Can your boyfriend really love you if he wants a threesome all the time?

Question

My boyfriend wanted a threesome with me and his best friend. I gave in to please him
We had fun however he wants to do it again.
I really don't care for it but it did turn him on big time 
I want to make him happy but I feel if he really loved me he won't share me.
But then I think we are older adults ( late 40)
And both divorced that some crazy sexual adventures does mean he doesn't love me.
Need some advice

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

I think different men express their love in different ways. I'm not one to share with another man.

I can certainly understand why you feel the way you do. That said, I don't think love is something we should test like some women seem to think is okay. Sit him down over an intimate drink out somewhere and just ask him how he feels about your sex life. Then tell him you love him but that you'd like to feel more valued, cherished and treasured than you do now and that the problem is his compulsive need for threesomes. Ask him what he proposes to do about it and then shut up and listen to both what he says and, more importantly, what he doesn't say.

If I ever had a threesome (not likely since I'm even older than you), I'd want a MFF trio with the other woman being a stranger, likely a pro. I don't want any hurt feelings like what you're going through. I'm not at all sure what role the other woman would play. My knee jerk reaction is that she'd be a whipping girl (we're into BDSM) and lick support while the lady and I have sex. My lady loves to be eaten and I'm not a big time muff diver so if the third was into eating pussy, I'd be okay with that, I think.

voraciousone · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say it means he doesn't love you. I would also say that once or twice for fun is fine. The problem becomes when he is not satisfied with "only" you. If monogamy no longer satisfies him than that does not seem like what you are looking for. You are beautiful and there are too many guys out there to waist time or play games.

smokahontas · Accepted Answer

Of course he can still love you! He is just into threesomes.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

You have to be into it for this to work out... otherwise aren't you kinda having sex with a guy you don't want?

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

there are couples that are into that thing and they can make it work but both have to be on the same exact page.

alicewhite · Answer

I am sure he loves you. he is just into threesomes I guess.

BamLife · Answer

I'm way to jealous for a threesome at all. Even with another woman involved. I will say however that if she wanted to have another woman join in that it would have to be the other woman and I making my girl the center of attention and making it all about her. I don't share and my girl doesn't share either.