Don't question it too deeply! LOL. He might be like me... I love taking a girl over the top orally, getting her super wet so that penetration is diving into the wettest, most wonderful place in the world. I like a really good BJ, and I always appreciate the effort and the result. Often, though, I'd rather get her super primed and absolutely requiring (demanding) penetration, and when she's that ready and wanting, sinking into her and totally getting into it.
Plus, you might have a particularly beautiful vagina and be super tasty, and with that, he might be thinking of nothing all day but snacking on your sweetness! Enjoy the ride, and remind him how much you enjoy his skills when you get your chance.0 0 0 0I know. I tend to over think things way too much. I'm guessing this is really why he does it.
You might be! So I guess posing the question is helpful. Next time you're having an orgasm beneath his tongue, think back to this question, and you probably have your answer! LOL.
I don't know if it's "normal" or not, but I wouldn't say it's necessarily strange, per se. I am the same way as your guy, actually. I prefer going down on my girl, because I enjoy giving her pleasure, and seeing her squirm.
It's not that I don't like blowjobs, they feel great, but a lot of women have had trouble going down on me. As a result, I get somewhat apprehensive when it happens now, and I spend more time thinking about her (dis) comfort while blowing me. Thus, I have a hard time relaxing enough to enjoy it.
It's just much more enjoyable, and less stressful, for me to just go down on her, that's all. It's not a reflection of her skills at all; it's just the way my brain works.0 0 0 0Yeah, it's possible that his previous girlfriends didn't like it so he thinks that I don't like it.
That's very possible. Have you talked to him about it?
A few times but the more I think about it, the more I think he really just does have a preference for going down on me.
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If he thinks you're bad at oral, then he should teach you how to be good at oral (with him).
0 0 0 0He doesn't think I'm bad though. I can make him cum with oral. His preferred way to cum is through sex and I'm fine with that (it's how I like it too and we are always safe). I just think that way because he refuses most of the time. He has taught me everything I know. I was just wondering why he may not like it and why he prefers going down on me instead.
Sounds like maybe he just prefers intercourse. No biggie.
1 0 0 0I for one, prefer being fingered to getting oral. It just stimulates me better. We're all different.
I think you're right. I'd just like to reciprocate more than I do.
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0 8of course it is
i prefer giving oral than receiving too0 0 0 0I gathered that from all the answers ;)
I'm a giver, so I'm always happy to go down and pleasure a girl. It doesn't mean you're bad lol I'm sure you're a great dick sucker lol that sounded mean :P
0 0 0 0lol well I like to think I am good at it.
Haha nothing wrong with that at all. You should be proud you have skills that can make your man happy just like he should do the same :)
I just wish he wanted it more!
Yes i rather eat girl out than get a blow job totally normal
0 0 0 0I see!
Yeah
This seems to be the general opinion among guys here so thank you.
No, I'm exactly the same way. It feels good, I just don't cum that way. I'd rather be the giver. Does he give a reason?
2 2 0 0Not really, and I've tried to talk about it. He just says that going down on me is enough. Making him cum with oral isn't my goal although when I do give it to him, he usually always cums that way. Then like 10 minutes later he's ready for sex.
While I can understand your frustration, if he says going down on you is enough, that might just mean it brings more pleasure to him than getting head. Does he have an issues with 69'ing? There are also some psychological possibilities, like maybe he experimented with a guy when he was younger and feels guilty about being sucked, but it's unlikely he would admit to such issues even if he recognized them. We guys are difficult animals to figure out sometimes. Don't take it personally, especially if you've had "success" in that area with him previously.
I guess so. He doesn't have a problem with 69 but it's just awkward to multitask like that. He's never had experience with a guy and he's never been sexually assaulted so it's not a hangup like that or anything.
If he likes doing that more than he likes getting oral, That doesn't mean you are bad at it necessarily. It means he loves eating you and it's a huge turn on for him. I work the same way.
0 0 0 0Thank you. It seems like a lot of guys are the same way.
Fuck yeah it's normal. I love eating pussy and so does every guy I know. I'd choose chowing down on some seriously tasty twat over a BJ any day. Well fuck I'm just a giver I guess.
3 2 0 0Yeah I completely understand that. I would just like to go down on him more without him refusing me.
Oh I wouldn't outright refuse. Maybe he has some body issue that he doesn't like seeing his penis in your hand or mouth
Possibly but when I do give him oral he doesn't seem to have a problem with that. I guess he just really prefers eating me out.
"I didn't think a guy would ever refuse oral sex."
Might I suggest that some of your insecurities are stemming from your sexist beliefs?
Anyway, most girls aren't good at oral sex, but isn't something a guy would hold against you or prevent him from accepting it, we understand a girl may want to reciprocate to please us and don't want her to feel bad.0 0 1 1I didn't know that was sexist, I'm sorry. I just thought that blow jobs are something most guys enjoy. I'm only insecure because he often rejects my advances. I don't want to be the one getting all the pleasure because that's selfish.
No need to apologize to me, but you may want to examine the other things you believe about guys, I would venture that isn't the only sexist belief you have. That said, your heart seems in the right place, so I wouldn't panic over it. Just be more mindful.
I only believe that guys are people who like sex as much as women do. I don't like feminism because women aren't above anybody.
No, he just prefers to give oral in stead of recieve.
1 0 0 0Yeah, I'm probably really over thinking this. I just like giving him oral though and I hate when he doesn't want it.
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