Advice on my upcoming FFM threesome?

[kiwikelsey]

Im about to have my first threesome tomorrow (FFM) with a guy that has been my 'friends with benefits/sex buddy' the last 3 months and another girl (relatively a stranger to both of us). Just looking for some advice as I'm now getting a little nervous! Him and I aren't in a relationship but even the fact that we are sex friends makes me feel like he's more 'mine' then hers. Has anyone had experience with this and a heads up on what my emotions will be like afterwards? (I leave the country in a month so if all goes wrong at least I never have to see either of them again) Also... I've never done more than kiss a girl. I am not bi in the slightest, don't even know if i'm bicurious (yet!) haha Any advice on how to go about this would be appreciated! Im not sure if I would be able to pleasure her! Need help ASAP... less than 24 hours until shit gets real ;)

[Red_Arrow]

I hope you realize that this is a thing you should have been asking a while back, not when you are down to the wire.. This also points out a problem with FWBs. Even that is all he is, you are feeling a bit of jealousy sharing him..

Another bad thing here is that you are doing this to please him, not yourself. It should be mutual.

If you had questioned this before, you could have set the ground rules. Are you going to have a problem watching him screw her? Will it bother you to see his face in her pussy and his cock in her mouth? Will this just be him getting to screw both of you, or will the two of you be expected to interact? If she eats you out, you will be expected to do the same to her. Is that okay with you?

Are you 100% sure that she is disease free?

He is likely going to want pictures for his "memories". Are you okay with that?

All the advice in the world can't make a hell of a lot of difference if it is something you are not ready for and don't know what is coming. (No pun intended.)

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

Just go with the flow. Make sure there's plenty of foreplay to ease you into the intimacy of the situation (both with him and her), if you ever start feeling remotely jealous that he's giving her more attention just remember that fact that you're moving in a month.

As far as pleasing her goes, you'll be better at it than you think. After all, you know exactly what a woman likes.

[Anonymous]

I'm just curious, if you're not even bicurious why are you having a FFM threesome? I can't imagine it would be enjoyable to you. What are you going to do part way into it when you aren't feeling it?

[kiwikelsey]

my thoughts to myself exactly! Well I've enjoyed simply hooking up with girls.. I just am unsure about heading down south on a girl. I'm clearly doing this more for him (which yes, I know in itself is a bad sign) but I can see myself leaning towards bicuriousity... he wouldn't pressure me to do anything I don't want to her, thank goodness but at the same time I wouldn't want to offend her if I don't want to replicate an action on her that she's done to me!

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, okay. Thanks for clarifying! Well, I'd just start slow until someone suggests something more. Work your way up to it. Have someone kiss him while someone is giving him a blowjob. Make it about his pleasure. Both of you give him a blowjob at the same time. One ride his face while the other rides his dick. While one of you is having sex with him, the other kiss and play with the other girls nipples. Keep the focus more on him until you feel comfortable enough to try/think that you will like it. And what you said about not doing what she does to you, if you go first you won't feel like you have to replicate it. You can set the pace.

[kiwikelsey]

thank you! That was just what I was looking for! Have you had one before?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I haven't actually. Like you, I have only kissed a few girls. And almost always after I had a few. I have definitely thought about it but I haven't been with anyone I've been comfortable enough with to bring it up as a possibility. Just have fantasized about it and watched a lot of p*rn haha. That's another tip! Watch some three way p*rn . Not the hard core stuff, but maybe some amature video. Just the stuff you would feel comfortable doing to see what positions they use, etc. Good luck and I hope you enjoy yourself ;)

[JennieF]

Relax and enjoy.

[Anonymous]

You'd have to be bi curious, at least, to want to do a threesome with a girl. I mean, there aren't many women who are straight (if any) that would want that.. i don't really recommend "planning" to have sex though. It looks too, suspicious, it should just happen naturally. I don't recommend having an friends with benefits either

[Anonymous]

Lol at women who claim sex buddies

[Anonymous]

Get her a strap-on and call it a night! I mean, two would be better than one, right? ;) Other times, just keep playing master and servant.

[kiwikelsey]

lollll

[Opinion Owner]

haha let me know how it goes!

[Anonymous]

Just be prepared for the reputation you will get from this. Not just for now, but later when you husband learns of it... Perhaps he will like it, perhaps he will ask you to do it for him, perhaps he will find it a turnoff... Either way, he will hope his mom doesn't find out, lol.

[kiwikelsey]

wise words! I've thought about this and I figure now is the best time to try it. I'm young, single and living abroad... but I still definitely get your viewpoint! As an older guy, what would your thoughts be if a girl you were serious about told you this is what she had done when she was younger?

[Opinion Owner]

I am personally not into threesomes. I dont share well ;) I would think it is wild at first and maybe a little cool. And then later I wouldn't want it known as I dont want my wife viewed that way by friends, family, co-workers or future children... Things like that will get talked about. I also dont like having to keep secrets and they grind on me. It would be a turnoff if I found out about it early on and it would be a breach of trust if I found out late into a relationship. For me, I wouldn't like it in a SO.

[kiwikelsey]

okay thank you! Has given me something to mull over

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. Good luck, just remember to be sure before you do it.