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I think my boyfriend wants to go down on me, but I'm scared he won't like what I've got down there... guys, how picky are you when it comes to a girl?

I've never had a guy go down on me because of moral reasons and all. My boyfriend has the exact same morals as I do and he upholds them well, so it's not like he pressures me at all into anything... but in the heat of the moment, sometimes we get a little carried away and I'm pretty sure he wants to go down on me, considering he's asked me when I'll be ready for something like that. Basically my question is just surrounding my insecurities... since I've never had a guy go down on me, I've never had approval of what I've got goin on down there. I shave, so it's clean, and I don't think it's anything abnormal, but I get anxious thinking about what he'll think of it, and if he'll like the way it looks or not. Guys, what makes a girls vagina more appealing to you?
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  • You have the same morals as he does, which is what, exactly?

    Your virginity is so incredibly special, you will be bonded to this guy for the rest of your life. That is how virginity works... it was designed to be the first memory you have of being intimate with your husband, the man who has devoted his life to you, to loving you, to being your best friend, who denied his impulses, and what he wanted (i. e. sex) and got to know you outside of that, on a level deeper than this world can understand.

    What you are saying is that it is okay to forgo that, that what little foundation you have is good enough, and that you are willing to give him the one thing you can only ever give one man only one time in your life...

    Without him giving you his life commitment.

    I will tell you what will happen next, he will begin to lose interest with you, because you already gave him what he wanted, there is no where else for him to go. There is no more mystery about you, since you gave him your body.

    Don't believe me? Search this website about the girls who wonder why the guy suddenly wants nothing more to do with her now that she has slept with him.

    Do you have value? Does your body have value? You can never get your virginity, or the bond with this guy back. You are more valuable than you can imagine, as is your innocence.

    If you think this is the man you want to hold you, care for you, and love you for the rest of your life, abstain from sex, get to know one another, because sex will cheapen your marriage vow before he ever has a chance to say it. I am counseling a couple right now who had sex before marriage, and it has affected them greatly even though they knew one another for ten years before getting married.

    Do not make the mistake that countless couples have had. If he is honorable, if he truly loves you, he will wait to have sex with you until the honeymoon.

    • Well we're both Christian & our morals are to wait until marriage. I don't think you have enough information to correctly judge the situation, as you don't know the details. I'll fill you in, he's my best friend, my other half. We're like the exact same person & without intimacy, we already feel so connected to eachother, which is amazing. We know eachother so well. I do value my virginity & I want to honour God, which is why I want to wait. But it's not all about me, HE values his virginity & wants to honour God as well. Sometimes it can be difficult, as we're both 19 years old & extremely attracted to eachother, but we fight the urge. I'm not saying this will happen tomorrow but we've discussed that in time it may be tough to fight it. He denies his impulses and respects my body, he's a complete gentleman who puts my best interest at heart. He told me he wants everything with me. He also gave me a promise ring because he said he wants a lifetime commitment, just me & him. That's all.

    • That is beautiful. The way you worded the question I thought you were going to give in and take the easy way out. Yes, it will be tough, and yes, it is going to be difficult. But the reward for being steadfast will literally last you the rest of your lives. I believe if you were to have sex the day before you got married, that it would harm your marriage, because God is a just God. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." If you were to have sex seconds before marriage, you both would be committing what the Bible calls "Fornication". You have found an honorable man, do this right, and the reward will last you literally forever. Do it wrong, slip up, screw up, give in, and the curse it will bring may destroy your marriage, I have seen it time and time again. Learn to flee temptation, please, do not even open mouth kiss.

    • About your original question, us men are hardwired to be as visceral as possible, you needn't worry about anything. God made you exactly who you are, to suit him exactly, to complete him totally, and he will love every thing about your body like his soul depends on it, because it does. There isn't anything a man who truly loves you will want to change about you. You are alright. You are beautiful, and he will show you that on your honeymoon- not a day before then.

  • I have yet to see a vagina that was not appealing to me.

    You have nothing to worry about. He will love it and be fine with how you look.

    When you are ready, let him go down he will love it and so will you.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I was nervous too the first time, but honestly, if you just relax and don't over-think it, it can be incredibly pleasurable. It'll feel so good you won't even care what he's seeing or what position you're in. You just have to give in to it. Also, let him know what's feeling good and all that so he has some pointers.

    Other than that, just practice good hygiene and a healthy diet, and you'll look and taste just fine.

    • It's really reassuring to hear that I'm not the only girl who gets really nervous when it comes to things like that. Honestly, I think it's because it hasn't happened yet, so the more it does, the more comfortable I'll get. But thanks for the pointers and advice, I'll keep this in mind :-)

    • No problem! :)

  • If you want him to, just let him :) be confident. If you are healthy, you don't have anything to worry about

    • Thanks for the advice... confidence really is key! Your comment was super helpful, thanks girl :-)

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  • There are two reasons for why I won't go down on a girl: smell and taste. If both are disgusting, like, needing to puke, then I won't go down, but I don't expect her to smell like roses.
    Smell and taste yourself, see how it is. If it's bad, then make some changes in your lifestyle, because luckily, if it smells and tastes bad, you can change that.

    Regarding looks, I don't care how it looks, a vagina is a vagina, all of them have the same function.

    • I totally get that, and it's the same for girls, like if a guy didn't seem very hygienic, I wouldn't go down on him. I don't think smell is something I'd have to worry about, I'm very clean! Thanks for your input, it's super helpful :-)

    • If you're clean, then don't worry about anything, let him go down on you, you'll be glad you let him. You're welcome! :)

  • i'm not very picky when it comes to vagins... as long as it isn't hairy of course

  • I think pussy is very appetizing. You say its shaved so sure he will love it. Nust layback and enjoy it.

  • All of the vaginas are beautiful in their own way. Relax and enjoy cunnilingus and penetration.

  • Your Shaved Pussy Will Turn Him On!
    You Have To Get Over Your Moral Reasons Before Letting Him a Lick Your Pussy!
    It Will Be An Amazing Experience For Both!

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