The answer to your question is always no. ALWAYS. It doesn't matter what the circumstances were or are or what he said to you this time or whatver. You are being used. Strung along. It's just a booty call. Let me guess-he calls you randomly, you meet up, you hook up and then you don't see him for another week or two.
Please read "Act like a man, Think like a lady" by Steve Harvey. It talks about this from the guys perspective so once you read that, you won't be able to kid yourself its leading to anything else. Steve said that guys are very territorial over their women so if he's not calling you his girlfriend after six months, then its just a booty call. And you've been seeing each other for NINE months and still nothing! He knows you and your family so he's not going to ditch you either because it would be awkward for him at family gatherings etc. Honestly just cut contact with him asap. Delete his number from your phone, delete all the texts, get rid of all his photos.
You need to raise your standards. You can do better than this. You clearly want a proper boyfriend which is totally normal but you'll never get that with this guy whereas you could with someone else. The longer you spend with him, the more time you're missing out from meeting someone who does want something serious.