wish I could just tell her, by the way I think you're really pretty!

    • Then just fucking tell her that. Maybe not share that you jerk off to her pictures, but be honest and open with your feelings toward her.

    • Does she like me though? Also she lives abroad. Advice? I want to be part of her life.

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  • Well... at least your testes work.

    • I think I may have a crush on her. Why is it I find pictures with her mouth open so hot? I really feel happy when I see those of her. How best to text her?

    • "I think I may have a crush on her.", huh. Would never conclude that one. Are you certain? "How best to text her?", tell her to send you a picture of her molars. Her mouth will be open and then you can just wriggle all up in there.

    • Haaa... for some reason though I love to look at her with her mouth open? Maybe, but seriously, how best to text her and how often? What to say to make it clear you are interested, but not too forward so that she might blank the text?

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  • Of course you like her and you like those pictures because you find her attractive

    • What makes you say? I think I do think she is hot... and I do love pictures with her mouth open? What to do as she lives far away?

    • Well then your pretty much screwed lol try finding a girl who has open mouth pictures closer to you lol

    • Is it all right to continue and also how to keep in contact with this girl for potential visits to each other's?

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  • @pshah2 Hey man you again... all you gotta do is get to know her a bit then you pop the question later but don't get friend zoned and yes you want a blow job from her I don't know you might have a fetish I don't know man

    • Agreed. Trouble is met her when she was about to move abroad, now I am keeping in touch over texting. For some reason I really love her pictures with her mouth open. Yes, I have fantasized about that with her. How to be flirty and not be too friendly by texting/whatsapp? How often to text her and what to say to be suggestive and not too friendly?

  • seems like you love her...

    but then it's normal in this regard... perhaps tell her you love her?

    • She lives far away though, and I'm not sure it's love. Maybe a crush though?

    • @Levin this is the same girl here.. do I fancy her? How to be confident to text her and what are the best openers? As in , is a how's it going all right?

    • @lkn4urluv @asianchic @businessbabe88 Thoughts?

  • This is a pretty common thing pal, I do it all the time and really enjoy it

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