While sitting on a guy, both fully clothed, can he feel a girl's vagina pulsate while she's on top? How about if she can feel his penis pulsate?

[Anonymous]

I'm a virgin, never had sex. I'm waiting for marriage, and he says he'll wait for me... But I was wondering if while we're making out, and I'm sitting on his lap, and can feel his erection, can he feel it when my vagina occasionally begins to pulsate? When this happens, I usually raise my body up a little until it stops, but I try not to make it noticeable, so I continue kissing... But I wanted to know if we're both fully clothed, maybe I'm wearing jeans, or tights, and he's wearing jeans, or maybe light fabric shorts, if he can feel the pulsating of my vagina. I thought the answer was "No, he can't feel it unless you're having intercourse.", but last night, while we were making out, he had on shorts (the material was not thick) and I had leggings, after his penis became erect I felt his penis begin to throb, so I was wondering if he could feel my vagina pulsate as well whenever it happened. My pulsations aren't controllable. It's more of a vaginal contraction, but multiple contractions pulsating rhythmically, and whenever it happens, I shift, but I'm sure at least 2-4 pulsations occur before I shift. I didn't want to ask him that question, but I wanted to know if he could in fact feel it if I were to stay on top of him and not shift so that my lower body wasn't touching him whenever this happened. Side note: I'm a virgin for personal reasons, so I've never gone this far before, or felt these vaginal pulsations before him. We spoke about sex, and I told him that I wasn't ready, and wanted to wait until marriage. Since he's being so respectful about "no sex until marriage", I didn't want to bring that up with him.

[Sarcasm13]

The pulsing you are feeling is blood flowing through your vagina which increases sensitivity to the nerve endings there. With that said, it is impossible for him to feel your vagina pulsing. The best comparison I can think of is if you smash your finger with a hammer or door. It will throb but someone can't feel that throbbing if they grab your thumb. What we can feel as men is slight contractions while the penis is inside you because the vagina "squeezes" the penis as it contracts. Women can also feel a man's penis "twitching" while it's inside and outside the vagina because it is an "external" organ. As one commenter wrote, we can feel the warmth and moisture if the clothes are thin enough but we can not feel the throbbing.

[Asker]

It feels more like my vagina is contracting, than slightly throbbing though. I'm not quite sure how forceful it would feel to him, since when it happens, my vagina is literally sitting on an erect penis (with clothes between those two organs, of course), but it's really noticeable to me, so I wanted to make sure that he can't in fact feel that. It doesn't only contract once though, it contracts multiple times for a few seconds, (maybe seconds... I'm assuming it's seconds, but it feels more like minutes) and it only stops when I take the intensity of my kissing down a bit, and kneel a bit higher so that I'm not sitting on him. But it stops after a bit, and I can sit back down, and it doesn't happen again for a while, and if I'm lucky, for that day. (I've read a few questions on here, & got that answer as what was happening with me, but I could only find answers to questions asking if he could feel those contractions while they was in the middle of sexual intercourse, not fully clothed).

[Asker]

Oh, and whenever I am going to see him, I make sure to wear a panty liner, or a thin pad to avoid situations where he would end up feeling the moisture, but I'm not sure if it would help with the warmth...

[Sarcasm13]

I see what your saying. Yeah, he can NOT feel what your describing. What he can feel (which REALLY turns us guys on) is the fact that your warmth and moisture increases substantially when you get horny. That's your bodies way of preparing for him to "enter" you. Other than your warmth and moisture, he can't feel anything else unless clothes are off and his penis is inside you. Either way, don't be embarrassed. You like him, he likes you and is both your bodies' way of reacting to that. Don't hide it. I applaud you for waiting until after marriage by the way. Regardless of the reason!

[Asker]

Thank you so much. You guys are really helpful.

[Sarcasm13]

No problem. Glad I could help!

[Sarcasm13]

Thanks for MHO!

[Asker]

Thank you for being so honest, and responding. You were very helpful, and didn't make me feel uncomfortable asking these questions at all. And me being anonymous, really helped. ;)

[Sarcasm13]

No problem. I'm not on this site to make anyone feel uncomfortable. I'm also not on here to give answers on things I don't know about. I'm glad I was able to give you your answer. Make sure you enjoy the time with your boyfriend and don't let this embarrass you. It's perfectly normal. If he really is the one and you two get married then look at the bright side, your honeymoon honeymoon will have been worth the wait and you two will have an incredible first time with all the built up sexual tension. Until then, relax and have fun.

[Asker]

Thank you. I'm sure it will be. I'm so glad that the internet is around to ask all of these questions. :-)

[VeryBiFun]

You really can't feel your pussy pulsating unless you are both in thin clothes and you are grinding a bit on him.

He will feel the warmth and moisture your pussy is putting out though.

[Asker]

I have made a point of wearing a panty liner... or a thin pad every time I'd be put in a situation where I'd end up seeing him. After the first session, I will never be caught without one again.

[Blondiee2014]

He might be able to feel it through thin clothes but not through jeans.
You can feel him pretty easily though.

[Asker]

So females can feel males pulsating more than they can feel us? That's good to know. ;) I'll make sure to wear jeans more often.

[Blondiee2014]

Well yeah because you stuff is I side your body where as our is outside. Like you know you can tense your pelvic muscles? That's what we do and it actually moves are penis which you would easily feel if you was sitting on it.

[Asker]

His felt more like a pulse like from the extra blood flowing to his penis, but mine was more of a series of contractions of my vaginal walls... But I was not controlling it, it just happened randomly. But the issue is that it was not gentle, it felt pretty strong, so I figured that it was possible that he could feel it too.

[AleDeEurope]

If a part of his body is touching your vagina, he can feel it, but if your vagina isn't touching anything, he won't. It's not like the pulsations are super noticeable.

[Asker]

It happens spontaneously while I'm making out with him, so I never quite know exactly when it's going to happen, so it tends to catch me off guard... part of his body (his penis with his clothes, and mine between us) is touching my vagina when I get caught off guard by it for a few seconds though. I try not to jump or make it obvious when this happens though.

[TadCurious]

I have no idea if a guy can feel your vagina pulsate through all those layers of fabric, but after reading your excellent and detailed description I can't help but think it would be almost cruel if he couldn't. lol

[Asker]

Lol, but it would also be super embarrassing.

[legslover79]

i am more than sure he can feel your vaginal contractions, but doesn't want to make you feel uncomfortable. its natural for women to get vaginal contractions thoo. i myself find that very attractive

[legslover79]

i guess im the odd ball here since you didn't see my comment. sorry for bothering you

[Asker]

Wow, I'm sorry for that. It must have been after I responded to the others (I hope I didn't skip you while answering) Thank you for your response. (I'm super late in replying, lol.)