Oral sex on the 3rd date?

Question

I recently went on my 3rd date with a man (he's 40, I'm 30) that I really like and I feel that he likes me. I told him on our 2nd date that I didn't want to have sex with him until we had some kind of commitment because I've been with men in the past that only wanted a casual relationship and I hated it. He told me that he understood. So up until that point we only made out. 

last Saturday I came over to his place and we watched a movie. After the move was over one thing lead to another and I performed oral sex on him. He didn't force me or anything like that and he stimulated me as well. We still didn't have actual sex, we just held each other all night (he's big on cuddling). The next morning he cooked for me before I went about my afternoon (I didn't leave until 1pm). He's taking me ice skating this Saturday. 

I'm wondering if I could be considered a hypocrite by having oral sex with him but still withholding actual sex. Also, I'm wondering if he could lose the same respect for me that some guys lose when they have sex with a girl quickly.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sex is sex to me... you might as well give him the cookies, since you gave him oral lol. I'm totally opposite... I always hold off on oral first. I'll have intercourse with a condom on when I'm just starting out dating before I'll give oral sex. In a new relationship I have to gain my partner's trust & feel very comfortable with him before I give him oral sex... we'd have to be together at least 4 months.

Findingmyway · Accepted Answer

I see nothing wrong.. If you had fun than all is well.. Sex is meant to be when you are both emotionally and physically ready.. Not based on a certain number of days.

Reddr · Accepted Answer

Your relationship, your rules, no hypocrisy possible. Choosing to take it a small step further is simply progress towards the commitment and having sex.

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

I don't think you're a hypocrite. I'd recognize in his situation that things were moving forward, chemistry is good, but there's a decision to be made soon about whether we're going further or not, and your rule makes perfect sense to me.

Nothing in his behavior suggested he viewed anything negatively.

Jumaru138 · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong. It's the third date, i think it was about time to go further. But since you had oral sex, on next date it's time for actual sex.. Did you enjoy your 3rd date?

FallenAngel92 · Answer

Hey if it was good you'll see him again, if not he'll cancel and you'll never hear from him again.

TheWiseOwl · Answer

He's picking you up on Saturday? So I don't see the issue, he maybe one of these guys that likes a woman who puts out early? Just go with the flow and see what happens.